Understanding a Female.

[BubbleBelly542]

I am so confused right now. Maybe (probably) it's just me being young and dumb, but I don't know what to do. It's rare that I find a girl who wants to talk to, and this is the first time a girls has ever told me she "likes" me. Sounds so elementary...

Anyways, she said she likes me but, she also has a boyfriend. How does that work? I don't think she intends on breaking up with him. Just makes no sense. And what can I do? I don't want to just sit back and do nothing. She said if she wasn't with him she would want to be with me.

Pardon if this is in the wrong place or if there is some thread pertaining to this. I couldn't find any.

 

[Machate-man]

Likely "likes you" as a friend, rather than a lifetime companion.
Remember to spot this, as you dont want to ruin someone else's relationship.

 

[Famine]

She said if she wasn't with him she would want to be with me.

But she is with him.

Walk away. Don't do anything to drive a wedge in someone else's relationship. Besides, chances are that if she'll play about behind his back, she'll do the same to you down the line.

Walk. Away.

 

[Biggamehit]

Friend Zone equals danger zone.

Don't search for girls man.... let them come to you enjoy your life. Don't be like the thousands of guys who have no life because they are afraid to be themselves. This doesn't require you to be a man sl*t but ..... just dont rush it bro there are alot of them available.

PS

The first question you need to ask her is " how man sandwiches per minute can you prepare"

 

[Moglet]

But she is with him.

Walk away. Don't do anything to drive a wedge in someone else's relationship. Besides, chances are that if she'll play about behind his back, she'll do the same to you down the line.

Walk. Away.

If you ever need good advice, read the indigo. 99% of the time it works.

All you can do is back off, she's probably only told you to get it off her chest. She has a boyfriend and she isn't going to break up with him for you so put it out of your mind and go about your life as if it didn't happen. Otherwise you'll end up wanting something you can't have. It's not a good place to be.

 

[Syntax error]

But she is with him.

Walk away. Don't do anything to drive a wedge in someone else's relationship. Besides, chances are that if she'll play about behind his back, she'll do the same to you down the line.

Walk. Away.

This.


And in regards to your question about understanding a female, I'm sorry to say but just like the rest of us, you never will.

 

[homeforsummer]

"Understanding a Female"

There's your problem, right there.

 

[Robin]

If she says she likes you but has a boyfriend thats code for 'the third wheel', walk away!

 

[AudioSpark]

*Reads topic title*

*Fails to comprehend*

Dude, understanding women is nigh on impossible. Your best bet is trial and error, and learn from past experiences, if something feels like deja vu from a situation that happened before with bad results, you're better off leaving it alone. But as far as understanding them, they'll let us think we do. Purely because then we would never think to second guess them. My tidbit of advice.

Oh, and I'll +1 what Famine said. 👍

 

[shmogt]

Screw it man you gotta seduce her to wanting you more than ever. Have her break up with her bf and be with you. Show the world who the real Alfa male is.

 

[tlowr4]

But she is with him.

Walk away. Don't do anything to drive a wedge in someone else's relationship. Besides, chances are that if she'll play about behind his back, she'll do the same to you down the line.

Walk. Away.

^^ This.

But don't literally walk away, and don't literally avoid her. Just hang around as a friend, and she will make her choice. 9 will give you 10 she's probably just as confused.

EDIT: @shmogt

...Show the world who the real Alfa male is.

We aren't bears or lions, strange as it may seem. Being strong and being the 'Alfa Male' has very little to do with these sorts of situations. I will bet if he follows your advice of "Have her break up with her be and be with you.", it'll come back and bite him in the arse later on in life, unless he's a cruel hearted 🤬 and doesn't care about anything. Which I highly, highly doubt.

 

[Slick Rick]

Possibly just flirting, some girls just like to mess with you.... for fun. I wouldnt walk away but put in the minimal effort, let her chase you. That way your not splitting her up from her boyfriend if its her and you will know then that she has feelings for you if she wants to spend time with you. If she looses interest dont worry, she has a man already and your not going to go after someone that has a boyfriend just because they said they like you.
Dont obsess about it too much, play it cool if you enjoy her company carry on how it is and see where it takes you....

 

[Ibonibo]

You are her back up plan.
Don't wait. Next number....

 

[shmogt]

^^ This.

But don't literally walk away, and don't literally avoid her. Just hang around as a friend, and she will make her choice. 9 will give you 10 she's probably just as confused.

EDIT: @shmogt

We aren't bears or lions, strange as it may seem. Being strong and being the 'Alfa Male' has very little to do with these sorts of situations. I will bet if he follows your advice of "Have her break up with her be and be with you.", it'll come back and bite him in the arse later on in life, unless he's a cruel hearted 🤬 and doesn't care about anything. Which I highly, highly doubt.

Actually we kinda are since we are in the mammal family. The biggest, strongest, most protective will always land the females. He layed out part two for you OP. time to act lol.

 

[Solid Lifters]

 

[G.T]

This title is a paradox...

 

[wfooshee]

There is no understanding. They are the challenge that makes life not boring. They frustrate, they reward, they confuse, they manipulate, they love, they . . . well, see, they're human, kinda like us guys.

Ya know what? They say the same things amongst themselves about us that we do about them.

"What is that guy thinking?" "Who can ever understand guys?"

OK, there is some truth to the thought that if nookie is involved that we become quite predictable, but that's not entirely 100% true.

But in this particular instance, "like" does not mean "Ooh, take me now!" And there is the point Famine made, which my ex-wife's husband apparently failed to consider: if she'll leave someone for you, what does that say about her and what relationships mean?

 

[motortrend]

Since you pretty much got the info you need for your particular occasion, I present you with the book for understanding females:

 

[terminator363]

Do her. 👍

 

[Driving Park]

You are her back up plan.

Which is a situation you don't want to be in. After all, you want The One, not The Two, right?

some girls just like to mess with you.... for fun.

And this is the impression I'm getting for this situation.

Screw it man you gotta seduce her to wanting you more than ever. Have her break up with her bf and be with you.

You know...the OP never stated that he likes/wants to be with the girl back. He could simply be wondering why she would tell him when she's already with someone.

Show the world who the real Alfa male is.

You can be an Alfa male sometimes, but other times you've got to be Romeo.

When do you do though, make sure it's an 8C, that'll do the trick.

 

[Machate-man]

Screw it man you gotta seduce her to wanting you more than ever. Have her break up with her bf and be with you. Show the world who the real Alfa male is.

Breaking up relationships for your own benefit only causes problems for all involved. Unnecessary drama IMO...

Drama is fun to watch, but is 👎 to be caught up in.

Actually we kinda are since we are in the mammal family. The biggest, strongest, most protective will always land the females. He layed out part two for you OP. time to act lol.

If you're an animal, then you'll attract other female animals with your Alpha Male aura...

 

[McLaren]

Screw it man you gotta seduce her to wanting you more than ever. Have her break up with her bf and be with you. Show the world who the real Alfa male is.

Actually we kinda are since we are in the mammal family. The biggest, strongest, most protective will always land the females. He layed out part two for you OP. time to act lol.

Why should he even remotely take your advice halfway seriously? You can't even spell "Alpha" right.

 

[W3H5]

You might understand a woman once you marry her, but by the it's far too late.

 

[shmogt]

Why should he even remotely take your advice halfway seriously? You can't even spell "Alpha" right.

Lol now that guys 8C joke makes sense. I type on my phone it corrects to what it wants. Seriously tho I was half joking about this before, but if you have always kind of liked her and now she's admitting she likes you too than screw her bf and just steal her away, he obviously is gonna get dumped soon enough if she's telling other dudes she likes them. If your just wondering as to her true intentions since you said chicks never really hit on you before who knows. I'm assuming your high schooling and girls than don't know what there talking about or want themselves. Hang with her some more see what's up and how she is normally than decide what you wanna do. However the most important advice I can give is do not mentally talk yourself into seriously liking this girl if your not already going out with her for a while. Trust me it will screw up your life non stop thinking about the girl you can't have.

 

[Driving Park]

if you have always kind of liked her

That still remains an assumption until the OP says he does.

he obviously is gonna get dumped soon enough if she's telling other dudes she likes them.

Not necessarily.

I'm assuming your high schooling and girls than don't know what there talking about or want themselves.

There's ANOTHER problem with this situation.

However the most important advice I can give is do not mentally talk yourself into seriously liking this girl if your not already going out with her for a while. Trust me it will screw up your life non stop thinking about the girl you can't have.

👍

 

[TheCracker]

Do her. 👍

^ This. 👍

If she says she likes you but has a boyfriend thats code for 'the third wheel', walk away!

Third wheels don't need to wine and dine or do the caring, good-listener boyfriend bit - BF has that covered. You just get the good stuff. Win-win.

 

[zedextreme8177]

Understanding a Female.

Is near-impossible

Especially in your case, I'd suggest leaving her.

 

[mattythedog]

This.

And in regards to your question about understanding a female, I'm sorry to say but just like the rest of us, you never will.

"Understanding a Female"

There's your problem, right there.

*Reads topic title*

*Fails to comprehend*

Dude, understanding women is nigh on impossible.:

You might understand a woman once you marry her, but by the it's far too late.

Is near-impossible

Especially in your case, I'd suggest leaving her.

I hope no women read this thread. They'd get such a bad impression of the male gender.

 

[homeforsummer]

I hope no women read this thread. They'd get such a bad impression of the male gender.

Wait, you mean they respect us at the moment?...

 

[tlowr4]

Stay friends. Don't try anything unless she does something. Listen to Famine. That is all.

EDIT: For all you pervvy's that have been saying "Do her!", why has no one come up with the idea of getting the other boyfriend in on the act as well, if you know what I mean.

However, this is clearly the worst course of action... in my semi-experienced opinion, but by all means if you're a male (can I say the 'S' world that sounds like 'butt' on here?) then go for it! However I doubt you're that type.