Is it ever going to end?

[G.T]

Is it ever going to end, all these upsetting moments.

It first started 3 1/2 years back when my Grandad died, which was a big shock thoughout the family. My Mum was very upset and I and my brother didn't take it too well.

After this, people bullying me at school was starting to get quite bad and didn't help me at all, my parents were also under pressure to get things sorted out to make me comfortable at school. I'm a person who likes to learn and being bullied was perventing that from happening.

About 8 months after my Grandad's death, my other Grandad died, which was another shock. My Auntie that lived in Australia flew over to the UK to see him and he died 10 mins before my Auntie saw him, which upset my Auntie.

Things were still happening to me at school so I was pulled out in the end and home educated. Because of all the bullying, I was scared to talk to people to my own age which was hard for me to socialize. It was also hard to learn because I was in a different enviorment to school, I was so used to the noise and movement I just found it hard to learn.

After this my Dad was under massive pressure from his job. He was given too much to do and thinking of looking after me and stuff just made it too much for him. He didn't go to work for a 10 months, 2 of them with no pay which was a big strain because we didn't have any money income.

Now my Nans got cancer. She's been on treatment for a few months and got the tests back today and the doctors say the treatment isn't helping. The cancer had spread and nothing can be done to stop or prevent it. Mum's not taking it well. I'm a little upset, my Dad I think is upset, for Mum as well and my brother wont take it well.

Also my Grandad's brother a few days ago died of cancer as well which has put my Mum on edge even more.

I'm just thinking when will all this end?

 

[Ev0]

As you go through life, you're going to encounter bad times no matter what. Unfortunately for you, it certainly seems like there are much more bad times than good times. But, we all have to deal with the bad times as they come. We have to try and just push through the bad times, and enjoy the good times while they last.

Also, depending on how you think about things, a positive lesson can come from nearly any experience. Just think about what lessons you can gain from having to suffer through certain experiences. I think it is this outlook on life that has given me what I judge to be a very good and realistic outlook on life.

Sorry if I'm not exactly being clear, these are just some thoughts that have been floating around in my mind for a very long time.

 

[RedWolfRacer]

Everyone goes through hell in life. Thinking you're alone never helps; there are people who have it much worse. True, others may have it better, but if you wait out the storm, you, too, will have good times.

To me, life's like a bunch of random roller coasters with the same "station". Everyone starts and ends at the same "station" at the same height, but some ride the smoother roller coaster that has fewer ups and downs. Others get the ones with crazy tips and turns and so on. Eventually things will get smoother. It's just a matter of time. Trust me; I know from experience, my own and others'.

 

[VT]

I'm just thinking when will all this end?

To be perfectly honest, it won't end until you're pushing up daisies. That stuff is all part of life and will not stop until you're 6 feet under.

That sorta stuff happens to everyone and how you handle it is a measure of your maturity. Everyone goes through this stuff; some people handle it like a champ while others struggle with it, like you're doing. Its not just you that this sort of stuff is happening to, its happening to the rest of the 6.4 billion people in this world as well.

Life is a 🤬 then you die. You just gotta move on.

 

[Touring Mars]

Is it ever going to end, all these upsetting moments.

It first started 3 1/2 years back when my Grandad died, which was a big shock thoughout the family. My Mum was very upset and I and my brother didn't take it too well.

After this, people bullying me at school was starting to get quite bad and didn't help me at all, my parents were also under pressure to get things sorted out to make me comfortable at school. I'm a person who likes to learn and being bullied was perventing that from happening.

About 8 months after my Grandad's death, my other Grandad died, which was another shock. My Auntie that lived in Australia flew over to the UK to see him and he died 10 mins before my Auntie saw him, which upset my Auntie.

Things were still happening to me at school so I was pulled out in the end and home educated. Because of all the bullying, I was scared to talk to people to my own age which was hard for me to socialize. It was also hard to learn because I was in a different enviorment to school, I was so used to the noise and movement I just found it hard to learn.

After this my Dad was under massive pressure from his job. He was given too much to do and thinking of looking after me and stuff just made it too much for him. He didn't go to work for a 10 months, 2 of them with no pay which was a big strain because we didn't have any money income.

Now my Nans got cancer. She's been on treatment for a few months and got the tests back today and the doctors say the treatment isn't helping. The cancer had spread and nothing can be done to stop or prevent it. Mum's not taking it well. I'm a little upset, my Dad I think is upset, for Mum as well and my brother wont take it well.

Also my Grandad's brother a few days ago died of cancer as well which has put my Mum on edge even more.

I'm just thinking when will all this end?

I don't think it's a question of when all these things will end... it's more a question of how you will grow to be able to deal with these situations better. As others have already said, bad things happen to everyone, but sometimes, due to bad luck, bad timing, and a whole load of others factors, things can seem to just keep adding up... but you can change the way you deal with these difficult times...

As you get older, you can begin to see things in a different way... if you step back and look at your family life, you obviously come from a family who really care about one another... that's something some people never have. Of course, it's really hard to come to terms with bereavement, and it's even harder to watch a close relative, especially your own parents, go through the same heartache.... but for your part, it may sound selfish, but you need to concentrate on looking after yourself first... the only reason I say that is because the stronger you are, the more support you can give to those around you, who clearly need you to be as strong as you can. It's a bit like when they say on an aeroplane "Attend to your own Oxygen mask first"... the reason isn't selfishness... it's for the greater good.

There are things you can do, like speaking to a councillor about bereavement, or coping with illness within the family... just speaking to folk about stuff as well can be a great weight off your mind. You're not alone, and there are people out there who can help, but you might need to be prepared to make contact with them... i.e. councillors, support groups etc. You can also learn a bit about how to maintain a positive frame of mind, there are some good books on the subject (as well as some not so good ones) which can help bolster your self-esteem, and make you more capable of expressing your emotions. Learning to think in a more positive way is not easy, but it helps. It's not about 'learning how to be happy', it's about learning how to deal with your life rationally and clearly, without slipping into negative, depressive thought patterns, that ultimately lead you nowhere. Again, a trained councillor can help you get started.

In the meantime, you've made a good start already by telling some folks about the problems your having. I hope for you and your family things start to improve, but you're not completely powerless to do something about it...

 

[smellysocks12]

Keep your head up. Eventually it will get better.




Pick up a hobby where you are able to vent your frustrations, or at least not think about them. Go to a sports club, and start something. Once you share the same interests as people there they will respect you. The kids in school do not. If you'd get into karate or jiu jitsu as a sports not only will you get to know people sharing the same interests better, after a couple of years you will be able to stop the bullies from bullying you. (though that shouldn't be the motivation to do it, most importantly you choose something you'd like)

 

[G.T]

Thank you for your support guys.

Yes I am young, I'm just at a sensitive stage at the moment (teenagehood) and I'll change when I grow older.

Yes, I should think more positivly, as its the best thing you can do in these times. I try and do things like read books or play games to keep my mind off things which helps at times. I did used to go to a wildlife club a few years back but I quit that because of what I was going through.

I was a bit wrong when I said when will all this end. I do know that I will get hiccups in life and I will have to take them when the time comes and, not to worry what will happen next. I've got to look foward and not remember the bad things I went through as much as possible. I've got to remember good things.

I am seeing a councellor at the moment, which helps a little. I think my parents have one as well but I'm not too sure. I've looked though some books to do with anxiety and I read how to change your thinking when situations come. I think it's helped.

There is one good thing out of all this, sort of like what Evo said. All these situations that have happened will make me know how to keep my self happy when the situations happen again. I might be able to help other people in the future as well by telling them how I take situations.

I've just got to remember that I'm not the only one in the world that's suffering. Most people go through worse situations so I've just got to appreciate what I've got.

 

[Jondot]

Things were still happening to me at school so I was pulled out in the end and home educated. Because of all the bullying, I was scared to talk to people to my own age which was hard for me to socialize. It was also hard to learn because I was in a different enviorment to school, I was so used to the noise and movement I just found it hard to learn.

Oh, i was wondering why you were taught at home, but i didn't want to ask incase it was something personal.
Unfortunately, bullies do exist, and don't i know it . Luckily, they are in a different form to me, so i don't get bullied all through lessons, and i manage to escape at break times.
If you find it hard to socialise, don't worry, because that's exactly what you are doing now on this site!
Friends at school are nice, but none of my friends, despite their age, are anywhere near as good at giving advice, giving a helpful answer and are no where near as mature, sensible and helpful as people on here! And i'm not sure if i'm the only one who feels this way, but i find it much easier to give advice when sitting here, typing it out, than giving it verbally and directly to the person's face.
Dispite attending a grammar school ( top end high school), as you can see, the combined effort of 30 noisy people in my class hasn't done to good to my spelling and punctuation!
As for bad things, don't worry! Bad stuff happens, but eventually it will stop, and don't forget, you are always welcome to talk to any of us here .

 

[G.T]

If you find it hard to socialise, don't worry, because that's exactly what you are doing now on this site!

Very true, that's why I'm talking here. I was looking for a site one day to talk on and this site was one of the first that came up on Google. This site happened to be just right for me because of the friendly atmosphere. I was also lucky because GTP was about a subject I like, cars!

 

[Jondot]

Very true, that's why I'm talking here. I was looking for a site one day to talk on and this site was one of the first that came up on Google. This site happened to be just right for me because of the friendly atmosphere. I was also lucky because GTP was about a subject I like, cars!

I found it while searching for Gran Turismo 2.
That's probably quite a good idea for a thread : How did you find gtplanet?