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Know any? I may become one. My and my wife's current daycare arrangement is simple, one grandmother in the moning (my mom) and the other in the afternoon (her mom). I pick him up on my way home.

But some problems have arisen and we really don't want to dump our child off with strangers every day so we need to figure out a way for one of us to be home, at least until noon, four days a week. My wife makes more than me, and I go to school, so it might very well be me. It seems not very traditional, in an old fashioned way, but when it comes down to it, dad is better than strangers even if mom is better than dad. And mom being better than dad may or may not be the case, depending on the situation.

So do you know any stay-at-home dads? Was your dad one?
 
I dont know any,... never have; and I dont see a problem with it in the least bit, in fact,... I'd welcome it.

BTW..,. I can understand not wanting to leave your child with a starnger,... but would encourage it when he becomes verbally active becuase then you'll have less to worry about.
 
There's nothinhg wrong with it. In fact it would be a good experience for you and your child. It is only recently that I've started making more than my wife, and she still has the family insurance (better and cheaper than mine), so until last year or so if one of us had to quit it would have been me, hands down.

Let me tell you this, though: don't count daycare totally out of the equation, at least not in a couple years. I've heard the "leave your child with strangers" comment before, and to some extent it is true in infancy. But as the child gets a little older, they form real attachments to good councelors that can be very good for the child. Also, I have seen numerous children (I'm uncle to some of them) who are desperately in need of socialization because they are the product of a closed-loop, stay-at-home care situation. One of my nephews, now age 17, still is not very good at relating to people easily because he stayed at home with my sister all through childhood. Getting comfortable and friendly with a diverse group of other kids, and having a few different authority figures, can be a very broadening thing.
 
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Let me tell you this, though: don't count daycare totally out of the equation, at least not in a couple years. I've heard the "leave your child with strangers" comment before, and to some extent it is true in infancy. But as the child gets a little older, they form real attachments to good councelors that can be very good for the child. Also, I have seen numerous children (I'm uncle to some of them) who are desperately in need of socialization because they are the product of a closed-loop, stay-at-home care situation. One of my nephews, now age 17, still is not very good at relating to people easily because he stayed at home with my sister all through childhood. Getting comfortable and friendly with a diverse group of other kids, and having a few different authority figures, can be a very broadening thing.
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I agree with that. He's almost ten months right now. I imagine we'll be more comfortable with it when he can walk, talk, and eat on his own with a fair degree of proficiency. Also, I wouldn't want to stay home permanently. It could be a great opportunity for me to accelerate my education, too, and then go back to work in a year or two.

There are some people in our family who would say we are overprotective, or too picky. Whatever. It's our perogative.

It's strange how it's never really come up. It's just been assumed that if anyone stayed home it'd be my wife even though that would be totally impractical. Chalk it up to preconceived notions.
 
Grab the chance. Maybe you'll never get it again. ;)

I did it with both my children. Approx. 1½ year with both, due to good Danish opportunities for both a shared birth-leave and a 1 year "child-caring"-leave for both parents. Most of the time we were together on leave, but some of the time I was alone. I wouldn't say its common in Denmark, but it sure isn't unusual.

The young child develops its competences very fast, so I didn't find it boring, but more like a gift to be able to watch them grow. Furthermore I do believe that spending time with your child, being there for them and getting real close will pay of later, when the going get tough with sex, drugs and rock'n'roll. :scared:

Anyway I also think its better for a child to be with its parents, than with its grandmothers. And with your son being only ten month his social needs is aimed on you, and not other children.

Sorry for what may have occurred of bad grammar, but discussion of pedagogy in a foreign language is quite unusual for me. :)
 
its not bad to be taken care of my ur grandparents when your little, i would know, but i see nothing picky about it at all, i think it is a good idea and it will help you bond with your son alot more as he grows up.
 
I was a stay-at-home dad when we first got out of college. My wife's mom came to watch the kids for 30 minutes to an hour in the early evening before the wife came home and I went to work from 5pm to 10pm.

Me and the guys. I had three in diapers at one time!!!:eek:
 
I would be classified as a stay home Pa. My wife has her own business, and makes a very large income, and I always wanted a parent home with the boys, so it's me. It's not real strange how it happened.

When my first son was born, I was in a band touring all over the place trying to hit it big. It never happened, but then the band broke up, and my wife was making a good living with a job that didn't require her to be there a whole lot. So, we both were home most of the time with our first son. But then she started her own business, and I just stayed home. I was never in a band again and just stayed home with my boy and helping my woman out when she needed it. Then boy two came, and it's still the same. I stay home most of the time, she works at home two or three days a week, the oldest, he's 7 years old, is in school, and the three-year-old goes to either day care or grandmas house if either me or my wife needs time for ourselves.

milefile, if you want a kid that can "play well with others" and really gets involved and interacts with other kids, take the little booger to day care. Trust me, he will learn to deal with other people a whole lot better than kids who didn't go to day care before enrolling in school. Day care kids are more "go getters" than non day care kids, trust me on this.
 
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