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I have not even been able to lurk about as usual.
My gout has been giving me fits, and keeping me from getting easily to the basement to use the computer.
Also, about a week ago one of my staff went on a bachelor trip with his buds last week, he was to be married this past Saturday, and he died.
So, his fiancee, went from planning a wedding to planning a funeral.
They were both in thier early twenties.
There has been much emotional upheaval in my life and my clinic, and as much as I enjoy you guys and gals, IRL concerns kept me from coming in to hang out.
 
That's terrible to hear. I hope things start working out for the better for you and your family/friends.
 
Oh I've noticed you haven't been around.

Sorry to hear about every, but just remember things always get better and if you stay somewhat positive you can make a bad situation a little better.
 
Sorry to hear that, Bird Dude. Life is weird here, too.

A plane falls out of the sky and nearly crashes on top of us. The helicopters have been hovering overhead all day. Felt weird; like a war zone.

My mother slipped and fell, and got hurt. (She refuses to get new kitchen tiles; her current floor is like walking on wet ice.) Of course, she wouldn't go to the hospital.

My Roland SDE-3000 that I got back from $200 of repairs a few weeks ago, is broken again. (Same problem; non functional gain input). It wouldn't be so bad if the repair guy wasn't such a liar, weasel prickhead, you know?

The rest of the guitar effects aren't working well with each other. I've spent bent over the last two hours trying to get them to work with screaming kids, barking dog, buzzing helicopters and a woman who cannot shut about 'What's for dinner.' With horrible knee pain, back pain and a headache that'll kill King Kong, it ain't all party favors and roses here, either.

With all that, it's not even close to what you're going through at work. Just hang in there. Stay tuff. We'll see you when things get settled.

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Just keep it up. You'll get through it. Don't let it get to you too much.

I know I haven't been about as much, but for happier reasons. I'm starting to hang out with friends more and more.
 
Well, I noticed your absence, of course, but life often gets in the way. I'm very sorry to hear it's a little more hardship than normal.
 
Gil
I have not even been able to lurk about as usual.
My gout has been giving me fits, and keeping me from getting easily to the basement to use the computer.
Also, about a week ago one of my staff went on a bachelor trip with his buds last week, he was to be married this past Saturday, and he died.
So, his fiancee, went from planning a wedding to planning a funeral.
They were both in thier early twenties.
There has been much emotional upheaval in my life and my clinic, and as much as I enjoy you guys and gals, IRL concerns kept me from coming in to hang out.
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Sorry to hear all this, I hope things get better.

If you don't mind me asking, how did the guy die so young?
 
Damn, thats some tough stuff to deal with.

IRL always overrides this place I say.

And my father has Gout, so I'm mildly familiar with how debilitating it can be when it flairs up... I just hope their is no genetic connection on it.

Hope things get better, sounds like you could use the break from troubles.
 
Gil
I have not even been able to lurk about as usual.
My gout has been giving me fits, and keeping me from getting easily to the basement to use the computer.
Also, about a week ago one of my staff went on a bachelor trip with his buds last week, he was to be married this past Saturday, and he died.
So, his fiancee, went from planning a wedding to planning a funeral.
They were both in thier early twenties.
There has been much emotional upheaval in my life and my clinic, and as much as I enjoy you guys and gals, IRL concerns kept me from coming in to hang out.
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:ouch: Wow.

I'm planning towards a wedding myself. I can't begin to imagine how hard going through that would be.:sick:

My thoughts go out to you and your staff member's Fiancee.
 
Sorry to hear that Bird Man.

I'm sure you'll get through the emotional turmoil, you just need time.
 
It's horrible when people die so young (at any age but particularly when so young) one of my Godparents sons was killed in a fire on the Isle of Wight a couple of weeks ago, he was only in his twenties, shows the dangers of candles.

When life is hard it's even harder to fight on but we manage somehow, hope things improve Gil and anyone else having a hard time of it.
 
Perfect Balance
Sorry to hear all this, I hope things get better.

If you don't mind me asking, how did the guy die so young?
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Thank you all for that sentiment, and kind words and wishes.
I need 'em. I had put a lot of time into this guy, and he had reached the turning point, and was becoming a pretty good employee.
I have been doing a lot of self motivation, prayer, and my staff, for all their "strong personality", is being very supportive of me and each other.

As to the question of how?
I truly don't know.
He apparently suffocated nice and quietly in his pillow.
He had had a few beers, but not excessive (per reports).
He did drive from KC to Orlando, nearly directly after working nearly a ten hour day.

I suspect that he "threw a PE" (Pulmonary Embolism).
Those of you who have nurse friends and family have probably heard the phrase "threw a clot"...
For the rest of you, that means that if you sit too long, especially if you are a smoker (and he was), You are likely to form small blood clots in your lower extremities, from the pressure on the backs of your thighs.
If one of these clots becomes mobile, it could reach your heart and cut off blood flow, killing you fairly quickly, quietly, and with little pain.

The lesson: If you're travelling, stop every two-three hours, get out of the vehicle, stretch, walk around, etc, to literally "get the blood floowing again".
Also, change positions as possible, every 20 minutes or so in your seat to re-apportion your weight.
 
Man that is terrible. And now for the almost freaky part.

My mom is a wedding photographer. She is supposed to be photographing a wedding this weekend, but the bride died in a car accident last saturday. Like your case, from Wedding to Funeral.
 
Update:
For those of you that were wondering...
I have the death cert in hand.
COD: "unknown".
I assume that means not able to determine.
 
That's sad, the whole story is sad.

I don't think I would ever feel complete unless I knew exactly why a family member or friend died, it just wouldn't seem fair I guess.
 
Gil, you have my sympathies.

I too suffer from gout, and it's truly appalling. Worse than that, being unable to rest during the periods of gout has actually caused me to lunch the ligaments in my knee, so I'm currently on drugs and exercises to sort that out! I had to cancel a meeting last week because I knew that it involved going up a bunch of stairs, and I wouldn't be able to do it.
 
GilesGuthrie
Gil, you have my sympathies.

I too suffer from gout, and it's truly appalling. Worse than that, being unable to rest during the periods of gout has actually caused me to lunch the ligaments in my knee, so I'm currently on drugs and exercises to sort that out! I had to cancel a meeting last week because I knew that it involved going up a bunch of stairs, and I wouldn't be able to do it.
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On the gout front:
My nephrologist told me (after five monts of suffering) "Why didn't you go to the ER? They would have pumped you full of steroids and you would have felt better in about 3 days."
So, she gave me an rx for prednisone and colchicine for severe outbreaks, and I can walk again!
The only thing really griping me now is the pain in my left middle finger.
No off-hand flip-offs, but more concerning is that it interferes with my guitar playing.

As for the other, I maintain my "suspicions" regarding his death.
I just hope that his fiance is doing ok.
I want to call her, but I'm at a loss as to what to say.
 
Gil
On the gout front:
My nephrologist told me (after five monts of suffering) "Why didn't you go to the ER? They would have pumped you full of steroids and you would have felt better in about 3 days."
So, she gave me an rx for prednisone and colchicine for severe outbreaks, and I can walk again!
The only thing really griping me now is the pain in my left middle finger.
No off-hand flip-offs, but more concerning is that it interferes with my guitar playing.

As for the other, I maintain my "suspicions" regarding his death.
I just hope that his fiance is doing ok.
I want to call her, but I'm at a loss as to what to say.
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Thats one way to handle gout it sounds like. I certainly hope I do not develop it, as my dad does have it =/

What I always tell people who have suffered a great loss is (and its more so relevant if they are Christian)

That their loved one is in a better place, watching over them. And their loved one wouldn't not want them to remember their death, but celebrate their life, and move forward in life with hope and optimism, because they would not want them to be sad.

Something along those lines, because I find it is the truth. And I do feel remembering the person's life rather than their death is crucial, because you burn the good they did into you mind, rather than a loss.
 

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