Big Papa Rumple

[Rumple Foreskin]

A lot's been going on that has kept me away from GTP for quite a while and now I have even more going on. Here's my tale.

My 17 yr old girlfriend is pregnant.

Backstory: In April I decided to move out of my fathers home and basically dis-own him as family. I took only the clothes on my back and me and my Ford Focus went to live with my girlfriend and her mother. I was sick of his abusiveness and I was sick of being so dependant on his money. I wanted to make it on my own and leave the life I was living all behind.

I went from richs to rags. From a mansion to a trailer. From not having to work to busting my ass for minmum wage... and I loved it. From April to about 2 weeks it was going great. I was happy, in love, and enjoying my minimum wage job. I had a nice enough car, a beautiful girl, a job that made me happy, and living with my girlfriend and her mom was like living in heaven. Happy times.

Then 2 weeks ago I come home from work and find my girlfriend waiting at the door for me. I come in the door and she sits me down and right out of the blue she tells me how she doesn't love me, how she wants me out, and that she is moving in 2 weeks and that this would be the last time I ever saw her.

I flipped. Completely. Everything I had, everything I am was there. It was my whole new life crashing all around me. I went aboutsolutely hystarical. I went from crying, to laughing, to extreme anger all in about 2 mins. I snapped and put my fist right through the front door of the house. I broke my right hand extremely bad and I new it right away.

While I was taking my frustratioins out on the door my girlfriend was packing her stuff and as I stood there clutching my hand she walked right past me with her mom and jumped in their van and started to drive off.

Thinking this was going to be the last time I see her, and my life feeling like it was crashing around me I decided to give chase in my car.

I knew full well what I was going to do, it was nothing I havn't tried before.

I came flying past them in my Focus just far enough away I wouldn't hit them and I threw my wheel sideways for the ditch. I was going 150k/ph and intentionally didn't have my seat belt on. I knew they were behind me watching me.

My car went spinnig in the ditch and I flew out of the ditch and spun through the air and landed 30 feet into a field.

I was tossed from the drivers side into the passengers and then thrown into the back seat. But obviously I survived.

The air bag went off and filled the car with powder, but from being thrown around so hard I was dizzy and thought the car was on fire. I knew that no matter what I did not want to burn to death so I crawled my way out of the car and laid in a small stream until the ambulance came.

A couple days in the hospital on a backboard. CT scans, X-rays, every kind of drug in the world being pumped into me, and here I am now. Severe whiplash, compressed spine, broken hand, sprained wrist, cuts, bumps, bruises. I was/am a hurting unit.

And here I am now.

I talked to my ex about a week ago to see how she was doing and she dropped the bomb on me. She is a month pregnant and the only reason she dumped me was cause she thought I was going to try to force her to have an abortion.

I was flabbergasted. I couldn't believe what I was hearing. I still can hardly beleive it. Thank god I suck at dying or else I wouldn't get to see my own child. She told me she wants me to move back in with her, and she wants to try to work things out, for the childs sake.

But now I am stuck in bed and the computer chair for atleast another month, and I have no car, and my job is gone. I have no way to afford a child.

I have to get my **** together and have to get it together now. But I don't even know where to start.

Anyway, that's what has been up with me and why I was gone for so long. I got a friend to take pics of my Focus and when I get them from him I will post them up.

So yeah, I'm going to be a dad. Poor kid. I swear on everything I am though that this child will have a great life. I may not be able to buy him every possesion in the world like my own father could with me, but I will be able to give it something my father never could. I will love and cherish this child and give thanks everyday that I am blessed with it.

God... me a dad. Scary eh?

 

[sUn]

I hope you get better, Rumple. Best of luck with the baby!

 

[Cosmic]

I hope you get better, Rumple. Best of luck with the baby!

I second that!

 

[hanker]

Wow Rumple you sure have a full plate to deal with.
I really commend you on standing up and leaving your dad no matter how good you had it there. That must be one of the toughest things for a child to have to do.
So you're moving back in with your girl, I really hope it works out for you your girl and the babys sake. How is your girlsfriends mom dealing with the news of the baby??
As for a new job. Are you planning on going back to school? or just getting a new job for the time being?

I dont think a lot of people could deal with all that at the same time but you are going to have to, and please never try to take the wimpy way out of this all.

Anyways I hope all gets well and everything gets figured out.

 

[Rumple Foreskin]

Wow Rumple you sure have a full plate to deal with.
I really commend you on standing up and leaving your dad no matter how good you had it there. That must be one of the toughest things for a child to have to do.

You'd do the same if in my shoes. Like I've always said, money isn't everything.

So you're moving back in with your girl, I really hope it works out for you your girl and the babys sake. How is your girlsfriends mom dealing with the news of the baby??

Her mom absolutely adores me. I think of her like she was my own mother. I love her. Her mom is super excited by all this, but at the same time she is still a little concerned just because of our financial position.

As for a new job. Are you planning on going back to school? or just getting a new job for the time being?

I put my name in at a couple factories and dropped off some resumes with local construction companies. I'm willing to do anything as long as it pays the bills.

I dont think a lot of people could deal with all that at the same time but you are going to have to, and please never try to take the wimpy way out of this all.

Even if I wanted to I never would now. I have not only myself to look after, but now I have my girlfriend (hopefully my future wife) and my unborn child to care for.

I have me a reason to stick around now.

 

[ShobThaBob]

Wow. Thats all I have to say. I've considered killing myself before, and the 100mph into a ditch w/o seatbelt has always seemed to be the most ideal and sure...seems not to be the case eh?

 

[Rumple Foreskin]

Wow. Thats all I have to say. I've considered killing myself before, and the 100mph into a ditch w/o seatbelt has always seemed to be the most ideal and sure...seems not to be the case eh?

Not so much. Apparantly it's pretty easy to survive ditch crashings.

Also, the place I crashed my car was no less than 50ft away from where my 15 yr old sister was killed 4 years ago.

 

[Duke]

Well, my man, you've got a tough row to hoe, as they say - but now that you know there's more point to it, hopefully it will be easier for you. It's too bad that everybody handled it like they did, but it's all water under the bridge now. Now some questions:

You're beat up now, but what's the long-term outlook? Any permanent loss of ability that would dictate your range of jobs?

Is insuance going to give you anything for the Focus? Will you be able to get wheels again?

I'd apply anywhere that has "Management Trainee" in the job description. You may have emotional issues, but you're intelligent, and intelligence is usually the key factor in moving up. Counter guy at McD's is a minimum-wage job, but it moves up from there when you become shift boss and again when you become assisstant manager, etc. It may seem small, but there's a built-in upgrade path if you can stick it out and if you have a brain.

Good luck as always, and never hesitate to PM me if you want to talk.

 

[1mic]

damn dood, and i thot i had it hard, i guess we all have tough times but we gotta get through them.
last year around march me and my cousins where racing in 2 cars, i was in the acura cl (front passenger), and they were in the focus. i swear if we didnt hit them me and the driver would have been dead.
the focus was totaled with the roof smashed in and the engine was on the road sitting up and all sorts of ****. we were going 100mph too.

congrats on the first kid!

 

[Darin]

Whoa... Well. Uh.. Congratualtions on the kid, and you being a father. 👍

But I do think think you went overboard on driving the focus past them and then throwing yourself into a ditch. But I can't blame you, and its a fact. Love drives you crazy.

 

[Rumple Foreskin]

You're beat up now, but what's the long-term outlook? Any permanent loss of ability that would dictate your range of jobs?

I have no knuckle anymore for my right pinky. It is just solid striaght bone from the hand to the tip. It won't ever bend again. Currently I have been working as a carpenter, but I may have a bit of a prob doing that now.

Is insuance going to give you anything for the Focus? Will you be able to get wheels again?

No and no. Even if I could get that exact same car back my insurance would be well in the $1000 a month range. 👎

I'd apply anywhere that has "Management Trainee" in the job description. You may have emotional issues, but you're intelligent, and intelligence is usually the key factor in moving up. Counter guy at McD's is a minimum-wage job, but it moves up from there when you become shift boss and again when you become assisstant manager, etc. It may seem small, but there's a built-in upgrade path if you can stick it out and if you have a brain.

There is a position available at the Chrysler Plant not too far away that starts at $22 and hour and goes up to $30 eventually. I may try for that while hunting for something else. Problem is, I have no way to get there really.

 

[Ev0]

No and no. Even if I could get that exact same car back my insurance would be well in the $1000 a month range. 👎

I was quoted at well over that for a '96 Sebring Convertible with a clean driving record. Why? I'm a G1 licensed driver

But more importantly, it's great to hear that you're still alive and optimistic after all of that, especially given your current financial situation. Good luck on the job search, and best of luck to fatherhood! It's great to have you back on GTP, I was wondering where you went!

 

[Gil]

Andrew!!!
I'm so glad to hear that you are still alive and kickin!

As duke said, you have a hard row to hoe at this point. Everytihing else he said is pretty much "gospel" as well.

But you are the most tenacious little "so-and-so" I know.
You've usually been one to "Plan your work, then work your plan." A good trait for anyone. You know we're all pulling for you.

I'm glad that you're getting things worked out with your girl. I'm glad you're stepping up instead of "steppin' out". Every time I hear from you, I get one more reason to be glad I know you.👍

Dude, my prayers are with you. Heal quickly, and get back in the business of taking care of business. 👍

With the attempts you've made to do your self in, you should know by now that God must have some sort of plan for your life. Otherwise, you'd not still be here.
Your arms are still too short to box with God!!
(You knew eventually, I would go there).

As for the location of the "murder" of the Focus, Maybe your little sis is your "guardian angel"....
Someone is obviously watching out for you!!!

 

[Rumple Foreskin]

Andrew!!!
I'm so glad to hear that you are still alive and kickin!

And glad to hear from you my friend! I thought you didn't come 'round these parts no more.

As duke said, you have a hard row to hoe at this point. Everytihing else he said is pretty much "gospel" as well.

Any advice you two pass along always serves me well. I expect the words he passed to me in this thread to do no different.

But you are the most tenacious little "so-and-so" I know.
You've usually been one to "Plan your work, then work your plan." A good trait for anyone. You know we're all pulling for you.

Glad to hear I got a solid team in my corner.

I'm glad that you're getting things worked out with your girl. I'm glad you're stepping up instead of "steppin' out". Every time I hear from you, I get one more reason to be glad I know you.👍

I'm glad we are working things out too. She, as have I, have decided to go to counselling. Her for commitment fears and how to not be a b*tch and myself for anger managment, and having suicidal tendancies.

Dude, my prayers are with you. Heal quickly, and get back in the business of taking care of business. 👍

Well, even if I do spend the rest of my life working in a factory I will do so happily if that means I can be with my girl and my child. I've given everything up that I have for her love, and I'd do it again in a heartbeat.

With the attempts you've made to do your self in, you should know by now that God must have some sort of plan for your life. Otherwise, you'd not still be here.
Your arms are still too short to box with God!!
(You knew eventually, I would go there).

Like I said before, I am so glad I suck at killing myself. They have never been half-assed attempts either. It just seems like something or someone always comes to my aid in the time of most need. I am quite fortunate.

As for the location of the "murder" of the Focus, Maybe your little sis is your "guardian angel"....
Someone is obviously watching out for you!!!

I am not a praying man, but earlier on that day I went to her grave site for the first time in 2 years and I asked her to watch over me. It's nice to know I have an angel on my side.

Keep in touch Gil.

 

[ND4SPD]

Wow man congratultions on the baby 👍 , and sorry to here the bad luck you've been having. You got yourself one hell of a story , but you're lucky as hell to survive that accident, do you know at all if you being ejected from the car actually saved your life? , but hey it'll all get better, think of this as a speed bump in the road of life you hit it but pass it and never again, unless you enter a parking lot , and after that its smooth sailing. Good luck man and you'll be in my prayers.

 

[rollazn]

Andrew, I am relieved that you are all right. I must say, that story is like one out of a movie. It’s CRAZY!

I am glad that you are fine and that you and your girl friend are willing to work things out. One thing, that I have learned reading your story is that I have it very easy. I have a father that loves me and despite some of his cons, I think he is one hell of a father. Moreover, I think you will be one hell of a father, also. As you said, you may not have the money to buy your child everything he/she wants but at least the child will be loved by you and your girlfriend.

As for the financial problem, I hope things get better. That you find a great paying job doing something you love. I just hope your child do not have to go threw the crap you went threw with your father.

Andrew, killing or hurting yourself is not the best way to get out of stuff. Do not take the wussy way out.

One last thing, are you planning to ask your girl friend to marry you any time soon? As you point out, that you hope she is your future wife.

Anyways, best luck to your girlfriend, her mother, and the lucky child. And you.

 

[Pako]

*snip*

So yeah, I'm going to be a dad. Poor kid. I swear on everything I am though that this child will have a great life. I may not be able to buy him every possesion in the world like my own father could with me, but I will be able to give it something my father never could. I will love and cherish this child and give thanks everyday that I am blessed with it.

God... me a dad. Scary eh?

And that's what you have to hold on to. That kid will need you no matter what happens! If it seems hopeless now, just remember that it's not going to be like this forever. I was 17 and my GF was 15 when she got pregnant. We're not together now, but my son and I have a Great relationship. He just turned 12 this last June. I see him 4 days a week and thank God for him. Now I have a new wife (married 7 years) and my son has a little sister now....and I have even more to be thankful for now. Can't say it's always been easy, but I can say it's been worth it.

If I can be of any help, please don't hesitate!

 

[Dorifto]

Whoa. Rumple.

 

[Der Alta]

I'd like to add in that I've watched my little brother go through a similar situation. He was 15 when he had to tell our parents that his girlfriend was pregnant. It was the hardest thing I saw my family go through.

He had to do it again when he was 17. Same girl. he was 17 when he got married. Now, 12+ years later, they're still married. It's not easy, but they live for each other and the two boys.

What I can tell you from this, is that you've got a lot of hard work ahead of you. An amazing amount. From knowing you on this site, and reading some of the things you've gone through, I can see theres a desire to give everything you have to you kid.

Andrew, you've stepped up to a big plate. There are plenty of us here that would listen via PM, post or other. Don't hesitate to ask if you feel the need.

Good luck,

AO

 

[Joey]

You're going to write one awesome autobiography.
And I'm going to track you down and make you sign it.

Congratulations on life.
Yours, hers, and the child's. 👍

 

[Talentless]

Rumple, you are a far better man than I. I do not know that I could go back to someone that thought I would impose a decision as difficult as abortion and then leave in a hostile way, but it is not hard to understand why some women would do that. But I do not know you or her well enough. I will say this, though, your willingness to stay out of love and fatherly loyalty to her and your coming child speak volumes about you as a person. Whatever your faults may be, they are lucky to have you.

👍

 

[Victor Vance]

Whoa, man, it was a good thing your 'guardian angel' was looking out for you that night. I have no idea why she tried to 'drive around' just telling you she was pregnant plain-and-simple, but the way things folded out was really something worth writing about!

Well, whatever comes your way, good luck with the kid and all! 👍

On a side note, not to insult you or anything, but since I know very effective ways of deleting one's self from existance, this is just one more reason I'm glad that I'm just a 15 year old kid who's girl closest to me in terms of relationship is 'casual friend', if you can call it that. I enjoy being single

 

[VIPFREAK]

That was a lot to take in... I'm not really sure where to go from there. I'm glad that your doing better. I hope you don't take this quote the wrong way. I deal with it a lot more and don't really like it sometimes. I am no where close to your situation and probably will never get any where close to that but it doesn't matter.

"The things we don't want are the things we need the most" - Dorian Harewood (VIPER)

👍

 

[Klostrophobic]

How old are you, Rumple?

She dumped you because she assumed you would want an abortion?! That's completely absurd.

Have you considered seeking help of some sort so you don't drive your car into any more ditches at 150 kph?

Anyway, I hope you make a great dad, and I hope that you get your life on track soon. 👍

 

[Rumple Foreskin]

How old are you, Rumple?

I'm 21 as of August 2nd. She's 17 as of April 21.

She dumped you because she assumed you would want an abortion?! That's completely absurd.

Well, she has allready misscarried once and it destroyed us and she was scared to tell me she was pregnant again incase she misscarried again.

Have you considered seeking help of some sort so you don't drive your car into any more ditches at 150 kph?

Yep, I guess you missed that part in my first post. I'll be going for help as soon as I can afford it.

Anyway, I hope you make a great dad, and I hope that you get your life on track soon. 👍

And by "Anyway, I hope you make a great dad, and I hope that you get your life on track soon." you of course mean "I hope you choke and die." don't you?

 

[Mike Rotch]

Rumpulator 👍

You like smashing up your hands, dont you?

You are at the beginning of a challenging part of your life. Make the most of it.

 

[halfracedrift]

Although I don't personally know you, you live a pretty difficult life. Compared to me, mine is simple cruising.

My advice would be to take any job you can find, and still keep on the lookout for new ones that suit you better. Once you find the job that you want and have a good feel about it, go and climb that ladder to get a better position.

Good luck being a father, you really need it. All of GTP will support you!

 

[Rumple Foreskin]

Rumpulator 👍

Hey Mike, what's shakin'? Long time no talk pal.

You like smashing up your hands, dont you?

While not particularly enjoying the broken appendages, it does give me a much needed break to help further heal my mental and physical state.

You are at the beginning of a challenging part of your life. Make the most of it.

I left so much out of the story that you guys would think I ripped it right out of a novel. I tried to make me seem less crazy then I allready appear, therefore I left out many, many details and side stories.

Challenging isn't the word my friend. It's more like.... ummm.... ... well... yeah, ok... maybe challenge is the word after all.

Anywho, I'm always up for a good challenge.

 

[Rumple Foreskin]

Rumple, you are a far better man than I. I do not know that I could go back to someone that thought I would impose a decision as difficult as abortion and then leave in a hostile way, but it is not hard to understand why some women would do that.

I consider myself an understanding man. The girl is 17, just went through a misscariage, finds out she is pregnant, has her father walk out on her and her mom, gets told she is starting school elsewhere this year, and then told to pack her stuff cause she has 1 week till they move. When I look at all that and weigh it in, then she has considerably more on her plate than even I do. I said to myself " Do I really love her?" Everytime I came back with the answer "yes". It's only natural that I prove it then. What kind of man would I be if I walked out on her in her time of most need?

I will say this, though, your willingness to stay out of love and fatherly loyalty to her and your coming child speak volumes about you as a person. Whatever your faults may be, they are lucky to have you.

Faults? What faults? You're crazy man. I'm perfect.

Nah, while I agree I have faults, I am not so easily convinced of my importance to this situation. She was planning on doing it with or without me. My prescence will only make it easier. I'm probably just being harsh on myself by saying that though.

 

[Rumple Foreskin]

And that's what you have to hold on to. That kid will need you no matter what happens! If it seems hopeless now, just remember that it's not going to be like this forever.

Thank you for the words of inspiration Pako. Every pat on the back I get, no matter how small, is one more step up in my confidance level. Confident in myself and confidance that I will be able to pull my family through all of this allright.

I was 17 and my GF was 15 when she got pregnant. We're not together now, but my son and I have a Great relationship. He just turned 12 this last June. I see him 4 days a week and thank God for him. Now I have a new wife (married 7 years) and my son has a little sister now....and I have even more to be thankful for now. Can't say it's always been easy, but I can say it's been worth it.

You are a very lucky man to have everthing that you do. I know lots of people who have stared down the same path that you have walked down and they came out on the wrong side of the score. I can only hope I am even half as fortunate as you.

If I can be of any help, please don't hesitate!

Almost all the senior members here at GTP have a heart of gold, and I never let that slip my mind. I know full well that I could call on any single one of you guys who posted here and you would all step up and answer that call. A kind word goes a long way, and thanks to all of you, I won't soon be forgetting the support I am receiving.