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ok i need some woman help here... there is this one chick at my school, who i really like alot, shes a senoir, im a sophmore, and we are pretty good friends, but i wanna go out with her... i havent asked her out but i told her how i feel about her, and she said that she doesnt want to go out right now becuase she doesnt want to hurt me when she leaves for college... im not sure, but i do all i can... what else can i do to get her to like me more?
 
I think if he was specifically asking for a woman to answer he would have said woman's help or women's help.
 
Well, to be honest, now please don't be offended, but as she is transitioning to college she may also be moving on to older men, or women (not unusual). So she might have been giving you a very polite 'not interested.' But I do not know her, so maybe she's eager and is waiting for you to get older and wants you bad.
 
I say just leave her be.. If she doesnt want to be with you because she doesnt want to hurt you when she leaves for college, she must really like you alot.. Atleast i think so.
 
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i dotn really care who answers :P, i just want some good advice :)
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Hey man. I'm here for you. I was faced with a similar situation back in my high school days. The only difference was: I was a Junior trying to get a date with a Senior. Just about the same thing....

Anyway, just talk to her. Let words take care of this situation. If you can honestly say that she doesn't want to go out with you due to the fact that she doesn't want to hurt your feelings, you will have to be a man and accept that. It is in my experience to not let social status (or seniority for that matter) separate true love. If she really likes you, she will tell you. Just take her out on a date (dinner, movie, walk in the park, etc.) and take it from there. If worse comes to worse, you won't have lost much, but rather gained a valuable lesson on the road of life.

I don't know if this helps, but hey...I'm trying man! :D

Best of luck. Peace. God bless.

-Rice Rocketeer aka "The Lady's Man" (isn't that a movie...?)
 
alright thanks for the advice guys, i think im gonna sit on this one, and just think about it, im gonna put alot of thought into, make sure i do what i think is right for her mostly, then me. But hey, things that are ment to be become, and things that are not ment to be do not become...so if its ment to be it will be. right?
 
and also, we arent completely foreign to eachother, i know she has feelings towards me, she worries if i dont talk to her, and asks whats wrong, and tells me she thinks im mad if i dont talk to her and then she gets sad... so i mean im not sure where shes at, like i wish should would just tell me, becuase when we talked, she was unclear on what she thinks of me, and in which, it puts loads of pressure on me, i wish she would just come flat out, yeah there is a really good chance that we will go out or, no we wont go out, but then again i suppose she does not know.... uhh its just so stressfull and pressuring at times, i just want to let it go, head to my room jam on the guitar or listen to some disturbed or staind... but i always try to do what she wants, i never have asked to go out alone, always with a friend of hers, im still not sure if she would go alone with me or not, but i havent pushed at all for a date alone...i just wish we could spend more time together, im so busy with football and she is with volleyball.. but hopefully when bball comes around we can shoot hoops together or something... but like i say "what is meant to be will be" plus there are other fish in the sea..
 
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alright thanks for the advice guys, i think im gonna sit on this one, and just think about it, im gonna put alot of thought into, make sure i do what i think is right for her mostly, then me. But hey, things that are ment to be become, and things that are not ment to be do not become...so if its ment to be it will be. right?
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Absolutely. If it's for you, it won't pass you by. If nothing else, you should try to become friends with this girl, and see how things pan out. You'll both change a lot between now and when you're both out of college, so it can't hurt to stay in touch as friends. If something develops then it develops. It will also help you to hang out with nice girls.
 
after alot of thought, i think i really want to go out with her becuase i think it will give me more of her time or something... i mean its not like im making this up i actually think this is some subconcios mindset or soemthing... i mean i dont want to go out with her for the "lovin" or anything... is that a good or bad thing?? becuase i must think that if we go out, we will spend more time together or soemthing... and we probably would becuase right now we are soo busy, ive got football shes got volleyball... and on the weekends usually we dont do stuff all that often, the last time we did soemthing with my friend and her friend was 3 or 4 weekends ago or something... so do you think she would get mad if she found out that why i want to go out with her?? or do you think that she would think its ok that i feel that way?
 
I don't think she would be mad, but you would need to be sure to let her know what you've just said here. This to a girl is friendship, not really "going out". When you talk "going out" to a girl, it has a completely different meaning to what you're saying. In fact, if she likes you as a person, she will enjoy doing this, and you won't even need to make a pitch to her about going out. You just need to make more effort to be able to fit in with her plans, and to make your plans available to her.

i.e. you can do all of this without a big scene telling her how you feel, which is likely to make you both feel awkward, and ruin the growing friendship that you have. Be subtle!
 

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