Love at first Sight

[Steele_obsidion]

This may have been asked, i searched and didnt come up with anything. so pardon me if its a repost.

well, do you believe in love at first sight?

Im very confused on this topic, i used ot not believe it, i'd even ust call it lust at first sight. but. today. i met someone.

its like.. i feel like an effin high school crush all over again. we both showed interest in others, but when i saw the pics... i just knew. it hit me like a ton of bricks. im in love.

but aside from me, i wanna know what you all think of this love at first sight business. is it a hoax created by corporations to sell more love cards?

have you seen him/her that just threw you into a tizzy and you almost had a heart attack?

 

[ExigeEvan]

Love is much, much more than a matter of finding someone attractive. It's about knowing each other on a more personal scale.

So I don't agree, love at first site is simply a physical thing. Not saying it can't become more, but it's certainly not love if you barely no the person.

 

[McLaren]

Exige is spot on.

It's pretty much just lusting for someone based on looks. Love is a real connection to your partner, and not that crap high school kids tout.

 

[Azuremen]

Exige is spot on.

It's pretty much just lusting for someone based on looks. Love is a real connection to your partner, and not that crap high school kids tout.

Pretty much spot on.

 

[Small_Fryz]

Pretty much spot on.

i think its more than a purely phyiscal thing though, because we can subconciously (and some of us conciously) pick up much more about a person based on the first 15 - 60seconds of interacting with them in person than just their physical attraction.

Ive seen many beautiful girls that while they are drop dead gorgous i havnt had a "love at 1st sight" feeling, yet ive interacted with some attractive but not the best girl ive ever seen type and yet its just something about her that i sense and see that makes me like her that much more.

So while i dont think its true love at 1st sight i do belive that it has a chance to become that. I mean as a salesman i can pick up so much about a person based on the 1st minute or so of interaction. Hard to explain but i think that the "tingly feeling of lust and love" only happens when she really could be a good match for what you like, both physically and more and if she feels the same way back it certainly would be worth following up to see if it works out.

 

[Duke]

I do not believe in love at first sight. I'm always amazed at the number of stories, movies, and works of literature that have main characters radically changing their lives based on a single glimpse of a person. Having just watched the incredibly stupid Love In The Time Of Cholera, I was dumbfounded at the idiocy of the characters.

You can definitely get the sense that the individual is a great person quickly, and of course you can judge their outward appearance immediately. But that's as far as it goes until you know them and interact with them.

 

[Danoff]

I was attracted to and drawn toward my wife when I first laid eyes on her. We both sort of gravitated toward each other and started flirting essentially right away.

From one glance I knew I was interested, and I knew I wanted to get to know her better, but I don't think I really fell in love until a bit later.

Love has to be based on more than you can decipher with one glance, and probably even a single conversation.

 

[Mark T]

Lust at first sight, yes. Love at first sight, no.

Love is complicated and you don't really know it's true love until you have lived with them for a few years and experienced the good and bad side to a person.

 

[FoolKiller]

I will call it attraction at first sight. Lust at first sight makes it sound too much like there is just a pure sexual attraction, when that isn't the case. But emotional ties, like love, cannot be developed based on sight alone, or even a few seconds of conversation.

When I first saw my wife show up at a party at my apartment in college with a friend I knew right then and there that friendship was likely over, because I just had to get to know this girl. But I wouldn't have jumped in the sack with her that night. I had her phone number before she left, but there was not true love until we had been dating for a while.


But there is also lust at first sight. I have experienced it and it led to a rollercoaster of a relationship that never once had emotional involvement.

 

[McLaren]

Lust at first sight, yes. Love at first sight, no.

Love is complicated and you don't really know it's true love until you have lived with them for a few years and experienced the good and bad side to a person.

I wouldn't go that far. Jen. & I were together for a couple years & never lived together, yet we were very passionate about each other.

 

[TB]

Love is complicated and you don't really know it's true love until you have lived with them for a few years and experienced the good and bad side to a person.

I wouldn't go that far. Jen. & I were together for a couple years & never lived together, yet we were very passionate about each other.

I agree with Reventón. My wife and I met playing volleyball. She had been dating one of my co-workers (coincidence, huh?) for all of two weeks so all I thought was "So that's who James is dating" and moved on. A week later he had already blown it with her (not surprising as he was a complete and total idiot - she's not even sure why she went out with him). Anyway, we went out for ice cream after volleyball and really hit it off. We dated for a while and were married within 9 months of meeting. No living together, no sex, etc. But it must have worked because this Friday will be my 10th anniversary.

So no, not love at first site, but apparently pretty close.

 

[Danoff]

No living together, no sex, etc. But it must have worked because this Friday will be my 10th anniversary.

There are things that are important to each relationship and there are things that are not. I knew that my wife was atheist and leaned libertarian within 3 dates - it was important. I did not know whether she liked macaroni and cheese until much later on.

Sex is and should be important to just about every marriage relationships (though I'll admit that there are those for whom sex is not important, or even important to avoid)

So no, not love at first site, but apparently pretty close.

Probably about as close as is possible.