The girl I mentioned earlier that I was texting and who is on the path to a quasi-arranged marriage represents the problem with paternalism in some countries/communities. In this case it is a symptom of her upbringing in a paternalistic household, where all her decisions in the past seemingly go through the father. This is the case even now, and at 25 it sounds like I am talking to a 15 year old. It's frustrating because it is the father's inadequacy that is the root cause - hence my frustration at certain Asian families (this one is Hindu) and Islam as a religion. Such men can't stand to see women, even their own daughters show independent thought. Out of the 4 victims of sexual assault I know, and they are all different colours and religions it is only the Muslim one that forces his daughter to have dinner with her abuser. It is only that father that blames his daughter for being "evil" and cursing the evil spirits that caused her cousin to rape her over and over again since before the age of nine. And it is only that "man" that calls said daughter threatening to commit suicide as his life is so pointless at old age and how much of a disappointment she is.