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Alright guys, Im in a bad mood, and I feel like ranting.

Ok, it basically goes like this, I go to this place last saturday where people show off their cars and act like assholes and such. These are nice cars. Cobras, Camaro SSs, Supras, Corvettes, and Vipers...6 of them. I went there after homecoming, videotaped, and went home at 130 when things started dying down. I told my dad and all b/c its a place where I can relax, and I would like to go there every sat night. He says, ok.....be home by midnight..... yeah. This is the problem. You might say Im being childish and all, and i guess i am to a certain degree BUT....

I dont really get out of the house much. Im a loner and not much really turns me on (no sexual puns please). I really like cars. I really like debate. I have friends. I work. That is my life. I dont get out very often. When I do, its a little after school, and some to go to work. Im always in before 10. The problems I have with not being able to stay out late is........Ive done everything my parents ask me to...Ive let them know where I am (honestly...i could just say im spending the night at a friends house), Im not doing drugs, Im not doing anything illegal. This is compounded by the fact that 1. I have it on videotape, so they could see exactly what Im doing, which is something they cant do no matter where I go. and 2. there are cops there. I wont get arrested. We have police escort. They are on video as well. I never have anything except work the next day, which is my business, not theirs, I deal with work, if I get fired, then its my fault...but that won't happen because I am a responsible individual. Yes, a responsible individual. But.....that isnt enuf. Today, i had to wake up at 7 to go take SATS. I had those till 1. I was supposed to be at work at 1...i got there at 2. I worked till 10. I get to RSI (racing solutions inc) at 11. I have to be home at 12. WTF. Yeah.....nice way to fkucing relax. And now.....here i am. Ranting...bc if i talk to my parents, ill be too pissed off and say things that will get me in trouble. Yeah, thanks for listening.
 
how old you are ?

cuz if you work and be a responsible person in your home and in your job,don't why they (your parents) don't let you stay a litle late.

but may be they are correct telling you "you can get on trouble there son" may be they sre just protecting you againt a possible trouble.

take litle coversation( friendly please) with your father tell him is just for one night,(may be he let you go) show to yours parrents you are mature person,tell them this"if you never give the brake to show you how responble i can be,you never will know if i'm or not"

good lock.
 
well, your parents care about your well-being.

It's a good thing even if you think it's bad.

My bro some nights goes to this shop his freind owns and they work on MX-6s, Probes, and 626s for hours...he's come in at 5(no work or school the next day)sometimes. Now, my parents are really good. They care about us a lot but we are still able to do what we want(Part of it is that we don't want to stay out late, atleast I don't)to a cirtain extent.

Are you going to this place on school/work nights? That's probably why they want you in at 12, so you aren't messed up for school/work.

I suggest(and take it or leave it, I'm just shy of 16 so you might not take it)just coming home at 12 on the days when you have school/work in the morning, and for the other nights, tell your parents why you can be out later(not why you should be out later, this is why you can), and if it's a good enough reason they probably will let you stay out till 2 or so.

Good luck.
 
My parents were like that with my oldest sister. Then they losened up a bit with my second sister.

For me, the rule became "Let us know when you will be in - if those plans change you MUST call us."

Maybe you could work that deal with them. I had to tell my parents exactly where I would be and exactly when I would be home.

Are you the oldest? Maybe an only child? Oh, and when you do approach them, make sure EVERYONE is in a good mood. Maybe in the morning on a weekend or something (:

~LoudMusic
 
It's not that they are trying to break your nuts or anything. It's just that you have to realize that they too were once your age and know that bad things can happen (The stupidity that makes you believe that you are immortal generally subsides at around 20-22 years old)
Basically having a curfew gives them peace of mind that you aren't lying in a ditch somewhere bleeding, wearing dirty underwear.
I'd talk to your parents, and show them a tape of what goes on. Ask if you can stay out until 1. If you are as young as I think you are, you should be happy with a midnight curfew, I know lot's of people that couldn't stay out past 10 right up until 18.
 
Im a senior, debate is fun, competing without risking my life...only my pride.

Im 17, and Im really quite mature, and they let me stay out late if I have a good excuse aka Homecoming. But then, the next weekend, its just too much of a travesty. And sure, its cool that they care for my wellbeing, especially when it concerns street racing...which is extremely rampant on the street the shop is located on. Thats also the reason there are cops there, to make sure we dont race, bc the cars there are FAST, and would make more pritty wrecks than the rice that race. But then again, arent I showing maturity by telling them what Im doing, and showing them what Im doing?

And no Mazkid, its only on saturday nights. I work sundays 1045 - 7, but like I said, Ill take care of work, its my deal. They dont make me work, its something I want to do for a little cash, so Ill deal with it.

I am the oldest. I dont do much. I dont have a whole lot of friends, altho, the ones I have I care for more than anything in the world. My bro is very popular jock. He is on the football team...hell...he's the head of it. I believe my parents should be more worried about him. That same night I was talking with guys about the amount of NOS they put in the vettes...he was at a party....where a girl was taken to the hospital for alcohol poisoning. My parents then go 'how do we know you're not drinking'. Well, its on tape, second...Id be in the Hog Wild bar thats at the end of the strip center. Not in the parking lot with a bunch of cops. Oh well. Thanks a lot guys.
 
Also, they whip out the 'how do we know you arent racing' crap. The answer lies in my car. I now am the proud 0wner of an Infiniti G35. The same car as my dad. Atho mine is prettier of course. While it does nicely with speed and handling, which is a wonderful reason to race it....my good friend has a 69 pontiac GTO with a 460 crate engine. Boy....that baby.....wow. But anyways, if i were to race and dick around with power, that would be it...and theres no way in hell i would risk my new car or that classic beauty on a 4 lane road littered with rice.
 
My parents can be pretty strict about going out because of my sport...

But since the season is over and I haven't got so much work/practice anymore I'm allowed to compensate all the nights I had to stay in a little. :D

"Just don't get drunk alright?"

Yeah rrright!
 
With you being the oldest, and you being 17, you're going through the "assertion of adulthood" ritual, where you've probably grown out of being a teenage tearaway, and are wanting a little more freedom. However, your parents are going through the "our kids aren't kids anymore" ritual, where they have to stop treating you like you're 4, and release the leash a little. It's a barrier you're going to come up against again and again, and each time you do come up against it, it moves a little more. However, the harder you come up against the barrier, the harder they will resist relaxing it, and you get into fights, bad feelings etc. You need to be calm about this.

Perhaps on nights which you know are going to be quiet by 12, ask if you can be out until 12:30/1am. Then come home at 12. Your parents will wonder why you're home early, you just say "hey, you know, things were kinda quiet, and I wasn't having much fun, so I figured I'd cut my losses and come home". Then they think you're more rational because you were able to assess the situation and make a decent decision.

They ARE worrying about you, but it's in their nature to try to restrict you, because they've been protecting you from dangers that you can't see for so long, that it's difficult for them to understand that you are now more able to be in control of a given situation.

But like I say, and like LoudMusic said earlier (that boy talks sense!), you need to be calm and quiet, and work WITH your parents, not against them.

Of course, the really galling thing about this is that your brother will have an ace time, because of all your hard work! I'm the younger of two, and that's definitely how it was for me, although my sister fought really hard with my parents.
 
Originally posted by mayorbill11
Wow, this thread looks so stupid, i'm not even going to make a smart ass reply about it.

Luckily no one has ever seen you post a reply worth reading, so not a single person here cares whether you do or not. :rolleyes:
 
I do LD debate, humerous interp, and original oratory.

And my parents said they basically didnt want me to become one of 'those kind' of people. That kinda royally pissed me off...bc...what makes them different from anyone else. Oh well. Soon (hopefully by christmas) Ill have enuf money to sell my G35 and buy a vette. Then....a few months later, Ill be 18. All will be well.
 
Originally posted by ShobThaBob
I do LD debate, humerous interp, and original oratory.

Is the national topic this season for L-D about the government and mental health services?

And my parents said they basically didnt want me to become one of 'those kind' of people. That kinda royally pissed me off...bc...what makes them different from anyone else. Oh well. Soon (hopefully by christmas) Ill have enuf money to sell my G35 and buy a vette. Then....a few months later, Ill be 18. All will be well.


Ask your parents why they don't trust you.
 
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