Dont waste your life gaming...

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Hi! My name is Jonas, i'm from Sweden and turning 26 years old this february. I've always been a big fan of gaming and especially Gran Turismo. I met a beautiful girl in 2005 and we moved in together in an apartment February 1st 2006. I started of beeing a good man helping out with the household for only a few months. Then she spoiled me and I turned to gaming.

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[I]This is her[/I]

I went on gaming while she did all the work at home plus her regular job. She became more and more miserable. I didn't even notice it at the time but the hints has been clearer and clearer. Today she had enough. She has had problem sleeping for the last weeks so she was gonna try to sleep at her parents home (I work nights so I'm not home when she sleeps). She called me after an hour or so and said we needed to talk. Looks like I was the reason she couldn't sleep.

I guess you know where this is going. I begged her for another chance and I could sense she still had feelings for me. I promised that instead of spending 4-5 hours a day gaming I could do something useful. It is time to grow up, I mean 1 hour a day would be a great improvement. So today I spent the afternoon cleaning our apartment and she said she will come tomorrow so we can talk this through and see what to do. I'm just hoping she will take me back and we can go back to what it once was.

So dont waste your life gaming. I might still have a chance to repair my life. I hope you dont sink as deep as I did.
 
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vfrmaverick
Sounds to me like you have an addiction.
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I always considered myself clean, I dont smoke, I dont drink much or often. But you are right. I think this addiction is easier to overcome now when I have a good motivation. To make my girlfriend happy with me again.
 
At least your apartment is clean. And I bet she would approve of having her picture on here as well!
 
Dude, 4-5 hours? And living with a girlfriend? Well I hope it taught ya good. Good luck with getting her back. I'm rooting for ya!
 
You have to find that balance in your relationship. My girlfriend of 4 years knows I'm a gamer and she accepts that. We have reasonable expectations for each other's time and therefore try to accommodated each other. I do thinks for her and she gives me my game time. I did lose a girl for what at the time was a game or so I thought. In retrospect I don't think it was meant to be and she is still a good friend of mine. You just need to find a compromise, I'm sure its not a simple situation of games ruined my relationship. Theres always more to the story.
 
sidsid118
At least your apartment is clean. And I bet she would approve of having her picture on here as well!
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I thought a photo would be ok since I'm only saying good things about her.

Silverzone
Dude, 4-5 hours? And living with a girlfriend? Well I hope it taught ya good. Good luck with getting her back. I'm rooting for ya!
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:guilty: It's amazing she is still with me, if she is. I dont know. It's damn empty without her :(

Prophet_540i
You have to find that balance in your relationship. My girlfriend of 4 years knows I'm a gamer and she accepts that. We have reasonable expectations for each other's time and therefore try to accommodated each other. I do thinks for her and she gives me my game time. I did lose a girl for what at the time was a game or so I thought. In retrospect I don't think it was meant to be and she is still a good friend of mine. You just need to find a compromise, I'm sure its not a simple situation of games ruined my relationship. Theres always more to the story.
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I don't think it's about the games, but the things that should have replaced the games.
 
Man those are a lot of hours. I can't recall myself playing for that many hours except some bursts of activity here and there. Definitely behave yourself and keep the girl.
 
Dude, just go into repair mode. When/if she moves back in, be good. Don't even play games for a while. Like 2 weeks or so. Ease her back into the relationship. If she comes back and you're still playing games immediately when she gets back, she'll be pissed.
 
Dude, have you SEEN her? If I were you I'd throw my xbox out the window the second she moved into my place.
 
Silverzone
Dude, just go into repair mode. When/if she moves back in, be good. Don't even play games for a while. Like 2 weeks or so. Ease her back into the relationship. If she comes back and you're still playing games immediately when she gets back, she'll be pissed.
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I'm not even in the mood of playing games. All I want right now is for her to come home.

Alex.
Dude, have you SEEN her? If I were you I'd throw my xbox out the window the second she moved into my place.
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Thanks for the compliment. I am lucky to have her! It's time to repay her for everything I did to her. I do have an enormous sense of guilt. I just hope I don't let the gaming take over again. She deserves so much better than what she's had for the last 4 years.
 
This is why I've never lived with a girl. When they're there every day they become like a toastie maker, sounded great in theory but the desire to use it just isn't there.

When you see each other infrequently and without routine spending time with each other actually becomes something you want to do.
 
My thought is maybe you don't share as many recreational excursions together. Couples tend to get into a routine if they don't try different things. Go to a concert, ice skating, to a Luna park, to the movies etc.
 
And when she does come round, I wouldn't tell her that you seeked relationship advice from a gaming site.
 
BigYoSpeck
This is why I've never lived with a girl. When they're there every day they become like a toastie maker, sounded great in theory but the desire to use it just isn't there.

When you see each other infrequently and without routine spending time with each other actually becomes something you want to do.
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BAHAHA omg that's so true. I love my GF but damn how much time can you spend with them every day!

I just make sure I do the things around the house I need to do so she doesn't do it and bitch at me for not doing it. :scared:
 
Plug out your PS3 for a month. Then your addiction will stop. Also, try showing her this thread to show you how much you care (just remove the picture of her before you show her!)
EDIT: NVM this is a GAMING site.. woops. DON'T show her this.
 
AlexGTV
My thought is maybe you don't share as many recreational excursions together. Couples tend to get into a routine if they don't try different things. Go to a concert, ice skating, to a Luna park, to the movies etc.
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Play split screen.
 
Dragonistic
Play split screen.
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It crossed my mind, however a Wii or its clones would be better. Females like more casual games.

As a side note, what if she is a member of GTP? She may as well be one of those that have answered in this very thread.
 
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1) Buy/find PS2
2) Get Rez and the Trance Vibrator
3) Suddenly, your GF will love the fact you're playing 4-5 hours a day!

Seriously though, drop the controller for a while and spend some time with her.
 
AlexGTV
As a side note, what if she is a member of GTP? She may as well be one of those that have answered in this very thread.
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Oh my god! Are you his girlfriend?
Can I get some pictures?
Thanks.
 
sidsid118
And when she does come round, I wouldn't tell her that you seeked relationship advice from a gaming site.
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NissanSkylineN1
Plug out your PS3 for a month. Then your addiction will stop. Also, try showing her this thread to show you how much you care (just remove the picture of her before you show her!)
EDIT: NVM this is a GAMING site.. woops. DON'T show her this.
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AlexGTV
It crossed my mind, however a Wii or its clones would be better. Females like more casual games.

As a side note, what if she is a member of GTP? She may as well be one of those that have answered in this very thread.
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For the last 5 years I have talked to her about everything, she has been my life mentor. So to be honest I don't know where to turn. So I guess GTP was the first thing that crossed my mind. Normally I would call someone... but who? The one I call about my problems is her.
 
Tell her to hit the road.


But not the road you're driving on in-game because you'd have to swerve to miss her and that would ruin your lap time.
 
Omnis
Tell her to hit the road.


But not the road you're driving on in-game because you'd have to swerve to miss her and that would ruin your lap time.
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Not nice. :lol:

kekke2000
Great advice..... not
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Honestly, what kind of advice are you expecting? You should know what needs to be done. Why the hell are you even here asking strangers about advice on something that quite frankly...doesn't need any given advice? Stop playing the damn game and pay attention to her.

Dragonistic
Miss? I'd totally hit that...
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I'll show myself the door.
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Also not nice. :lol:
 
Terronium-12

Honestly, what kind of advice are you expecting? You should know what needs to be done.
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Ultimately, we shouldn't need to give advice I think we all know what must be done and the outcome could go for better or worse.

There was just comedy gold to be found, I couldn't help myself.
 
Omnis
Of course not. If you see a future with her that you like, do whatever you can to make it a reality. 👍
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This, so put GT into B spec for a while 👍.

Edit: Ok I'm on to my B (spec) material now... seriously where's my coat?
 
Tell this guy to stop playing games
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He only makes $300,000 or so a year playing video games.

On a serious note, it sounds like you have some serious addictive issues. I have a feeling if we went through your life, we'd find other instances of obsessive behaviors. Might want to consider evaluating your life. Also, were you working during your 4 to 5 hours of gaming per day?
 

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