Dont waste your life gaming...

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I too have a problem with gaming, I'm in deep trouble with my school for being late and sometimes falling asleep, I can stay up to around 6:30AM, and I have to be up at 7AM. Not good... :guilty:
 
Sorry to hear about that. You just have to find the right balance between your relationship and gaming. Gamers are capable of running a relationship, you just have to learn where to draw the lines and find a girl that truly understands and accept for who you are.

If she cant accept a part of you that makes you who you are then she is not worth it.

Im lucky enough to find my girlfriend that understands my gaming habits. Its a part of me, gaming is a refuge with all the stress around me and she understands that. I could spend time together with her and still have the time to sit down and game. Its all about balance. She is also a gamer, a semi-casual that is. heehe.

Besides, shes knows that she is "my only one" BUT my ps3 is a very close number 2, very close. Most men cant have there wife/girlfriend together with their mistress/girlfriend on the side in the same room. ehehe
 
Four to five hours is "addiction" level? Or even "a lot?" :odd:

I don't doubt that she felt like she was being ignored, but a lot of people watch more TV than that on any given day -- at least in the united states. At any rate, it's still only about as long as 1.5 to 2 feature-length movies. I don't need to tell you what to do, kekke2000, because you already know and have decided what to do. But don't consider yourself "addicted" because you think you play games "too much."

After you work to solve the problem, and when things level out again, I think you'll find you don't have to sacrifice much gaming time at all. Just don't let it take precedent over more important things; something I'm sure you've resolved to do already. 👍

Similar to kidd0218, I'm fortunate to have a fiancée who understands how important gaming is to me as a source of entertainment. Neither of us are big fans of cable TV (though the programs we like mostly match up with each other :) ), so we each turn to different media for an escape. She likes to read books (a lot) and could spend hours on one, completely oblivious to my presence. I don't mind, because similarly, I like to play games (a lot) and could spend just as many hours doing that. While I'm often "lucid" and able to interact with her normally, she also understands there are difficult spots where the game absorbs my attention. Again, like kidd0218's situation, it helps that my fiancée is a bit of a gamer herself (she swears more colorfully at games than I ever do :lol: ).

We help each other with chores and things and spend basically all of our time together, but plenty of that time actually involves insular activites like book reading, game playing, or internet surfing. We're just happy to be near or next to each other, and know -- barring a compelling chapter or time-bomb escape level -- that we can gain each other's attention any time we need or want it.

The key point is that neither of you have to give up the things you enjoy doing by yourself in order to enjoy being together; even if those things occupy hours of your time. You just have to balance those things with the time you need or want from each other, whether it involves a chore or a favor, or just quality time.

Best of luck to you. 👍
 
I find it funny that I'm reading this while fighting with my girlfriend over who gets to play video games. :lol:

4-5 hours a day is a little much though, and for once I agree with Az about evaluating your life, and what you do with it. Best of luck to you both, although I think your life needs as much help as your relationship does if everything you say is true.
 
Ill be honest here after seeing the picand reading about her from you I have to admit that you should stop playing or atleast get everything done before playing. She seems like a keeper for sure.
 
Its quite obvious, she's good looking (no mean to hit on your GF) and shes a great person. Try your hardest to get her back
Great advice..... not

Borat joke? *MAY CONTAIN SOME INAPPROPRIATE CONTENT*(Its Borat.. no duh)
 
Tell this guy to stop playing games


He only makes $300,000 or so a year playing video games.

On a serious note, it sounds like you have some [i]serious[/i] addictive issues. I have a feeling if we went through your life, we'd find other instances of obsessive behaviors. Might want to consider evaluating your life. Also, were you working during your 4 to 5 hours of gaming per day?[/QUOTE]

I go to work at 11 PM and come home at 7 AM, then I sleep to about 2 PM and then I pretty much play all day except for some eating, shopping and other small things.

[quote="Wolfe, post: 4569271"]Four to five hours is "addiction" level? Or even "a lot?" :odd:

I don't doubt that she felt like she was being ignored, but a lot of people watch more TV than that on any given day -- at least in the united states. At any rate, it's still only about as long as 1.5 to 2 feature-length movies. I don't need to tell you what to do, [B]kekke2000[/B], because you already know and have decided what to do. But don't consider yourself "addicted" because you think you play games "too much."

After you work to solve the problem, and when things level out again, I think you'll find you don't have to sacrifice much gaming time at all. Just don't let it take precedent over more important things; something I'm sure you've resolved to do already. 👍
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Exactly my thought. "I don't think it's about the games, but the things that should have replaced the games." (page 1 in this thread)

[quote="NissanSkylineN1, post: 4569935"]Its quite obvious, she's good looking (no mean to hit on your GF) and shes a great person. Try your hardest to get her back
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I like when people say my girlfriend looks nice. I'm very proud of her. So thank you :)
 
Four to five hours is "addiction" level? Or even "a lot?" :odd:

I don't doubt that she felt like she was being ignored, but a lot of people watch more TV than that on any given day -- at least in the united states.

Yeah I agree, studies I think have shown it's better to actually be doing something like gaming for 4 hours than just sitting watching Sitcoms every night for the same amount of time. (Or maybe I'm just making it up, but it sounds right).

I actually probably game around 4 hours a day and maintain a healthy relationship with my girlfriend. How? You just have realise what's important and priorities what you want to spend time doing. My GF has to leave for work almost 4 hours before so generally goes to bed a lot earlier (say 10:30-11), and I may stay up playing something until 2am-3am (I don't start work till 10pm). Before that though, is time that I spend with her or going out with friends or whatever. I also don't generally play on weekends during the day because that's times we can do things.

If you prefer to just game all day and have no social interaction with someone you want to be in a relationship with, you're living in a dream world. It's not about 'finding a girl who is happy with your gaming habits', that's BS, it's about finding a girl who you want to be with rather than gaming.
 
Make sure you keep us informed of what happens, if it works out we can all become agony aunts!
 
I once wasted a hell lot of time playing video games when I was 10 or 11 years old. My mum always reminds me not to play video games very often, yet I ignored her. I consider it as an addiction with games like GTA San Andreas, NFS Underground that keeps me busy from my life. I never ever study at home and I paid the price. Final year exam, I failed badly and I was dropped from my class into a much-much lower grade class. I was dissapointed and disguisted with my attitude, not listening to the parents etc.

In the end, it all went well as I tried to regain my composure and earning good results as I made my way into High School!

Video game is like a drug... I've experienced myself.
 
...I wish my addiction was 4hrs of video games per day, I'd be on easy street.

If people have the power to break a habit like heroin, cutting out gaming for a few hours a day should be a snap.
 
One word... Compromises. Thats the key to any relationship. 4-5 hours of gaming a day is something I did while I was in HS and college. I just cant do that now... to many responsibilities. GF, bills, chores etc. etc. So if I spent it gaming 4-5 hours a day I wouldnt be able to keep up with all of that... So find the compromise and you'll both be happier.
 
Given that GTP has threads dedicated to what members are eating/drinking or even the little things they bought today, I think a few of our members may be a little too beyond being helped to spend their lives more productively. Just a friendly observation, with the following recent threads to highlight my point:

Biggest Poll on GTP?
For you that have laptops which click-button is taller?
 
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For real though, just trying to get an idea of how their schedules intertwine. You gotta spend some time with them. Since he works the graveyard shift, i'd assume he's not around when she's sleeping. And if he's playing games the rest of the time, why even have a place together.
 
dude, involve her in your games. My gf plays video games and were going on 4 years. :p
 
dude, involve her in your games. My gf plays video games and were going on 4 years. :p

It is so wrong that guys go out of their way (and destroy their feet), pursuant to keeping their partners happy, to accompany girls in their seemingly endless shopping trips and yet MOST women groan, whinge and threaten to leave when they guy wants a partner to game with. Yet another of the million reasons male-female quality is a pipedream.
 
Think about this: Games get replaced over time, everything you did in games of the past becomes irrelevant, you may want to play them bad now, but in the future you'll forget about what you achieved and probably not even care.

(Not sure if you did this, but this is an example) Remember spending a ton of time trying to win a certain car on GT1/2/3/4 or get the perfect lap time? (or any other tricky objective in any game) what does that mean to you today? has it made your life better at all. Not really.

Life is about sacrifices, sacrificing fun today can be neccessary to setup a better future for yourself, but having said that, I'll insert the 'all work and no play makes jack a dull boy' reference, games can be a good release but some games out there are addictive and I think it's important not to 'get in too deep'. Let's see what happens to those warcraft players in the future, glad I was never caught in that black hole.

Being part of any game community is great, whether you are a modder, skinner or top player, cause 'fun stuff happens' and it's different all the time, also being on a forum is good to discuss things, But over indulging in anything is bad, you could spend a large portion of your life creating 50 cars or skins for a game, in 5 years it will all be forgotten, you may have your name in lights for a while but to quote a quote I heard at the end of a film once, "all glory is fleeting".

I never liked linkin park but when I hear their track 'in the end' I imagine the lyrics are about video games, lol.

So to stop a long story from getting longer, unless you just bought the device you use for games, get rid of it? (although you could be uber and give the thing away to a street random) Take control of your life (you're already doing it to some extent I guess), I've destroyed numerous games in order to escape them, odd feeling the first time but you feel proud of yourself afterwards.

Hope this helps anyone who reads this.
 
It is so wrong that guys go out of their way (and destroy their feet), pursuant to keeping their partners happy, to accompany girls in their seemingly endless shopping trips and yet MOST women groan, whinge and threaten to leave when they guy wants a partner to game with. Yet another of the million reasons male-female quality is a pipedream.

Yeah, but men go shopping with women not too make there partners happy, but if they don't go to the shops that's a lesser chance for sex. Women want men to go to the shops to buy things and hold bags, and because they know they'll go out of the way for the chance of sex which probably won't happen, cause they'll be really tired after 6 hours of shopping.
 
This is an interesting thread.

My life as an active father, husband and worker in the general economy are all either in the past or reduced to a very nominal role. I'm comfortably retired, and a lifelong motorsports geek. I find playing games up to 4 hours a day keeps me entertained, mentally alert and maintains eye-hand coordination.

But it is clear that this game is primarily for the younger man with some money and a lot of time on his hands. Which does raise the issue of whether it is possible that too much time is wasted on a what is essentially a boy's game when the "serious" tasks of life like marriage, procreation and wealth-building go unaddressed.

If we take a closer look at the most extreme manifestation of this problem, we will see the Japanese male population - the very creators of this game - are in very deep doo-doo. It's quite sure that too much attention paid to an "attractive nuisance" can fatally divert one from the paths of righteousness.

http://www.rawstory.com/rs/2011/01/japanese-government-young-men-losing-interest-sex/

http://www.henrymakow.com/is_porn_killing_sex.html
 
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Yeah, but men go shopping with women not too make there partners happy, but if they don't go to the shops that's a lesser chance for sex. Women want men to go to the shops to buy things and hold bags, and because they know they'll go out of the way for the chance of sex which probably won't happen, cause they'll be really tired after 6 hours of shopping.

QFT. :indiff:
 
I'll just put a little update here. She's back! :) Hopefully she's here to stay. I was at her parents house (where she stayed) yesterday since her mom had her birthday, perfect timing. But I just carried on as nothing had happened at it didn't seem to bother them too much. Felt a bit like a jerk but they are very loving and forgiving.

A few minutes of house work each day and maybe an hour or so in front of the TV with her makes wonders! I actually found myself just standing in my living room and didn't know what to do. I'm so used to just turn on my PS3 so I just froze. Now it's time to find a balance. Right now I wait for empty time (like when I froze) and I always keep an eye on reality. I don't want to sit and stare at a screen while my girlfriend says "food is done, turn it off". I want to be standing there next to her instead. It's not much work for me but means so much to her.
 
I'll just put a little update here. She's back! :) Hopefully she's here to stay. I was at her parents house (where she stayed) yesterday since her mom had her birthday, perfect timing. But I just carried on as nothing had happened at it didn't seem to bother them too much. Felt a bit like a jerk but they are very loving and forgiving.

A few minutes of house work each day and maybe an hour or so in front of the TV with her makes wonders! I actually found myself just standing in my living room and didn't know what to do. I'm so used to just turn on my PS3 so I just froze. Now it's time to find a balance. Right now I wait for empty time (like when I froze) and I always keep an eye on reality. I don't want to sit and stare at a screen while my girlfriend says "food is done, turn it off". I want to be standing there next to her instead. It's not much work for me but means so much to her.

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It is so wrong that guys go out of their way (and destroy their feet), pursuant to keeping their partners happy, to accompany girls in their seemingly endless shopping trips and yet MOST women groan, whinge and threaten to leave when they guy wants a partner to game with. Yet another of the million reasons male-female quality is a pipedream.

This is something I refuse to do unless I'm shopping as well, in which case it's a shared event, though obviously a little more of it is in their favour it's only for things to make them look nice for us ;)

The last girl I went shopping with didn't understand why we hate it so I made her look at the faces of all the men being dragged round the Trafford Centre and see that miserable, defeated man look they all have. I told her this is because as men we are meant to be off fighting bears, and climbing mountains or building spaceships to go to Mars, that's what attracts you to us, then instead of letting us do all that, you make us shop :)

Men and women spend too much time together in my opinion. Ideally you want to be spending an amount that doesn't feel enough, because then you enjoy the time and look forward to it and you don't waste it sticking the PS3 on or going shopping.
 
I hope you never unlock the endurance races. :). Glad it seems to have worked out so far. You were playing too much in my opinion (assuming a person sleeps 7-8 hours a night you were gaming for 25%+ of your waking life).

That said, videogame addiction is bull :). Same as anything else that doesn't chemically affect you. All bull, and that's why you've been able to snap out of it so quick once you turned on your thinking device. Best of luck and stay smart, you're in charge of your brain, after all.
 
I hope you never unlock the endurance races. :). Glad it seems to have worked out so far. You were playing too much in my opinion (assuming a person sleeps 7-8 hours a night you were gaming for 25%+ of your waking life).

That said, videogame addiction is bull :). Same as anything else that doesn't chemically affect you. All bull, and that's why you've been able to snap out of it so quick once you turned on your thinking device. Best of luck and stay smart, you're in charge of your brain, after all.

Unlock? I only have the 24h ones left... A-spec level 34, half way to 35.
 
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