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Look, i know many of you who will read this, probably dislike me, for whatever the reason you guys have, but, please, just read.

I am sorry, ok? Sorry about saying a lot of crap, sorry about the discussions, sorry about the drama. Sorry about not being calm when i should, sorry about not holding to myself what i also should.

The real reason i am posting this is, i am tired. Tired of being pre-judged, tired of recieving PM's telling me what i should do, tired of PM's insulting me, tired of being reported and etc. Yes, i have total consciousness about it being my own and exclusively fault, yes, i also know what i should do, but know and do not always work perfectly.

I will now, try to explain a little better, how i see this whole situation, inside my head. So, please, put in your mind that is what i think, which may not be the total truth.

One of my first posts on the drifting forum, was in the Pink Twinz thread (Yes, i know i should move on, but it is important to say about it, so, it can be fully understood.) I've went to that thread, and all what i noticed, was someone, with a problem, struggling with english. Me, as a non-natural english speaker know that it is very complicated type in english, even worse if you are nervous. With that in mind, i tried to help, by telling the person to breathe, be calm, and then write, in order to be easily understood and stuff. Then that person, quickly jumped on me, saying that i should go back to school, to watch myself and all.

Me, as a good italian blooded person, got it heat, and replied, aggresively? Maybe... offensive? No. Though, apparently this person was "loved" by many people, i don't know how or exactly why, but very fast a lot of people jumped in, and many things happened. I will not lie, that made me dislike that first person, and some other people.

Then, in the MLD thread, this part i have nothing to say, completly my fault, i indeed provoked. Got a more than deserved infraction because of it. But, that just made my situation around worse. So worse that after this discussion, i couldn't post anything, i mean, anything without get flammed again, or insulted. I've did the mistake on reply those insults, which again, just made my situation worse.

Now there it is, i believe this is in a beyond the limit level, where people who never talked to me, or know me, but probably heard of, make assumptions and goes around saying things. Or send me messages again, telling me what i should do, telling me how i do act.

I mean, don't get me wrong, i know that i am not the easiest person to deal with, i know what i should do when these things happens, i know how i act, but like i said, know and actually apply not always work well, specially if you get irritated. Who here never did something dumb when being irritated?

Some people now might think, but this is internet, you shouldn't take it so serious. Well, sorry, i do. Internet or not, doesn't make difference to me.

Well, i started type this, i think i've lost the track a little, so, i will finish now. I just want this thing to stop. Who thinks some more things needs to be explained, send me a PM, add me in facebook, skype, msn, aim, whatever, i will explain.

P.S. - I know this is not the right place to post this kind of thread, but well, i wanted people from Drifting Forums to read it, so, if possible, if a mod thinks it should be moved, please do.

P.S. 2 - I am posting this as a thread, because i want it to be a general message... well, i think everyone can understand why. Also, sorry about the english mistakes, i know they are there.

I appreciate the attention on reading this, i am sincerely sorry.

~ Millena S.
 
I read it!!! and i must commend you on being open an honest. Ive read a few of your replies and sometimes they seem some what harsh... But your not the only one :-o

just remember... YOU dont need to reply to everything.... Chill laugh an most of all get off here an on GT5 :-)
 
:D i love you post and read it all...
My family is from Sicilia, so i understaind you...
And the must important, you are trying...
Im will be glad to meet you in december on GT5.
and i'm sorry if i say something that hurt your feelings,
i really do...

Te vejo na pista,

abraços
 
Yeah DarkAvengerZR1 like I said in a PM i didn't mean to tell you what to do.... I was trying to tell you that tones in wording can be confused for either happy or mad mood. I see it a lot. No big deal

Also I appreciate you being honest person. I try to be very blunt and honest. I don't treat anyone different on the Internet as I would in real life. I mean what's the point in that. So i respect you for doing this.

To be honest I don't hold grudges either. So after a confrontation or negative discussion or whatever it may be interested forget and move on. So no problem.

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For the case of the Pink Twinz thread, I understood the situation. Both you and Yumi took each other the wrong way, so either one of you is not fully at fault. Yeah, it's best if you two just let it go and move on, like what you've said.

But for the MLD thread, well. That's a totally different story. I didn't know if you were trolling or being serious, but I wasn't able to stand the amount of BS that came from you. I just simply couldn't stand by and watch anymore as my friend is being offended/picked on. Even though the best solution was to simply report your immensely offensive behavior, it has led me to make a completely unnecessary thread, which you also laughed upon (that is clearly BS in my books). But I apologized to daan for that thread. After that I stopped, because there's no more point in arguing with an ignorant smart-a:censored: who has completely no idea of the situation. I won't try to explain the situation to someone who "doesn't really give a damn". If you really don't believe that Yumi and Haruka really had a relationship in real life and that they broke up, then just keep quiet.

Try your best to understand the situation first before saying anything. You might spout something that would have people take it the wrong way.

Which leads us now to this: don't say out loud to public that you don't care for someone/something. There's a certain implication that saying "I don't care" is offensive/rude for those who people who care much about the matter. So if you don't really give a damn about the situation, one of the best options would be to keep quiet and say nothing at all if you don't have something to say that would help the person.

Anyways, apology accepted. I hope that by now, all involved parties have moved on from this predicament. Not a lot of people have enough balls to be open and admit the BS that came from them. Kudos. :)
 
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But for the MLD thread, well. That's a totally different story. I didn't know if you were trolling or being serious, but I wasn't able to stand the amount of BS that came from you. I just simply couldn't stand by and watch anymore as my friend is being offended/picked on. Even though the best solution was to simply report your immensely offensive behavior, it has led me to make a completely unnecessary thread, which you also laughed upon (that is clearly BS in my books). But I apologized to daan for that thread. After that I stopped, because there's no more point in arguing with an ignorant smart-a:censored: who has completely no idea of the situation. I won't try to explain the situation to someone who "doesn't really give a damn". If you really don't believe that Yumi and Haruka really had a relationship in real life and that they broke up, then just keep quiet.
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Allllllright... enough... so in this thread DAZR1 tried to raise the white flag, and apologises herself without pointing directly any names envolved (a polited behavior)... and then you come here to ends the job? Well done, high five?

Who you prejudiced more? DA or those who don´t want to have anymore their names envolved in trashtalks? Doesn´t matter who started or who got deeper anymore.

Also, in the same thread you mentioned about the importance of "let it go", but then you dont? She apologised herself, for God sake. Do you know how hard is to recognize mistakes, specialy in public?... can´t you just let it go? If not, there´s anywhere on GTPlanet a hyperlink called "send private message". Save the community of more hate, and specialy everyone envolved on these "situations".

Peace?
 
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Well, I hope this came out in a positive thing. WE could let this thread die down if DAZ1 wants to close it herself.
 
nk4e
Well, I hope this came out in a positive thing. WE could let this thread die down if DAZ1 wants to close it herself.
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I see what you mean. Your prediction is that there is a huge risk of this thread starts to go to the wrong way, same as happened many times on this subforum? Correct me if i´m wrong about this, and lets face as an exercise of civility, simply for try to keep the things here at least polited. Besides, if DAZ1 want´s to ask for a lock on this thread or not, its stills her decision (or then real mods decision, in case the things starts to become ugly). And like many real mods already said, anything on GTP can be discussed, depending how it´s done.

Yet, i still understand your worry.
 
Well, as a Premo member. She could close the thread herself, we do not need the drama but her message should be read by the affected parties. I am ready to click the report button if I see something starting either by myself or another member.
 
nk4e
Well, as a Premo member. She could close the thread herself, we do not need the drama but her message should be read by the affected parties. I am ready to click the report button if I see something starting either by myself or another member.
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Thanks for the information. I actualy don´t know what priviledges a premium member have, compared to a "standard" user. But stills, its her decision, not yours. Otherwise you can report what and who you want, like probably you did many times. Nothing new so far.

I still have faith in this forum, and i believe that if this thread be done of positive things to be said, it will naturaly dive down. If people dislike such kind of attitude, it will dive down also. And if people start to "wash dirty clothes" here, then everyone loses, specialy by throwing away a chance to show that we all here from the Drifting Forum can act politely.
 
Lazy Liquid
Allllllright... enough... so in this thread DAZR1 tried to raise the white flag, and apologises herself without pointing directly any names envolved (a polited behavior)... and then you come here to ends the job? Well done, high five?
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"End the job"? It's not my intention to make DarkAvengerZR1 look worse than she already has. Like what she did, I explained my side. I explained how I felt back then. I don't mean any harm, I just want to clear up some misunderstandings.

Who you prejudiced more? DA or those who don´t want to have anymore their names envolved in trashtalks? Doesn´t matter who started or who got deeper anymore.
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I'm sorry but this bit that you said here doesn't make sense to me. :confused: Why would I prejudice those who don't want to get involved in nonsense anymore?

Also, in the same thread you mentioned about the importance of "let it go", but then you dont?
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I have long before let it ago, and moved on. Like what I've said, I only explained my side because I want to clear up any misunderstandings.

She apologised herself, for God sake. Do you know how hard is to recognize mistakes, specialy in public?...
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I acknowledge that, and yes I do. I know it is extremely hard to "man up" to your mistakes in public. Because it makes a lot of people aware of what you did.

can´t you just let it go? If not, there´s anywhere on GTPlanet a hyperlink called "send private message". Save the community of more hate, and specialy everyone envolved on these "situations".

Peace?
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My hate for her has long been gone. Look dude, I apologize if you got my post the wrong way. It's in my best interest to clear up whatever misunderstandings I have with other people, as long as they're willing to understand my side.

And yes, peace. :cheers::gtpflag:
 
Allright, =drifting24/7= , no problemo then...

What really bothered myself at the point of decide to start to write here (because originaly i planed to stay away of it) was seeing an unecessary spotlight to some people and situations that she prefered to not mention on her OP. I guess this part was impossible to get to the wrong way, and was an unecessary "unearth" of informations, being bad for the whole process and the people envolved, specialy who you consider that should be defended... i don´t know, i just doubt that anyone stills want to see their names envolved in such issues.

Anyways... Peace? Peace....
Peacepeace... 👍
 
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I appreciate the attention on reading this, i am sincerely sorry.

~ Millena S.
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My opinion on this (even though I don't recall having a problem with you)

This was risky.........But in my opinion it worked.
I will also say this is pretty brave, it's definitely not easy to admit its your fault, posting it and admitting it to the GTPlanet Drifting Community is another thing.

I hope everybody that looked at you badly before looks at you differently now.

nk4e
Well, I hope this came out in a positive thing. WE could let this thread die down if DAZ1 wants to close it herself.
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I also agree with nk4e, I would also close this before others that maybe don't agree with you come in and start ranting.

Just remember if you need any support just give us a holler.

LJ
 
I won't close, because i still hope that people can deal with things politely, and also another reasons. If it needs to be locked, then it will.

But thanks for the feedback.
 
I really like this here, I do understand the courage it took for you to apologize in front of the drifting community, As others stated. That being said; I fully accept your apology. And may this never happen again, I also apologize to you if I jumped on you in a wrong way. It happens to everyone, I don't believe Dark is a bad person. We all have our moments, but not all of us have the courage to admit it like she did, all due respect for that, I'd like to move on completely :) (This is Yumi, of the Pink Twinz)
 

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