When in doubt, I try and slow down my pace a bit. The co-driver does seem to give the instructions a bit late for my tastes. Maybe it's a setup issue, but the car feels like it is floating well above the gravel surface (tall, narrow and not sitting on the ground), snow feels a bit better. I get a similar feeling (but far more pronounced) in the NASCAR special events. I can't put my finger on it, but the NASCAR and Rally special events just feel different than the rest of the game somehow.
FINALLY, Someone else that thinks that the pacenotes are LATE as hell.
Ok As far as rallying, I consider myself an avid rally driver. I have done a lot of time on games and recently some time on my car. I am going to post some things here, but if you have a chance to go through the Richard Burns Rally game, and the Richard burns rally, then it will help a lot.
One thing that I use is that rally cars are like boats or jetskis, they only turn when you give them gas. When you are in slipery surfaces, you have to steer with the acceleration and the wheel is used in as follow 40% for set up the turn, 40% for correcting oversteer the other 20% is the normal turning you see on a road car or tarmac rally.
Weight transfer is very important in rally. When you transfer the weight to the front of the car (hence gravel rally setup suspension is softer than on tarmac) the front wheels will have more grip and there you can start the turn entry. There is two ways of doing this. Lift of oversteer, which is when you lift of the gas all at once in one motion while entering the turn and as soon as your rear end comes around you are back in the power. (Use this for turns that are 4 or higher or faster turns) The other way is to use left foot braking which will move the weight to the front of the tires and thus giving you more traction in the front to start the over steering. Then just control the power slide with gas modulation and wheel correction.
Another turn is the Scandinavian flick which takes a lot of practice to perfect but once you can put the car into a controlled slide and get out of it, then you can start playing with the flick which is very useful on 90 degree corners or wide hairpins. As far as hand brake turns go, just use them when your rear end dint come far enough and you need a litle edge or when you are going into a tight hairpin
Like someone said earlier, you can be a smooth driver like Loeb who does not gets sideways too much or you can always be side ways like the great Mackinen or McRae.
Also, try to link turn as much as possible. For example you are coming out of a left 3 with some overseer and into a right 2, well, use that sideways momentum and flick it with a linked Scandinavian flick.
The most important thing to keep in mind is that when driving rally, specially gravel or snow, if you are not on the gas, brake, or hand brake, then you are not in control.
Just get into a nice track and play with the over steering. You will either over steer too much and spin, or over compensate too much and spin the opposite way. Have fun with it, and once you get it, it will become second nature. I know this post is long but I am crazy about rally.
my psn is juan3268 if you ever want to go online we can do some rallying