How to help a friend! URGENT!

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A friend of mine is trying/ has tried to commit suicide..
She's been like this for over a year, so I presume she's under heavy depression.. I seriously have no idea on what I can do to help her..

Talking to her has only slowed down her path of self destruction.. I don't want to see a friend go away like this.. Any advice would be helpful...Thanks in advance...
 
Hmmm.... well we studied depression in health class like 4 months ago so i could look in my book. Though i dont have it on me. I'll get it on monday though i dont know if i'll have school it might snow again from sunday through tuesday so you might have to wait for my reply. I could just ask my health teacher because one of her firends actualy commited suicide though she'd ask who it is and that would be complicated so i think i'll just get the book.




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I have a girlfriend that used to be like this. Just hang around with her alot and ALWAYS compliment her. It'll make her feel better even if she denies it...

Thats about all i can say.
 
Call the cops (Or some suicide prevention thing. Those still exist, right?). Your friend might not like it, but if you really care about this person, and they really are going to attempt it, and not just talking out their ass about it, calling the above (Latter if she hasn't tried, former if she has) will probably be your best bet.
 
was this involving a first (young) relationship?

Girls tend to get attached to their first boyfriends as do guys. I bet you all remember your first girlfriend and still even on good terms. A breakup with your first, whatever the circumstances, is devasting. My sis tried suicide after her first Serious relationship, and two young guys at work did too. All this after recently becoming an EX. the Feeling of being rejected is almost on par to not wanting to live :( if not worse.

do what Acid X said
 
After my first relationship (it was only 2 weeks..), i was distraught after the break up. Hahaha.
 
I think acid and ghost c have fairly good advice, depending on the severity. Making her feel better, by complimenting, will probably uplift her self esteem, and thus help her come out of depression. But if she is scaring you with depression that consistently comes close to suicide, professional help (which includes police and/our counselors) would be the best way to go...
 
Originally posted by kirkis9
was this involving a first (young) relationship?

Girls tend to get attached to their first boyfriends as do guys. I bet you all remember your first girlfriend and still even on good terms. A breakup with your first, whatever the circumstances, is devasting. My sis tried suicide after her first Serious relationship, and two young guys at work did too. All this after recently becoming an EX. the Feeling of being rejected is almost on par to not wanting to live :( if not worse.

do what Acid X said
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Well, guys that get attached to their boyfriends are fags anyway.

No joking aside, I have no experience in this other then you should just be nice to her and dont be selfish if she asks you for a favour or something. I didnt help much did I?

[Edit] Yeh I agree with Bengee and the rest of the gus though counciling would really help if shes depressed. I knoiw from personal experience its just nice to have someone who will listen but its better if tis a friend.
 
In the past when this has come up, it has been advantageous to remind the person in question how much they have to live for VS the one or two reasons they want to die.
There are very few things in this world that are completely insurmountable.
Also, let an adult in her world know that she has spoken of suicide. Put this girl in touch with a mental health professional. Someone trained to deal with this type of depression.
You may see this as "selling her out" but in the long run, if she is truly serious about killing herself, I cannot stress enough how much she needs professional intervention.
I know that as her friends you mean well, but you are not equipped to deal with this the way it needs to be dealt with.
 
this may sound dumb but is she serious?
3 main forms of suicide for girls, pills, slit wrists and hanging.

I know of 2 girls that have played with the idea of suicide.
One tried to top her self on paracetamol, the other has made small cuts to her wrists. I don't tnhink either have the strength to actually commit suicide but are just struggling abit at the moment.

My advice, tell someone about her. A friend or something, so both of you can make the desicion to tell the police, counsellors, her parents etc. Try and comfort her and be nice. And try to do teh reasoning that she might not want to do.
 
Slit wrists... That's what she's been doing.... We *my friends* try to stop her... But no avail... She keeps saying that not slitting her wrists makes her feel empty.. -___-...

No... It wasn't a first (young) relationship.

We've been trying to get her parents' attention onto this subject too.. But... She doesn't have the most caring parents in the world... They don't really 'care' for her like most loving parents do. It makes me feel lucky that I have such nice and loving parents... ><

Gil, 100% agree on the fact that there's way more things to live for than to die for. I'll try to keep pushing that fact to her.
 
Don't forget the professional help thing.
She can obtain help independent of her parents in most states. They will be brought into it after treatment is initiated.
By then maybe they will see that daughter needs to do more than SUIDO (Suck It Up, and Drive On.)
 
Originally posted by ExigeExcel
I know of 2 girls that have played with the idea of suicide.
One tried to top her self on paracetamol, the other has made small cuts to her wrists. I don't tnhink either have the strength to actually commit suicide but are just struggling abit at the moment.
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I know like 2 or 3 girls who have cut themselves, well one of them was attention seeking which is really sad because shes like not ugly or anything (That sounded really shallow but thats why she did it) and the other 2 im not really sure about. I dont think they'd commit suicide though.

I remember when one of my close friends dad died he was heaps upset and I found him "playing" with a knife and Im like **** dude you sure you wanna be doing that? I mean, how will your brother and sister feel? And in the end I took the knife of him and cut my own arm and hes like "thats disgusting" and I said "well there's gonna be a whole bunch more blood if you cut your wrist" and eventually he came back inside and stuff. I still have the scar and stuff but its serves as a reminder to my friends that theres always light.
 
Originally posted by halfracedrift
A friend of mine is trying/ has tried to commit suicide..
She's been like this for over a year, so I presume she's under heavy depression.. I seriously have no idea on what I can do to help her..

Talking to her has only slowed down her path of self destruction.. I don't want to see a friend go away like this.. Any advice would be helpful...Thanks in advance...
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Tell her to you will help her hold the gun against her head, it will show she is really faking it, she just wants attention.

Once a friend told me she was thinking about comitting suicide, I told her to go for it... she is still alive, four years later.
 
Originally posted by Mopar Muscle
Tell her to you will help her hold the gun against her head, it will show she is really faking it, she just wants attention.

Once a friend told me she was thinking about comitting suicide, I told her to go for it... she is still alive, four years later.
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That's the ****ing a$$hole way to do it
 
Just try to be nice to her and be with her as much as possible, ive kind of concidered it but was never to the point to do it, just try to cheer her up and i you acualy talk about this stuff with her say something like what would u do in ur life i wasnt here?, well thats how ill feel if ur gone.... that will work if your good friends because noone wants to see a good friend leave forever... ive talked to my friends like this and it opened my eyes and what would happen. it was wierd as hell.
 
yea.. a girl i know tried it after this one kid went out with her AS A JOKE. she did a terrible job as well, there was a small cut on her wrist about 1cm long which bled for about 2 minutes. she obviously did it for attention so that people at school would be nice to her. it backfired and now shes known as "wristsliter" and also has to go to counseling.
 
Originally posted by darklegion_ca
That's the ****ing a$$hole way to do it
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No, its the "youre a ****ing lyer" way of doing it. It shows them there not fooling anyone, and they need to find another more acceptable way of getting attention.
 
Originally posted by Mopar Muscle
No, its the "youre a ****ing lyer" way of doing it. It shows them there not fooling anyone, and they need to find another more acceptable way of getting attention.
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And what if she does it and she dies then what.
 
If she tells you shes going to, shes probably not. I can't be entirely sure on this because I don't know her. I'm a half-assed psycologist.
 
A half-assed speller too. But just try to get her to get help and offer your help to her any time she needs it.
 
I like mopar's way, although, I am a big fan of suicide. I certainly dont want any of my friends to do it, but if they REALLY want to, then who am I to stop them? Death is something that comes to us all, in some way, shape or form, in fact, death is the ONLY thing that is garunteed to happen to EVERYONE that walks this earth. So whats wrong with having a little bit of control over it? I want to die when I am ready to die. I should be the one who decides that, and nobody else. Who cares 'what you have to live for'? You're still going to die eventually, whether you do those things or not. And all your friends that dont want you to die? Well, theyre going to die too, and then, nobody will give a ****. Perhaps the only reason I havent killed myself is becuase I dont trust myself enough to get it right the first time. I dont want to end up scarred for the rest of my life, or not have the use of my legs, or spend life in a hospital where I have no control...so yeah. Thats what its all about - control. Its MY life, not yours, so you shouldnt be selfish.

So anyways - tell her that you dont want her to, do something like mopar said, and if she's serious, and you're a good friend.....you'll slap her for being a dumbass and being upset about something so stupid as a breakup.
 
i agree with Mopar, alot of girls hurt themselves for attention. The ones that are really suicidal are less likely to tell you. Do what mopar says tell her you'll keep her hand steady for ****s sake, and if she's still serious thats when you should get help.
 
Originally posted by darklegion_ca
That's the ****ing a$$hole way to do it
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You can play the role of a sensitive puss, if you are trying to get into her pants.

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You can be a friend and show her that you know she is just saying that to get attention and that her suicide lies are annoying.
 
Originally posted by Mopar Muscle
I'm a half-assed psycologist.
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You may only be half assed at psychology, but you got being an asshole completely figured out.

Telling anyone, especially a friend, to go ahead and kill themselves is not good for anything.

If you call yourself a friend how could you even joke around like that?
 

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