Married = pwn3d ?

[Flerbizky]

 

[Blackbird.]

Stupid magazine if it were real, IMO.

 

[Flerbizky]

Stupid magazine if it were real, IMO.

I take it they didn't install your sarcasm module yet ?...

If you don't like it, Why post ?...

 

[Blackbird.]

I take it they didn't install your sarcasm module yet ?...

If you don't like it, Why post ?...

I'm stating my opinion.

 

[Victor Vance]

I'm never getting married, or having kids

I have the comfort of knowing that when I die, there's more than one male member in my extended family who can carry on my family's last name...

 

[Cap'n Jack]

They funny.

 

[Cosmic]

I'm never getting married, or having kids

Poor guy , he's having problems

 

[Victor Vance]

No, I'm just fully aware of all the responsibilities of having a kid and wife. Well, this is my view right now, it might change in 15 years, who knows. But right now I can not see something like that happening

 

[Der Alta]

I'm never getting married, or having kids

I have the comfort of knowing that when I die, there's more than one male member in my extended family who can carry on my family's last name...

You've got an excellent idea. Take a note of advice from My brother, my cousin, and my uncle. Oh and Hugh Grant (4 weddings and a Funeral).

Let me ask you one thing. Do you think - after we've dried off, after we've spent lots more time together - you might agree *not* to marry me? And do you think not being married to me might maybe be something you could consider doing for the rest of your life?

Find a woman, love her for life, enjoy growing old together. Skip the wedding.

AO

 

[Victor Vance]

^Plus, if something goes wrong, ya walk out (or she walks out), done deal. You can make up later on if you wish. Meanwhile, divorces especially with kids, custody and property rights, it can get legally messy. And from my knowledge men generally get the bad end of the divorce, anyway. That's why, I'd rather stay far, far away from marrige. Besdides, if you devote yourself to the one you truly love in your heart, what's the point of having it on paper?

 

[LoudMusic]

I'll be marrying my girlfriend in the next couple years. But we've already decided to not have kids.

Also, she's going to be the one bringing in the big money. I'll just do part time work and take care of the house and such. I wouldn't call it whipped. Just submissive. And if you know it going in, then it's not a bad thing.

And besides, she's great in bed! (:

Funny magazine covers though. Something that would be on Letterman.

 

[Victor Vance]

Looks like you're hooked up pretty well. It's the ones that want to have kids right away and who don't work that are normally trouble. (FME)

 

[LoudMusic]

Most of the girls I know, aside from one individual, want to work. They want to have very successful careers. But they also want to raise a family. It can be very stressful deciding which one to takle, and some women try to do both. They end up having a crappy career and a bad family life.

 

[Victor Vance]

Exactly as well, a point I didn't review. You have to have one person taking care of the house (and kids) and one person baking the bread. It's as simple as that. There should be no debate over who does what. If there is, not only does it confuse the little ones, but it also tears at the relationship.

 

[wee_man]

my gf's already decided we're getting married and having three kids, and she's having a career and moving to a differnt country, and I'm comming. If I don't propose to her, she's gonna propose to me supposedly. Recently she just decided the names on the kids and the decor of the house . And this is all in a years time and I'm only 17?!?!??!? Thing is that magazine cover is too true. I miss my freinds and money .

 

[Flerbizky]

my gf's already decided we're getting married and having three kids, and she's having a career and moving to a differnt country, and I'm comming. If I don't propose to her, she's gonna propose to me supposedly. Recently she just decided the names on the kids and the decor of the house . And this is all in a years time and I'm only 17?!?!??!? Thing is that magazine cover is too true. I miss my freinds and money .

It sounds like you need to make like a banana and *****

 

[VIPFREAK]

Find a woman, love her for life, enjoy growing old together. Skip the wedding.

AO

I Have a similar plan... Sounds good to me. 👍 Still on the fence about kids though.

 

[Bahbo]

I'm never getting married, or having kids

Are you gay or really young?

 

[wee_man]

It sounds like you need to make like a banana and *****

Yea, that thought had just recently kept popping into my head frequently. 👍

 

[Der Alta]

my gf's already decided we're getting married and having three kids, and she's having a career and moving to a differnt country, and I'm comming. If I don't propose to her, she's gonna propose to me supposedly. Recently she just decided the names on the kids and the decor of the house . And this is all in a years time and I'm only 17?!?!??!? Thing is that magazine cover is too true. I miss my freinds and money .

Words of advice.

Dump her now. Life will suck for a few months, but you're too damn young to even think about that.

Seriously, the best thing you can ever do is cut your losses and run away, now. If you don't cut and run, she'll "Miss just one pill" and you'll be screwed.

Tell her flat out "In no way am I ready for that much. If you want a family, plan one without me." Then walk away now.

AO

 

[wee_man]

Words of advice.

Dump her now. Life will suck for a few months, but you're too damn young to even think about that.

Seriously, the best thing you can ever do is cut your losses and run away, now. If you don't cut and run, she'll "Miss just one pill" and you'll be screwed.

Tell her flat out "In no way am I ready for that much. If you want a family, plan one without me." Then walk away now.

AO

Thanks Der Alta. Thats what I thought. Well luckily she can't take the pill, because she has a blood condition so we just stick to the good ol' fashion way, so not too much to worry about there. I've already hinted to her that I'm not ready, which I'm not, but she's gonna be soo devistated when I tell her. A man's gotta do, what a mans gotta do . Plus there's this other really fit, hot gill from London I've just recently met .
Cheers again 👍 .

 

[Der Alta]

Thanks Der Alta. Thats what I thought. Well luckily she can't take the pill, because she has a blood condition so we just stick to the good ol' fashion way, so not too much to worry about there. I've already hinted to her that I'm not ready, which I'm not, but she's gonna be soo devistated when I tell her. A man's gotta do, what a mans gotta do . Plus there's this other really fit, hot gill from London I've just recently met .
Cheers again 👍 .

Luckily? Good old fashioned way meaning you make sure that precautions are taken. Take a few more words of advice, if she's got it planned out like that already, she knows how she wants to get there.

Skip the hints, tell her flat-out you don't want to get married or have kids. I dated a girl like that. In the first two weeks she had our three kids named, both dogs, how many bedrooms in the house, and knew where we were going to live. About two weeks later, while walking through a store while I was buying new jeans, she started asking what floral pattern we wanted on the plates in the china closet.

Upon arriving home, I promptly told her what the story was. I got on with my life, and the guy friend that she ran to that night for comfort, was married to her less than 6 months later.

Start dating the new girl.

Good luck,

AO

 

[Duke]

Exactly as well, a point I didn't review. You have to have one person taking care of the house (and kids) and one person baking the bread. It's as simple as that. There should be no debate over who does what. If there is, not only does it confuse the little ones, but it also tears at the relationship.

I disagree with this completely. My wife and I both have successful professional careers and we share the duties of running a house and being parents to two kids. There is not much debate over who does what - we both try our best to makes sure that if something needs doing, we do it. Certain specific jobs fall to certain people - I take care of vehicles and yard; she sews costumes and knits sweaters, for instance. Also, certain types of tasks go to certain people, though this is not a hard and fast rule. She's better at long-range, strategic stuff: making sure that the kids have clothes in time for school; making next fall's physical/innoculation appointments, etc. On the contrary, I'm better at making sure the day-to-day stuff gets done - lunches packed, dishes washed, etc. This is not to say that either of us can't handle all of the required tasks; just that we tend towards those at which we're more efficient.

She's also co-leader of daughter #2's Scout troop, and we help out in daughter #1's troop as well. This plus making sure they get to 2-3 karate classes a week.

Far from 'confusing' the little ones, it shows them that everyone pitches in and takes care of themselves and each other. Daughter #2 is making us breakfast as I type this.

 

[Duke]

Words of advice.

Dump her now. Life will suck for a few months, but you're too damn young to even think about that.

Seriously, the best thing you can ever do is cut your losses and run away, now. If you don't cut and run, she'll "Miss just one pill" and you'll be screwed.

Tell her flat out "In no way am I ready for that much. If you want a family, plan one without me." Then walk away now.

AO

Excellent words of advice. I knew a girl in college who had obviously come there to find a husband. As junior year came on and no first-rate candidates were presenting themselves, she lowered her standards a bit until she netted a guy. As soon as they got engaged, she and her mother spent a month planning it all out, a bomb with an 18-month fuse. Then she went away to France for a year abroad to teach elementary English, came back, and the bomb went off as planned.

The guy accepted all this, but it turned out he had his own version of having it all planned out. Instead of living in Boston and summering on Martha's Vinyard with her parents, he wanted to stay in central New Jersey and take over his father's business. The unstoppable force met the immovable object, and it wasn't pretty. Sadly, they were not smart enough to recognize this (or, at least to deal with it) before they added a child to the equation.

So to make a long story longer, I agree wholeheartedly with Der Alta's excellent advice above. Don't tapdance around the issue, because she'll refuse to notice it. Flat-out tell her that marriage is in your 10-year plan, but not on your immediate to-do list. Then shop around a little more.