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Good evening GTP. This thread is basically here for us all to share advice, ideas and tips about talking to and being around women. Got a story that fellow GTPers can learn from? Post it up! The chat up lines thread got real lame so I thought we could do this properly. Obviously avoid anything sexual as it is a family site.


Now I'm no expert but I would imagine many can vouch for the following:
Girls prefer side to side communication when attracted to someone, Guys generally go for face to face; Use this to your advantage.
Clothes make the man. Try to have at least one pair of shoes you are very proud of. Wear them on special occasions to make you feel like a badass.
If possible, buy a new shirt or 2 every couple of months, wearing clothes you like is always going to make you feel a little more self confident.
Maintain eye contact in conversation, it makes you look honest as well as confident. Don't forget to smile:)
Oh, and if you are one for nerves a drink or 2 always helps:sly:


Right, I'm not 100% sure of this being able to work on a forum like GTP, but we had the virginity thread so it's worth a shot. If the mods and you guys are happy for this to run, feel free to post your experiences etc. I've seen guys in the confession booth talking about lack of confidence with girls, I used to be one of them, and even now am far from the best when it comes to dating and socialising. But I thought we could help eachother out a bit here, let's see how it goes.
 
Nice idea, let's hope it stays as a mature discussion.

Maybe contributors could give a little story on where abouts they are/stuff leading up to now?

My story is a pretty typical one. I got into a pretty lucky relationship in high school (she was gorgeous, up to now I only have vague theories as to how I attracted her) and split with her after a pretty cool 3 year relationship, meaning I had VERY little experience of flirting or teasing women I didn't know.

I may not know how I got her, but I sure as hell know how I lost her! Throughout the relationship I was a 'wussy' - I let her lead, make decisions, put her on a pedestal and I guess after around 2 years of this she wanted a real man.

I spent an age moping around at home, making excuses for myself. Eventually I decided that sitting at home wasn't going to help anything, and I may as well go out and at least try - After all, I had nothing to lose!

After around 6-9 months of hitting the clubs 3-4 nights a week without fail, I had improved greatly (through trial and error) and my success was somewhere around 50/50, mainly depending on if I was feeling 'on it' or not.

This next part will sound big-headed, but haters gonna hate. I'm now up to a level where 8 or 9 times out of 10 I succeed in getting a number or email (and ones that are correct too!) but i'm looking to up this (fairly recently got into the 'world' of pickup artists - a lot of con artists out there, but also some brilliant resources backed up by scientific research and trial and error testing).

Will likely contribute as much as I possibly can, but right now I gotta go! (have a date funnily enough!).
 
I hope that this doesn't become another relationship thread and I agree with Omnis.
 
i was thinking of opening such thread a few months back...
... but never got to sit down long enough to do it...

so am glad you did "on melancholy hill" ;)

anyways, i would like to correct you on one small fact:

I have asked directly to a few girls... and they all answered me this:

Girls prefer FACE TO FACE communication when attracted to someone, Guys generally go for SIDE TO SIDE.

They prefer to face you at the beginning, so they can see whether you are lying to them or not... more honest conversation/exchange...

Side to side communication is only when you reach the next step or being closer to them ... ;)

Good luck and confidence is always a plus!! but too much of it, and you will be forgotten at first sight ;)
 
I understand your point Omnis, but I don't think everyone should have to buy premium to discuss stuff like this on GTP. It isn't like I don't contribute to the site, I've had premo subscriptions in the past.
 
Good evening GTP. This thread is basically here for us all to share advice, ideas and tips about talking to and being around women. Got a story that fellow GTPers can learn from? Post it up! The chat up lines thread got real lame so I thought we could do this properly. Obviously avoid anything sexual as it is a family site.


Now I'm no expert but I would imagine many can vouch for the following:
1. Girls prefer side to side communication when attracted to someone, Guys generally go for face to face; Use this to your advantage.
Clothes make the man. Try to have at least one pair of shoes you are very proud of. Wear them on special occasions to make you feel like a badass.
If possible, buy a new shirt or 2 every couple of months, wearing clothes you like is always going to make you feel a little more self confident.
2. Maintain eye contact in conversation, it makes you look honest as well as confident. Don't forget to smile:)
Oh, and if you are one for nerves a drink or 2 always helps:sly:


Right, I'm not 100% sure of this being able to work on a forum like GTP, but we had the virginity thread so it's worth a shot. If the mods and you guys are happy for this to run, feel free to post your experiences etc. I've seen guys in the confession booth talking about lack of confidence with girls, I used to be one of them, and even now am far from the best when it comes to dating and socialising. But I thought we could help eachother out a bit here, let's see how it goes.

Not sure where you got #1 from. Most of the women I talk to prefer face to face communication & don't like it when you're not as they feel something else is distracting you. The only time you should do side by side communicating is mainly when you're walking or you're both watching something. Other than, her face is where you should be looking, ala #2.

And I'll add to it with a little tip I learned. When talking to her while just standing, try to see if the tips of your feet are pointed in her direction and by that, I mean if you're facing her (don't twist them if you're side-by-side :p ). If they aren't by nature (don't suddenly change them), it means you generally aren't too in to her conversation & women pick up on that. It generally works for anyone, but I've used it was a way to tell if someone's whether it's me or them is paying attention. It can help tell you a lot about the relationship if it happens frequent.
 
Nice tip Mclaren, thanks 👍


I'll keep an eye out for it at the next applicable situation.
 
I will gladly contribute to this. Most of the people that have problems with women (like I used to) have no self confidence or fear rejection too heavily. If she says no, she says no. It's not the end of the world. Take it in stride and go for the next one. Most of the people here are somewhat younger so it's not the only opportunity that will ever arise. It's a simple as "I like you, we should go grab something to eat".

Some tips:

Try to stay within your league for the first few. It will ease the difficulty later to talk to more attractive women.

Make sure you are in a good place to enter into a relationship. (ie Money. Have plenty of scratch.)

Don't hold anything back. GO FOR IT. Be as extravagant or meek as you want. Don't try to force anything.

Dont put on a front.
 
There was this thread, but it got closed. It was followed by this thread.

And then there were numerous others, like:



Fair point, but the age of your links are as follows:
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I don't see much point in reviving such old threads, many of which aren't really what I was looking to do with this one. I mean, this isn't exactly a relationships thread either. Thanks for finding those, let's see if any mods have an opinion on this.
 
Fair point, but the age of your links are as follows:
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I don't see much point in reviving such old threads, many of which aren't really what I was looking to do with this one. I mean, this isn't exactly a relationships thread either. Thanks for finding those, let's see if any mods have an opinion on this.

Thanks for making me feel old.

jk
 
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