I can think rationally when it comes to what and how I speak. I have become a master at creating speeches on a whim, and never during them do I use profanity or common filler words such as "like" or "um".
That is good. But could you answer to the question I posted above:
What do you mean by not having enough time ?
It wasn't a rhetorical one. I responded according to your statement due which my question was initiated:
Speak politely all the time regardless of the situation? ... At least, I don't have the time to do that.
Next part:
I grew up in a blue-collar family that has always spoken that way. You may find it wrong, but to us, it is commonplace. None of my sisters swear in front of their kids (except for the one who has a 13 year old), but they all speak like that when they are not around. It won't matter if I stop (which to be frank, I won't) because I tend to get overruled since I'm the youngest of five.
I do not find it wrong or right, it is how it is. I understand family members influence each other, particulary if you all live in a same house. It is hard to avoid it, I'm aware of that. But if you can find a small hole through which you could run away from that influence just a little bit you should use it. After all, we are talking about swearing which is a
bad thing. That is what I meant.
Just as I find it rude that you appear as if you're trying to judge my character on that post while completely ignoring this quote. I know several people who don't like profanity, and as such, I never cuss in front of them.
My previous post may be misleading, so I'm going to rephrase myself:
Let's imagine a teacher engages into a conversation with a student. He has expressed his opinion and now he is waiting for a response from the student. The student may talk back (we don't know what type of conversation they are having) or may use profanity in his sentences. Whatever the case is, the teacher will never question or doubt his intelligence. He may be smart or not so smart but at that moment that doesn't matter.
What matters is that he is being impolite. If he is not aware of that it is even worse because he will continue to do so and if critizied by the teacher for it, he will argue even more.
I have met many people who were smart or not so smart and yet their behaviour towards superiors was inapropriate on many occasions. People with good conversation approach have better advantage towards those who speak carelessly.
Back there I posted
general statement that doesn't have to be applicable specifically to you, rather it is based on experience I had in school, college and similar surroundings.
If you've perceived it as rude, please accept my apologies. I didn't value your character neither it is something I want do to since I'm not that type of a person.
In public, I usually don't even speak unless I have to. When I do use profanity while talking to friends, it's because I'm either in a car or because I'm at a private place. I went to a restaurant on Friday and never swore once.
I go one step further. I do not use profanity regardless of where am I or who I'm talking to. If a word doesn't have any meaning there is no need to use it.
The way that your post is written, it makes it seem as if you think that people who swear only swear because the merely feel like it and don't have any idea of how to otherwise convey their logic.
People swear because they don't pay attention to what they say at particular moment or in other words, they just give themselves over to their emotions or influence of other subjects in vicinity.
...people who swear a lot are stereotyped as if they are not as smart as those who don't cuss much.
I don't think they are, neither I heard about such stereotype. Intelligence doesn't have anything to do with one's vocabulary or approach to others.
I have a friend who is on track to get his Master's degree in Accounting at age 23, and when he and I hang out, he swears all the time. The same guy also has a job as a bank teller, and in that profession, professionalism is expected. The guy hasn't had an issue at all there since he was hired. Everyone I know who swears often does so when it can be appropriate (i.e. in private) and rarely ever (if never) when it is considered to be in bad taste.
That is what I find disturbing for most of the time, especially since I often come across these scenarios as well.
If you have a written or non-written testimony of your skills and knowledge, your vocabulary should coincide it. I believe in such case usage of profanity tarnishes your reputation and image other have towards you. That is unscrupulous for me and should be avoided.
And swearing is never appropriate. Nor in public nor in private. Just because nobody is around doesn't mean you can loosen up your vocabulary. It should remain its composure.
