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I just met a very pretty girl, who seems to be very inteligent too. She is on my english class. The best part of this is that the teacher grouped us first in couples,then added another couple to the already existing couple, making a group of four. Anyways, I am "stuck" to her till the end of the semester, so I guess that is a good thing. I said that at the end we ended up being four, but in the very first day, there were only the first couples. The assignment was to get personal data about both of us and make like a little biography of ourselves. The good thing is that I know here, and she knows me. But today I had class, and didnt have the courage to talk to her. It is all because of me and my damn shyness (sp). Everytime I get near her, the nerves get over me.

Anyways, I dont want to make a big deal about this, worse to show her how I am feeling, but you know If I want to get closer to her, I have to open my mouth.

So I was trying to get some advice on how to beat my shyness (sp). Like something to do or read to kill my introvertive side.
 
Just talk to her. When you get nervous say to yourself "Damnit! Go away! TALK YOU MORON!" and just talk to her like shes one of your friends. :odd:
 
Originally posted by milefile
Picture her pushing out a gigantic turd on the pot, red-faced and grunting.
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:odd:


Exactly! Now you'll no longer find her attractive, and shouldn't have any problems talking to her.:p
 
Well, you have a whole semester, so the worst thing you can do is rush it.

The second-worst thing you can do is think about her sexually, because then in your mind you will objectify her and be unable to treat her as an equal...

... Which is the best thing you can do. Just be calm for a month or so, and then ramp up the conversation. Once you get to know her a bit better, it will be easier to talk to her. Only then will you be able to work out what to do.

But definitely heed my first two points.
 
Originally posted by milefile
Picture her pushing out a gigantic turd on the pot, red-faced and grunting.
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I dont think I would wanna talk to them if I'm imagining them doing that. :odd:
 
Originally posted by Josh
:odd:


Exactly! Now you'll no longer find her attractive, and shouldn't have any problems talking to her.:p
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Right. Someone gave me that advice once when I was afraid to ask a girl to dance. I think the purpose is to bring her down off the pedestal you've probably put her on, and see her as just another person, which is how you should probably treat her to start off with. People are attracted to you because of the way you are, not the way you might try to be to impress them.

Also, I thought it was funny and my self effacing attitude at the time needed a bit of goofyness.

I got married before I figured out all the various ways you could make yourself very unattractive to a girl. But I did learn they are quite numerous and unpredictable, and the best way to avoid it is to be yourself... be relaxed and confident about it.

I wish I had a place like GTP back in the mid nineteen eighties when I was first asking these same questions.
 
Originally posted by milefile
Right. Someone gave me that advice once when I was afraid to ask a girl to dance. I think the purpose is to bring her down off the pedestal you've probably put her on, and see her as just another person, which is how you should probably treat her to start off with. People are attracted to you because of the way you are, not the way you might try to be to impress them.
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When I was 15-22 I used to make a living by stealing things (I'd say which things, but I'm not certain that the statute of limitations is up) and one day at school, I had a bit of stolen property in my pack. I was so afraid of being arrested that when the girl I had liked for some time walked in to the room, I wasn't even afraid in the slightest to talk to her (she was the least of my problems!!). So on an impluse I asked her out right there and she said yes! Not that I condone stealing things, though I did pay back all my college loans with that money and get a secondhand Land Rover...
 
Originally posted by GilesGuthrie
That must have been some steal!
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At the time, there were a few police cars outside so I was afraid someone saw me. But it doesn't matter because the crimes were basically victimless... ish.
 
Blah Doug, I've stolen a CD-Rom drive, today I stole a GE lightswitch cover, and some other stuff. I've never stolen anything from a store or like that, besides, I think Parkway should have to pay me to go to thier crappy schools...

Tercel, if you are smarter than her(doubt it...), do as much work as you can, and help her with it. Inevitably, you will talk to her that way...
 
Originally posted by MazKid
Blah Doug, I've stolen a CD-Rom drive, today I stole a GE lightswitch cover, and some other stuff.
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Pfft.

I've never stolen anything from a store or like that,
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Nor have I. Store robberies have victims - usually the thief!
 
yea lol.

Did you steal that Mountaineer Doug? Before you had one, I didn't know anyone who would actually buy one... :lol:
 
Originally posted by MazKid
yea lol.

Did you steal that Mountaineer Doug? Before you had one, I didn't know anyone who would actually buy one... :lol:
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I bought it for about half what it was worth. Are you telling me you can't find beauty somewhere in its shape? :drool:
 
Originally posted by M5Power
I used to make a living by stealing things (I'd say which things, but I'm not certain that the statute of limitations is up)
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Wtf? You can't just...not tell us...damnit!:banghead:
 
Originally posted by Josh
Wtf? You can't just...not tell us...damnit!:banghead:
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Oh go on AIM and I'll tell you, you hick.

I'm even willing to sign in to Yahoo! Messenger to talk to you!
 
Yes, it's a mass of shear putrid, Doug. :lol:

Well...uhh...the wheels are sorta ok... ;)
 
Originally posted by RVDNuT374
Back on topic: Just talk to the girl.:D


*If only i wasn't such a quiet asshole, i could get girls.;) :p *
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I'd think a noisy ass-hole would repel pretty much anybody.
 
If I wasn't so quiet, I'd be able to talk to girls.

*goes to look in a mirror* "I'm smart enough, I'm good enough, and dog-gone it, people like me" :lol:

Naa. If I talked more I'd still be useless. There's just no want for a kid that actually could work for a major car company right now if laws abided(they might...).

But I honestly am not worried. I think, for the mean time anyway, it's better being alone. Once I get my career started then I'll see, but for right now, it's all good.
 
My advice: don't let her looks distract you. Get to know her for who she really is. The worst thing to happen is to find out that you've been infatuated with some girl for three months that's a real slave-master and already has two boyfriends.
 
Originally posted by rjensen11
My advice: don't let her looks distract you. Get to know her for who she really is. The worst thing to happen is to find out that you've been infatuated with some girl for three months that's a real slave-master and already has two boyfriends.
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:banghead: :lol:
 
Hey whats up. This is not like an update of what happened, because nothing happened today. It was more like a normal day. We didnt have to regroup; we just saw a video and answer a page with questions about it. Then, the class ended, so I just got out of the room and went towards the computer lab. On my way there I found her, sitting on one of the cafeteria tables alone, and I said "sure why not, ill talk to her" but something inside stopped me and said "talk about what?", so I continued my old path. The thing is I want to walk out of the room with her, so you know to make the conversation out of something not of anything. You know, it would feel weird to all of sudden see somebody pop up in front of you and say hi, isnt it?


Or was I wrong. Should I have talk to her in that moment?, what do you think I should have done?

The thing is I want to find the opportunity to be regrouped with her, and then continue the conversation from there, but I dont know about this, as Giles said, it is better not to rush things.

I really dont know what would be the best thing to do. Pretty much inside the classroom, my choices are restricted to none.

I know patience is a key, but it feels awful to wait for the day to find her, and just let the day go.

I just need input to do the most suitable thing here, and If you say it is, I'll do it. I dont have a lot of experience on these things.



I have another question though, how can I change my nick without beginning from 0, do I have to have "x" number of posts to do that?, because I dont feel like carrying this nick with me on these boards.
 
Originally posted by Tercel_driver



Or was I wrong. Should I have talk to her in that moment?, what do you think I should have done?
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If you were going to be all nervous it's probably best you avoided it for now. You probably would've made her nervous, too.

But you could always talk about class right? All first conversations with a girl are typically inane drivel and both parties know what is really being said, behind the actual words. So I wouldn't worry about that.

She probably already knows you like her.
 
Originally posted by milefile

She probably already knows you like her.
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:eek:

OMG! Are you sure about that?!

How could that be?


:confused:


I mean, I am not that type of person that shows what's he feeling by looking at the face.

I mean, on my first conversation, everything went fine. I even asked her what was her favorite color. That of course without screwing it with the "do you have a bf/gf" type of questions.
 
Originally posted by Tercel_driver


I mean, on my first conversation, everything went fine. I even asked her what was her favorite color.
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Right there. I would never ask a girl that question unless I wanted her.
 
Don't beat yourself up. This could work to your advantage.

Oh, and if by some chance she comes on to you do not freak out and reject her. I did this twice in high school. Man was I stupid.

:banghead:
 

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