Hey guys, what do you want me to do? She doesn't like them. I know the two of you have plenty of cars that look great on paper but that you wouldn't buy because you don't like the styling. Yea, wagons make more sense for us, but how am I supposed to get her to change her tastes? I'd rather that she had a car she enjoyed owning than one that made more sense.
A vehicle purchase is a combination of rational and emotional factors. A sports car I can see being a highly emotional purchase.
The vehicle you want to purchase is largely a thing of utility. Generally not an emotional purchase.
I don't like the way pickup trucks look and I have no desire to own one. But if I decided that a pickup truck is what I
needed to buy for whatever reason, I would buy one.
A CUV is just a jacked up wagon. They offer almost no advantages over a similarly sized wagon but have a long list of disadvantages. High center of gravity. Greater unsprung weight. Aerodynamic drag. Higher fuel consumption... just to name a few.
If you just explain to the Mrs. that in order to get the "look" she wants, she's going to have to give up a lot of good solid choices, maybe it will change her outlook. You're one of the most rational people here, so I presume you married a pretty sensible girl

Maybe she just doesn't know the facts. An X5 and a 5-series Touring isn't simply a matter of "one looks cool and trendy and the other looks like a 60 year old grandma's car". The X5 weighs more, sucks down more gas, rides worse, handles worse, is noisier, slower and you don't really get any more space inside. All you get is to sit higher up and couple more inches of ground clearance that you're never going to use.
Like I said earlier, we had a Murano. The Mrs. wanted it. After a few years she got over the tall ride height and trendy styling thing and decided a wagon made more sense. There's nothing the Murano did that her Audi doesn't do. And the allroad does things the Murano couldn't dream of doing. The Murano isn't a bad vehicle. I would still recommend it. But the wagon is just so much better at pretty much everything.
It's not a big deal. Get whatever makes you happy. But just take a moment and think about whether or not you really need to sit a few inches higher off the ground.
And btw, I generally don't let styling alone influence what car to buy. It
helps, but it's not a deal breaker nor deal maker. Hell, I want a GT-R, and I think it looks hideous.
EDIT: Just thought of another option. Infiniti EX35. An '08 should be right in your price range.
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