Flowers for the better half?

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What do you do for the better half?

  • Nope, don't buy gifts, spend it on the house

    Votes: 2 20.0%

  • Flowers $0 - $10

    Votes: 1 10.0%

  • Flowers $10 - $30

    Votes: 4 40.0%

  • Flowers $30 - $100

    Votes: 2 20.0%

  • Jewelry, $0 - $100

    Votes: 0 0.0%

  • Jewelry, so expensive she'll pretty much have to.

    Votes: 1 10.0%

  • Chocolate $0 - $10

    Votes: 0 0.0%

  • Chocolate $10 - $30

    Votes: 0 0.0%
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    10
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Well, the missus is feeling the blues today. A whole number of reason why, but suffice to say, I owe it to her.

Anyways, I was wondering how many of you buy nice things for the better half in your relationship. Also wondering what you pick out for them (and how much).

Thanks,

AO
 
I'm pretty much a cheap skate. It's either flowers, chocolates or the odd bit of jewellery. They're usually just grateful that I get them something.
 
I like to have a nice bouquet delivered to her work so all her friends can see the flowers. She really appreciates it. On average, for the "Just Because" flowers, their usually around 35-40 dollars. About the cost of a PS2 game.
 
I like to have a nice bouquet delivered to her work so all her friends can see the flowers. She really appreciates it. On average, for the "Just Because" flowers, their usually around 35-40 dollars. About the cost of a PS2 game.
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I'm locked out of that approach (effective as it is) because of security where she works. So for a normal pick-me-up type thing, I go for the bouquet brought home, but I usually stick to the $10 range because the cats eat them anyway.

For the most recent event (milestone birthday) I'm going all out: "Jewlery so expensive she pretty much has to" disguised as "Chocolate $10-$30". It should be an interesting event.
 
Rj: pay attention to us old guys, and you'll know just what to do when you do get one.

AO
 
I gave something similar to flowers to a girl before (she loved it). It's not what you give to women; it's the fact that you gave them something. They appreciate that you are thinking about them.
 
Well, if she's just in a down and out sort of mood, (and I didnt' cause it :D ) I would get some flowers along with maybe a stuffed animal.
Sometimes I will write various notes and leave them around the house for her to find while I'm away.
Flowers are good, but get some "happy" flowers. Not roses or anything romantic as such. I don't mind spending around 30-40 dollars on things like this. Spend more if I'm trying to get myself out of hot water. ;)

Chocolates, never. She's gonna get pissed cus you got her something that is gonna make her fat. :lol: :lol: No, really she is.

Jewelry, I usualy wait for a special occasion. That way it's more of a shock to them since they don't get jewelry very often. But I usually spend big bucks on jewelry.
Diamonds and Platinum seem to be a womans favorite. :irked:

So Alex, there ya go. If you're not trying to get yourself out of the dog house, then something like the above mentioned should do you just fine. But if you're doing this to get out of the dog house either "Go BIG, or don't go home." ;)
 
I'm not old!
Nywayz RJ you're saving you self a lot of money by not having a girlfreind and make the most of the free time you have when single, because you won't get much of it back when you get involved :( ....i miss my freinds....:(
 
Originally posted by wee_man
I'm not old!
Nywayz RJ you're saving you self a lot of money by not having a girlfreind and make the most of the free time you have when single, because you won't get much of it back when you get involved :( ....i miss my freinds....:(
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Ahhh, truer words were never spoken.
 
Originally posted by Der Alta

Anyways, I was wondering how many of you buy nice things for the better half in your relationship.
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I haven't got a relationship, quit bragging.
 
Originally posted by boombexus
Well, if she's just in a down and out sort of mood, (and I didnt' cause it :D ) I would get some flowers along with maybe a stuffed animal.
Sometimes I will write various notes and leave them around the house for her to find while I'm away.
Flowers are good, but get some "happy" flowers. Not roses or anything romantic as such. I don't mind spending around 30-40 dollars on things like this. Spend more if I'm trying to get myself out of hot water. ;)

Chocolates, never. She's gonna get pissed cus you got her something that is gonna make her fat. :lol: :lol: No, really she is.

Jewelry, I usualy wait for a special occasion. That way it's more of a shock to them since they don't get jewelry very often. But I usually spend big bucks on jewelry.
Diamonds and Platinum seem to be a womans favorite. :irked:

So Alex, there ya go. If you're not trying to get yourself out of the dog house, then something like the above mentioned should do you just fine. But if you're doing this to get out of the dog house either "Go BIG, or don't go home." ;)
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Great advise Boom, I would agree with your tactics. BTW - Who the heck is Alex? :D
 
If she is feeling down and i didn't cause it, i like to buy her some flowers. She really loves roses, so a nice bouquet of roses usually cheers her up.

If i am the cause of her downness, i like to take her to a expensive restaurant. She is a soon to be chef herself, and she really likes to complain about the quality of the courses and what should have been done to improve it. For some reason she tends to forgive me after a romantic night out and a good old rant about the restaurant.


I never buy her chocolates, simply because i happen to have one of the few girls out there that does not like chocolate.

Jewelry i save for a special occasion, like a birthday or our anniversary.
 
Originally posted by made in holland
She is a soon to be chef herself, and she really likes to complain about the quality of the courses and what should have been done to improve it.

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:O

Yeah, I'm definately guilty of that.

Or Alex, you could always cook a nice dinner at home. But from the sounds of it, I think that you might do this often already. Maybe go out to dinner.?. A night on the town maybe.?. Keep her away from the booze though. She's gonna get more depressed and you're gonna be getting an earful.
 
Originally posted by Tercel_driver
Same here.

Although I think I will never get one.
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If you have that attitude (like I used to) you will never have one. You have to be positive also you will tend to find your "companion" from sometimes the wierdest of places and wierdest of times when your not expecting it. So don't beat yourself up about it.
 
I don't get any of that material stuff, when I'm down Ron just does something silly to make me laugh and forget about it for a while, then if I'm still down he says "ah sod ye then" :lol: or " cheer up you grumpy old *****" :D

If it's him that put me in that mood then I expect no less than flowers and booze :) and to be let off dinner duty for 2 nights at least :p
 
Originally posted by lotus350
I don't get any of that material stuff, when I'm down Ron just does something silly to make me laugh and forget about it for a while, then if I'm still down he says "ah sod ye then" :lol: or " cheer up you grumpy old *****" :D
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You might not now this, but if you're grumpy, Ron lets you beat him in a couple of races without you knowing it.


Sorry Ron for telling her your little secret:p
 
Flowers; luckily I grow my own roses (do a search) so it's an easy gesture. A simple bouquet for under $10 does the trick every so often (when she's feeling blue, sick, or just needs a surprize).

Jewlery, well...she's not big on that. And chocolate isn't her thing. Probably because she knows I'll eat it.
 
I get my wife flowers periodically. Every so often I start feeling like "what have I done for her lately?" . . . aside from the routine stuff, that is. And I'll stop on my way home from work and pick up a bouquet, whatever looks nicest. For anniversaries, Valentines, and other occasions I'll order them and spend more. The last time was her first day back at work after maternity leave. Those were from the baby, though.

I usually do jewelry for Christmas and her birthday. I'm known to be a bit of a big spender on jewelry. She's worth it, and I won't buy cheap crap. I like giving it to her and seeing her wear it. We'll remember the day I gave it to her together and have a "moment". It's very symbolic for us.
 
Originally posted by wee_man
If you have that attitude (like I used to) you will never have one. You have to be positive also you will tend to find your "companion" from sometimes the wierdest of places and wierdest of times when your not expecting it. So don't beat yourself up about it.
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No really. I mean, I have had bad luck with that. If you make some bactrack in gtplanet, you will find some posts about my situation.
 
Originally posted by made in holland
You might not now this, but if you're grumpy, Ron lets you beat him in a couple of races without you knowing it.


Sorry Ron for telling her your little secret:p
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Sorry you mis-heard or was mis-informed , it's the other way around, as he's the grumpy one ;) :p
 
Well, we have a streak of that. We always give each other stuff for the house, etc. for holidays. But once in a while, like milefile says, there's just a time when you get the feeling something random but nice needs to be done. So that's when I get her something pointless but cheery like flowers or a new pair of earrings or whatever.

Chocolate is a favorite for my wife, but it's also somewhat obvious and unimaginative, which is why I'm using the empty Godiva box as a Q-ship for the real knockout lurking inside.
 
Originally posted by neon_duke
But once in a while, like milefile says, there's just a time when you get the feeling something random but nice needs to be done. So that's when I get her something pointless but cheery like flowers or a new pair of earrings or whatever.
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I have to totally agree there with Neon and Milefile there.

I think the best example of doing something extremely nice for a significant other was with this one realationship I had with a woman that I could have married. (don't ask). I woke up real early in the moring at about 5am. The night before I had gotten her a nicely sized stuffed animal and about 24 long stemmed roses with a card. She was really down, just lost her Grandmother a week before and she wasn't snapping out of it. I end up at her place at 5:45am and place the card, stuffed animal and roses on her car. The night before I had her come over with her camera too which I rightfully misplaced that night. So she comes walking out at 6 am getting ready to go to school and I took three pictures. The first was of her car with the items on it. The second with her walking up to the car and lipping out "WTF". the third was the look on her face as she was reading the card and crying a little. She did not see me around the corner so she didn't even know about the pictures. That night she was so happy. but the next day it was back to being a little down, not fully as she was. This was the best part of it. She worked at a photolab and developed pictures. I told her I found the camera and gave it back to her that night. What made it all worth it was when she came over the next night with the pictures and thanked me so much. I truly loved that woman. It is memories like that, it makes me sad when it doesn't work out. But something totally out of character and from the heart is the best treatment to any blues. :D
 
Originally posted by Der Alta
Rj: pay attention to us old guys, and you'll know just what to do when you do get one.

AO
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Heh, old guys, and you're what, 31? I'm not too obsessed about getting a girlfriend right now. It's only highschool, and none of those things are too serious. Plus, it's kind of difficult for me to find a Catholic chick(No offense to non-Catholic chicks, if you want my explination, then PM me or something) here in Minnesota... I've been eyeing a few girls for quite some time, now, but since I'm not the most attractive person(physically, I find that I can be attractive in other senses, such as character-wise), I do think I have good character. That's another thing hard to come by- girls with good character...

Here's something that should woo the woman over, though:

Cook her one of her favorite meals, and have it be a surprise for when she gets home.
 
Originally posted by neon_duke
Well, we have a streak of that. We always give each other stuff for the house, etc. for holidays. But once in a while, like milefile says, there's just a time when you get the feeling something random but nice needs to be done. So that's when I get her something pointless but cheery like flowers or a new pair of earrings or whatever.
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Horses for courses - my other half's a trained engineer, and works as a financial systems project manager, so she's a big fan of the practical stuff (which includes chocolate and champagne, by the way).

I pride myself on staying 'ahead of the game' - friends comment that I seem to have a pretty free rein in terms of activities - running, playing golf, heading out with the boys, PS2/PC time, etc. I believe this is because I'm very good at forward managing the relationship - I always have a few favours in hand, things like offering to drive home from a party so she can have a few drinks, picking her up or dropping off places that she could get to by public transport, doing household chores that would normally be hers unexpectedly, little gifts or treats here and there.

I'm never in trouble domestically, and (aside from her easy-going nature, which is one of the reasons I fell for her in the first place) I think this is a fair portion of why.
 
I stand in RJ's boat. Saved money. Though I have like $15 right now. Heh. At school I usually give out the crappy candy I don't like(99% of the candy teachers give out) to girls. Doesn't get me anywhere, but atleast I can ditch the stuff I don't eat.

My dad is running out of stuff for my mom. My mom likes cats, so the past several years, she gets chrystal cat stuff and gold cat stuff. Though we pretty much have all of Hallmark's collection now. ;)
 

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