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I am 13, nearly 14, and many of my friend are off at parties and getting girlfriends etc. It's quite awkward for me sitting there when the conversation turns to girls and I have nothing to say on the subject. I'm at an all boys school, so no luck there. I'm also quite shy around girls. I'm just looking for advice, do you think I should start going to discos etc. before they notice I don't have a girlfriend and start bugging me. Thanks, and please don't post in here just making fun of me :nervous:
 
My only advice is ... don't worry about that. Girls, and boys that speak of nothing else, are annoying. Oh and 50% of what you'll hear are lies, while the other 50% will be nothing more than a very colored tale of basically a few odd moments ;)
 
It's OK. Don't worry about girls and keep on truckin'. Soon enough you'll be a rich Super Mod like me.
 
Hun200kmh
My only advice is ... don't worry about that. Girls, and boys that speak of nothing else, are annoying. Oh and 50% of what you'll hear are lies, while the other 50% will be nothing more than a very colored tale of basically a few odd moments ;)
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Ok thanks

TommyWizard
I'll send you a PM man :)
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Sure

Omnis
It's OK. Don't worry about girls and keep on truckin'. Soon enough you'll be a rich Super Mod like me.
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:lol:
 
Omnis
It's OK. Don't worry about girls and keep on truckin'. Soon enough you'll be a rich Super Mod like me.
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Girlfriends whose surname are .jpg don't count.
 
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.png is always better quality right :sly:

Hahaha

Sent one on, Omnis, where were you when I was looking help! the money you would have saved me if you told me that.....
 
Danny
Girlfriends whose surname are .jpg don't count.
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.jpgs are just reminders that girls will come. In like 5 seconds.

No need to go out of your way. Just advance yourself enough and you'll have automatic vagnetic force.
 
Try to socalise more with girls and just talk to them.

There will be girls that are easier to talk to than others.

Talk to the waiteress and cashires and other women you meet in your daily life, just start by saying hello and asking if they are having a nice day.

Girls your own age are harder to talk to, older girls, in your case college girls, will be easier to have a conversation with.

The most important thing I find is that you only talk about what you know, dont pretend to know about something you dont.
And let the girl talk about whatever she wants, usually girls like to talk about themselves, and let them.

Just ask them about the college (or high school) they attend, as if you are interested to go there when you are applying to colleges.(If she goes to an all girls high school she probably is as uncomfortable talking to boys as you are talking too girls)
From there the conversation can go many different ways, toward sports (only if she play's a sport), towards general college life (if she lives on/off campus, things to do etc...).

If the girl is talking about something(or someone) you dont know about, tell them you dont know ablout whatever/whoever it is.
That lets her continue the conversation, and make her feel more intellegent, teaching you about something/someone you dont know about.

Eventually the basics of introducing your self and getting a conversation started will be easy.

Dont let your friends pressure you into talking to a girl, you choose the girls you want to talk to.

Dont go to partys with the intention of finding a paticular girl to date/girlfriend/hookup.
Talk to as many of the girls at a party, learn as much as you can about them and dont be cheezy/hitting on them.

The moral of this long winded post is..

If you are comfortable talking to girls, eventually you will be talking to the right girl, and it will be much easier. She is the girl you will ask out.
 
I can't stress enough to be yourself. Don't try to be something that you think a girl will want... you want a girl who accepts you for who you are. /honest cheeziness
Anyway, to meet a girl like that, you need to go out and do the things you like to do. A girl at (whatever event / meeting place / concert / sport) = same interests! Instant ice breaker.
It may seem like a big deal now, but dude you're only 13... it'll happen, don't worry.
 
^ this.

Without being patronising you are only 13, seriously whats the rush?
Enjoy being you, being young and free, trust me, you will be 20 before you know it
 
madmike1986
^ this.

Without being patronising you are only 13, seriously whats the rush?
Enjoy being you, being young and free, trust me, you will be 20 before you know it
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Agreed.

And if your friends keep bugging you about it, find new friends.


Kidding :p
 
I think imma agree with what has generally been said by other members, forget about girls and just enjoy life while you're still young, before you know it you'll become an adult, just concentrate on getting school out of the way first. I spent the best part of four months talking to a girl I really liked, but what with still only being 15 and all, I messed it up :ouch: and now I realize that most of that time has pretty much been wasted, and all that has come of it is that I continually get depressed over how we used to be (it was pretty much a relationship without all the kissing and making out). It just isn't worth it IMO. On a side note, my best friend is continually ditching me for his GF, and they're almost constantly kissing, it just gets annoying after a while :lol:
 
Lol ya dude like others are saying who cares man. You wanna go out and do something, do it. You don't want to, don't. Who cares what people tell you to do or make you think your not "cool" if you don't do these certain things. All the coolest people do whatever they want anyways not what others guilt them into.
 
Jeez. Am I really that old? 13 going on 14 i was in to riding bikes, playing on my NES and watching Airwolf. Don't worry about girls man, it will come naturally as you get older! :lol:
 
Now that I look back I think it's funny that we all worried about this stuff when we were younger. It's just a phase, as they say.
 
Hey Matty, don't worry yourself we all had to go through what you are dealing with now. Like others have said, have fun and enjoy your youth, and if that involves girls then so be it but don't trouble yourself with what preasure your friends put on you and go rushing into things if you do not feel ready yet.

You sound like a nice chap, I am sure girls will approach you as the good ones don't really like guys who go chasing them.

At 13, I did not even know what a girl was let along kiss one. The only girl I got a kiss from was my mom before I went to bed. Lol
 
rocko100
When i was in 5th grade people were dating :crazy:
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Mine was as well :crazy: And follow turboash's advice, to be honest. Being yourself is always first priority 👍

And I'm 13 as well, turning 14 in a couple of months.
 
PAPPACLART
At 13, I did not even know what a girl was let along kiss one. The only girl I got a kiss from was my mom before I went to bed. Lol
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:lol:

Thanks for all the help guys, especially those loooong PMs :lol:.
 
dublee
Try to socalise more with girls and just talk to them.

There will be girls that are easier to talk to than others.

Talk to the waiteress and cashires and other women you meet in your daily life, just start by saying hello and asking if they are having a nice day.

Girls your own age are harder to talk to, older girls, in your case college girls, will be easier to have a conversation with.

The most important thing I find is that you only talk about what you know, dont pretend to know about something you dont.
And let the girl talk about whatever she wants, usually girls like to talk about themselves, and let them.

Just ask them about the college (or high school) they attend, as if you are interested to go there when you are applying to colleges.(If she goes to an all girls high school she probably is as uncomfortable talking to boys as you are talking too girls)
From there the conversation can go many different ways, toward sports (only if she play's a sport), towards general college life (if she lives on/off campus, things to do etc...).

If the girl is talking about something(or someone) you dont know about, tell them you dont know ablout whatever/whoever it is.
That lets her continue the conversation, and make her feel more intellegent, teaching you about something/someone you dont know about.

Eventually the basics of introducing your self and getting a conversation started will be easy.

Dont let your friends pressure you into talking to a girl, you choose the girls you want to talk to.

Dont go to partys with the intention of finding a paticular girl to date/girlfriend/hookup.
Talk to as many of the girls at a party, learn as much as you can about them and dont be cheezy/hitting on them.

The moral of this long winded post is..

If you are comfortable talking to girls, eventually you will be talking to the right girl, and it will be much easier. She is the girl you will ask out.
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Yeah agreed.

Most faithful girls senior to you look like a mere elder person to counsel various things with each other - including joyful things and unplesant affairs you experience in your daily life. That's why it's easier to talk to them freely without tension.

In contrast, girls at near your age or below expects you to speak about things that will please themselves or render them be convinced you're a reliable person suitable as a future partner - criteria of their likings are the efficiency of their oral speech that sounds attractive for girls to set them pay their attention, looks are not as important as for them to sort out which one is good or not, like guys are liable to pick one up just for their charming appearance instantly, not their characters.

But there's no need to worry about just because we can't yet take appropriate acts in front of girls or tend to become taciturn not being ready to think out what to say, there are girls of lots of types so we can find the one that fits our type. It's not necessarily essential to mingle with ones of all types.
 
Omnis
Don't worry about Rohipnol. It's a last resort.
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It's scary that 'roofies' are actually sold over the counter here and are marketed as a dating aide for men.

I actually have had friends that employ this technique. They didn't remain my friends for long once I knew.

I've been meaning to do myself with some for a long time so that in the event of being spiked in a bar I will be prepared for the effects and know how to deal with the situation. Haven't got round to finding a dropping partner yet as you can imagine.
 

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