A good friend of mine died Tuesday...

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It's an odd feeling. I've never had anyone close to me die. Over the past four years we've never had a death in our class. So here we all are in our senior year. Life is going great. Over the past two years I've developed a great and close friendship with a girl named Nicole. She was outgoing and funny. Never without a smile. That all changed Tuesday. She was driving home from work and lost control of her car. She flipped it. SHe wasn't wearing a seatbelt and snapped her neck. It'd very very strange. The same day I was hugging her and talking about her coming over to my house tonight. That night when I got the call I was in shock. I couldn't believe the news. NIcole couldn't have died. There's no way. I had just spoken with her in the school parking lot that same day. She had to come over Friday, she couldn't be dead. After recieving well over 30 calls in 10 minutes I knew it was true. Nicole was dead. I didn't sleep that night. I went to a friends house and just stayed up all night with her. Looking at pictures of her was tough. It was hard to swallow the fact that she wasn't here anymore. I still am in shock. I haven't gone to school for the past two days. I had 2nd and 3rd period with her. After going to school Wednesday with no sleep and seeing my whole class torn apart, I couldn't come back. I went to 2nd period Wednesday and promplty left. Walking in a not seeing her sit ther was the toughest thing I've ever had to go through.

I've made this thread for one reason really. I want to ask a question.

Nicole was awesome. An all around wonderful person. She liked everyone. She was liked by everyone. She just finished volleyball season and was starting basketball. SHe had a 3.4 gradepoint average. She was being watched by many different colleges and was more than likely going to be the first person at Cass High to win a scholorship for Volleyball from Rhinehart. This girl had everyone good in the world going for her.

Why did she have to die? God could have taken a rapist or a killer but he chose Nicole. Why?

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I am terribly sorry to hear that! I think a lot of us have experienced this feeling and it sticks around for a long time and you will always remember her and the feeling you had around her. Hang in there and dont be afraid to talk to people and friends about your feelings. It will get better in time. Again very sorry to hear about Nicole. :guilty:
 
Sorry to hear, I have felt this feeling afew times. It takes time and you will feel better.
 
I'm terribly sorry to hear that man, my condolences to her family. I myself lost a good friend in a street racing accident. :guilty:
 
A friend of mine did this weekend also. He was only 17. He was driving back from a friend's house at 4am (E.S.T.) so that he and his dad would go hunting that morning. They think he drifted asleep then woke up as he was drifting into another lane and panicked. His window was open and he wasn't wearing a seat belt and it threw him half way out of the SUV and it rolled over him. He died instantly.
 
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Why did she have to die? God could have taken a rapist or a killer but he chose Nicole. Why?
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Well, at the risk of sounding flip - and believe me, I'm not trying to make light of this sad event - she died because she chose to drive without her seatbelt on.

Whether you choose to lay that on some Ultimate Plan or not is up to you. The standard non-answer is that "God works in mysterious ways" that we mere humans can never understand.

The other side of the coin is that a random series of non-controllable events (general conditions) coincided with a series of bad decisions or mistakes on her part (driving too fast, or inattentively, or whatever, and not wearing a highly effective safety device) to result in the end of a young and promising life.

She may have still died, even with a seatbelt on. The physics of chance can still wind up outside of your control. But that doesn't mean her death was ordained.

In any case, in all sincerity, you have my deepest sympathy and my thoughts are with her parents. Her fault or not, it's still a tragedy.
 
Two deaths in one thread, two people not utilising the full panoply of safety equipment their vehicle came with.
 
im sorry to hear this guys, my condolences to the familys. Im lucky and havnt had anyone close to me that has died. Maybe her time was up, she had learnt/got what she needed from this life and it was time to move on. Who knows why she was taken at this time. All you can do is hope she went to a better place, and that shes enjoying herself.
 
Man sorry to hear that but Vipfreak told me VIa AIM his friends cousin or brother or someone comitted suicide! So thats 3 death now!
 
I'm really sorry to hear what had happened man. Be strong. My condolences to her family.
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Man, sorry to hear that. I'm one of the lucky few who havn't had anybody close to them die, and I realy don't want that to happen any time soon.:(
 
I'm sure she was as beautiful as you descrbed her. Sorry to hear about the loss of your good friend.

I never hesitate once I sit my butt in a car. The first thing I do is grab for the belt. I even belt myself in if I move the car five feet. I can't remember NOT to use it. It's a good habit to have.
 
Oh, wow. Reading this is making me choke up... it is very sad. I've never lost anyone close to me, and I don't know what it ould feel like. It sounds awful... I hope I never have to go through this. Nobody should.
 
SHe wasn't wearing a seatbelt and snapped her neck.
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His window was open and he wasn't wearing a seat belt and it threw him half way out of the SUV and it rolled over him.
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By now everyone should know to wear their seatbelt. I'm sure you were good friends, I have a great friend who refuses to wear a seatbelt when he's in the back seat. How can peope so smart in some aspects be so careless with their lives? It honestly pisses me off when I hear about kids being so reckless.

Why did she have to die? God could have taken a rapist or a killer but he chose Nicole. Why?
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Check your assumptions.

I'm sorry to hear that your friend died. I've never lost anyone close to me, but I can imagine that it is excruciating. At least you have your religion to comfort you. The best thing you can do at this point (and probably one of the hardest) is to remember her.
 
I've never lost a friend, but I have lost family members.

Anyways, a friend of mine nearly lost himself after one of his friend's death. He planned on going up North to commit suicide away from home, but after nearly being killed in a what was a very close call accident, he changed his mind after knowing what death would nearly be like.

I never go out and drive without a seat belt. Unless on my neighborhood street. But once on the highway, I never go on without it. I admit, sometimes, I go faster than I should, and have nearly had my share of accidents.

Terribly sorry for your loss. :guilty:
 
Her viewing was last night. It wasn't as bad as I thought it was going to be. It was a closed casket. Still isn't fun to know that she's actually in there. Her funeral is today at 2. It's going to be in the schools gymnasium since that is where she spent most of her time.
 
Some people think of death as a release, a gift from God, rather than a curse or a punishment. While it leaves the rest of the person's family and friends on Earth to wonder why and how - questions that really have no answer - thinking of death this way makes it a little easier. I don't want to get into the cliched notions of it being "God's plan" or saying she was taken because "God needed her," because neither of those phrases helps at all. Suffice it to say your friend Nicole is with God, and we will never understand His ways. Cling to the hope that one day you will meet her again, and make sure you surround yourself with friends and family of your own, where you can remember her in an environment that will allow you to grieve in a healthy way. Don't cut yourself off and lock yourself in your room. Try to eat a little bit of food, and get together with Nicole's other friends that you know so you can all support each other. You are free do grieve in any way you want, but don't forget to take care of yourself too. Nicole wouldn't want any more harm to come from her death, would she?

Hope I helped, I know how hard it is to lose someone, especially at your age (I'm not talking down to you, only saying that friendships are often way more intense and emotional for adolescents; a young person dying is horrible.)
 
Very sorry to hear that. You have my deepest sympathies. One of my friends died about 4 months ago, he was over speeding apparently and was not wearing a seatbelt. He tried overtaking another vehicle and lost control. This made him crash into a lampost on the other side of the road. He was thrown clear of the vehicle and died later on in hospital. :guilty:
 
Three fatal car accidents, three people not wearing seatbelts.
 
I know it's tough to lose someone that close. I lost my brother three years ago in a car accident. From you're description, his accident was the same as hers. He flipped his car and landed on the roof, killing him (although I do not know if he was wearing his seatbelt or not). I was hinted at by my sister that that isn't the full story. If that's true, I'm know I'm not ready to hear the full story.

Anyway, I know exactly how you feel. The best thing you can do now is move on and remember all the good times you had together.
 
Well, the funeral was today. Over 1,200 people packed into my schools gymnasium. It was my first funeral really. I hadn't been to one since i was seven years old. My girlfriend was best friends with her. It's been very difficult seeing how she's taken it. She's been brave though. After NIcole's death Tuesday things have changed. My friends and I are closer, we buckle up everywhere we go, we respect driving laws, and we all sincerely miss Nicole. I stopped by her house Wednesday after her accident. I could tell her mom was having a difficult tie but I'm sure she appreciated the visit from all of us. We brought her flowers and I gave her a hug. I tried to be brave and fight back the tears inside their home but hugging her mom I couldn't help but break down. I didn't let her mom see, I turned away. I had class with her brother Josh last year. I can't imagine how he's handling the situation. I can't imagine a worse feeling than the one I've had over the past few days.

Since Tuesday I've come to accept that NIcole's gone. She touched so many people. I don't really cry anymore, I smile instead. She was such a great person and I'm certain she's happier where she is. God works in mysterious ways and we all know this. NIcole was an angel and God wanted her back. She was to special to stay here. My 2nd and 3rd period won't be the same. I'm sure she'll be there though.

I'm going to miss her.
 
Glad to see you are handling things well. :) If you need to talk, IM on AIM (badmamajama1337) or email me (charlesdailey@gmail.com).
 

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