I'm a daddy.

Yes, you've heard it right. I am a daddy.

I have been dating my girlfriend now for about two years. We've been pretty serious for a while and our families have grown close. My parents and her parents go out for dinner often and they leave us to babysit her little sister. It's a great situation and I couldn't ask for more of a blessing from both of our families.

Yes, I'm a young daddy. How old you ask? I'm 18 years old. If you'll recall, a few months back I was freaking out about my families money problem with my mother losing her job. Just as you all had predicted, we're better now. It's amazing just how many jobs you can find with a college degree, even if you've been out of work for a while. Her family is comfortably set financially. My family has always been this way, and starting to get back to that state. I guess you could say it's an upper-middle class and middle class family situation.

I know I have stressful time ahead of me. I've yet to decide what I'm going to do about going to college. I graduated high school back and May, and am slated to start at Valdosta State University in the Fall. She was slated to start the same. We both decided to try and make our relationship last by going to the same college. I'm guessing maybe I'll go off to school and leave her here with the baby? I mean, I'm not sure if she'd want to go to school pregnant and have to stress all the time.

Our housing situation. Her parents are gladly giving us the basement of their home to live in. It's a full basement with one bedroom, one bathroom, a kitchen, living room, everything two kids could need. No more than we need either. We haven't been told a time frame in which we can stay there, but I'm guessing once I'm out of school, I'll have a few options open for me and will be able to get a god job and find a small apartment to live in until we can find a house to move into. Hopefully after she's had the baby she'll be in school and almost out and about to find a job too. Her mother is a real esate agent here in town, so I'm hoping she'll be on the lookout for some nice catches.

All in all I'm happy about our situation. It's not the typical kid who just gets a girlfriend pregnant then ****s both their lives over. To be honest though, I'm a little scared, who wouldn't be at my age? I'm a kid myself and in nine months I'll be taking care of a life. I'm hoping I'll stay with Heather for the rest of my life. I don't want to be the average man who grows tired after a few years and goes for a divorce. I strive to not be that statistic actually.

I know I'll be missing out on many experiances of the average teen growing up. It's just something I'm going to have to deal without though isn't it? My life has changed and instead of running away from the problem with an abortion, Heather and I, as well as our families, have embraced what we've created and have decided to run with it, heads held high.

Hey, I just thought I'd tell my fellow GTPlanet community about this. I hope for your best wishes. Any kind words or advice from fathers here at the Planet are and will be greatly appreciated. Thanks.

Stock up on sleep now. Try to relax with the kid. I was a bit nervous with the first one, but much more relaxed with the second. Fight with your girlfriend over the name of the baby especially if it's a boy. Women like to come up with yuppy boy names like 'Brody' or 'Griffin.' You don't want that happening to you. Be prepared to eat srange, new meals. Don't argue about it, just eat it. You'll be better off. Anchovy, pickle slice vanilla ice cream sounds gross, but it ain't half bad. Don't plan long trips no matter how fast the transportation. Tell your girlfriend to start taking vitamins. Especially folic acid, and other B vitamins, but don't let her over do it. Be prepared for the emotional changes. If she starts to nag about how you fold bath towels, just apologize and move on. Put headphones over her stomach when she starts to show a lot and play some soft classical music. It'll calm down the baby when it starts kicking. Learn how to give good massages if you don't already.

The rest you'll learn as you go.

Congratulations! 👍

Congrats! Good luck with your new family.

Solid Lifters

Stock up on sleep now. Try to relax with the kid.

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Very good advice. 👍 Probably easier said than done, though.

a6m5

Congrats! Good luck with your new family.


Very good advice. 👍 Probably easier said than done, though.

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Definitely. With my first boy I was real nervous everytime he cried for more than ten minutes of fell and bumped his head. I would go to my sister's house to see if he was alright or not. The second one was like, "Oh no! The baby bumped his head! He's bleeding" I was like, "Put a wet cloth on it. He's fine."

Oh, I forgot. For some strange reason pregnant women like to stay very active. Don't be surprised if you wake up one day and she's made 17 pies, three turkeys, a couple of hams, a roast pig, and a whole side a beef rotating on a newly made brick and mortar BBQ spit in the backyard. And don't be surprised if she eats all that food by the end of the day.

Solid Lifters

Definitely. With my first boy I was real nervous everytime he cried for more than ten minutes of fell and bumped his head. I would go to my sister's house to see if he was alright or not. The second one was like, "Oh no! The baby bumped his head! He's bleeding" I was like, "Put a wet cloth on it. He's fine."

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I remember, my mom told me same thing about me and my younger brother. With the first kid(me), she was really careful, but by the second one, it was like "whatever".

Solid Lifters

Oh, I forgot. For some strange reason pregnant women like to stay very active. Don't be surprised if you wake up one day and she's made 17 pies, three turkeys, a couple of hams, a roast pig, and a whole side a beef rotating on a newly made brick and mortar BBQ spit in the backyard. And don't be surprised if she eats all that food by the end of the day.

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Congratulations!

School will be important. It will be tough, but you can do it. A young guy I work with (he's about 22 now) was in your situation. He and the mother just got married recently. He's been working days and going to school nights. He works hard but he's advancing both his career and his education. So it makes sense if you can do that - like maybe go to Community College, to keep money coming in but also improve your lot. Then in 2 years when you've got your Associates degree, you take care of the baby and let her go to school too.

That way you both share the load and you both get the benefit.
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It will be a lot of work, but you can do it!

Solid Lifters

Women like to come up with yuppy boy names like 'Brody' or 'Griffin.' You don't want that happening to you.

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actually i wish i was named brody.

Rock on, man. Good luck with the whole thing. Two years, wow, longer than I've ever been with anyone. I'm pretty sure 6 months is my record..

Nicely done! :tup: It's great to hear that you ain't feel abandoned and scared, as people usually do. The mind is your biggest power, if you believe you can do it, you do. As simple is that.

Okay, I'm barely 15 so (luckily) I don't know that much about being a dad.
But one of our teachers and some of my freinds had a conversation about the importance of rituals.
Now you think 'WTF, that's some effed up teacher you got there', but it's not that kind of rituals you'd be psting in the 'Weirdest Site' thread.
He's a really deep person, doing yoga and stuff. He said that if a baby f.e. hurts his finger, first time he only stares at it and awaits a reaction from the parents. I've seen this myself when my 5 month cousin got his finger ticked in the door.
He sat on the floor and looked at the red and, now pretty big, finger until his parents rushed to him starting to kiss etc, the hurt finger.
But the next time the baby hurts his finger, it want's you to kiss the finger, or whatever you did the last time.
It's like a fotball player, when entering the court they usually have some kind ritual e.g. kissing the goalies head, tapping the penalty spot 3 times etc.

Okay, so to make a long thing abit shorter but still kinda long, it's all about how you do. You can raise him to be exactly the kid you wan't him to be! Stay Bamboocha! 👍

Congratulations.

I hope everything turns out alright for you and make most of the free time you have left.

Going to school, working, and raising a kid will likely make you the busiest and most responsible person on Earth. Don't forget to spend time with your future wife, your families, your friends, and file your taxes sometime in the 1.9 seconds you'll have left over after eating, sleeping, and bathing.

Good luck, Concept.

Thank you for all the best wishes.

Congratualtions and good luck 👍

Oh, I forgot. For some strange reason pregnant women like to stay very active. Don't be surprised if you wake up one day and she's made 17 pies, three turkeys, a couple of hams, a roast pig, and a whole side a beef rotating on a newly made brick and mortar BBQ spit in the backyard. And don't be surprised if she eats all that food by the end of the day.

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Homemaker syndrome. Or basically nest building.

Wow, congrats! Raise him well – playing GT4 and spending 8 hours a day at GTP and all that good stuff.

and am slated to start at Valdosta State University in the Fall

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Anyways,congratulations.

MachOne

Anyways,congratulations.

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I'm glad you like my avatar. It's ironic to my situation isn't it?

Congratulations on the baby! Please don't let it listen to ANY of the songs you have posted in the "What are you Listening to?" thread today.

911_Carrera

Congratulations on the baby! Please don't let it listen to ANY of the songs you have posted in the "What are you Listening to?" thread today.

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You kidding me? I'd rather have my child listen to those songs than go to college one day when he's old enough. You can't grow up as a child without those songs. They are timeless and will be put through headphones onto his moms stomach in the coming weeks and months.


Yeah, no joke.