I need advice- Trouble with girl at school

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Danoff
The description you've given is unbelievably common. I'll wait to see if you can distinguish your situation somehow.
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Sorry, only noticted your post 10 minutes ago. Well, it's not 10 minutes but it will be once I have typed this up. I do share quite a lot of common intrests with her. I will try and find a simple place to start, say subjects you do at school, since everybody can realate to that. We both like Art, Food Technology, ICT, Lifeskills, and we both don't like English or Maths, mind you who does. :lol: I share other intrests with her such as Music, (not the lesson you do at school, just music in general) we both don't like football or anyother similar sport much, whats on TV, Movies, but generally we don't talk about this stuff much. When we do we just talk about what we've been doing over the weekend, other times I talk to her about things that have happened, like for example a couple of weeks ago some boy had got killed when he got hit by a bus, and we we're both talking about it. I think most people were actually, it was a pretty hard thing to ignore, when you consider another kid had been killed when they got hit by a car, on the same road, right at the next junction. We both want to have a job that has something to do with working on cars when we leave school, I forgot to mention that. :dunce: Of course, there is one or two things that our opinions differ on. Like shopping for example... :rolleyes: We both have a similar sense of humor. About 2 months ago, we were both walking up the stair case talking, one of her shoes fell off. She didn't fall over, which was lucky considering that stair cases aren't made out of cushions, but the next time I saw her, I was outside my Maths room, and she came up the stairs. I went up to her and said "Ah, you made it up ok this time", in a rather sarcastic tone, while sort of directing my eyes to her shoes. She smiled at me and turned bright red. :O There have been other times but I can't go into all off it. I am sort of shy around her (not to the extent were I am pissing my self, I do have a lot more confidence then that) but she has always been really nice to me all the time, and so I have been growing in confidence. When I was in Foodtech these other students were giving me a hard time, so I just kept telling them to **** off and get a life. They weren't really listening that much and so she started sticking up for me, she always has oddly. :odd: Sorry if I am going on here but people have been making out to be some kind of bitch, and I will admit that it 100% my fault for not describing my situation. I hope you don't need me to describe my situation anymore than that or I will be sitting here typing until the year 3000! :indiff:

PS: Sorry if this took a long time to post. You ever tried doing three things at once?

PSS: Sorry if the post does not make any sense to you what so ever, I did try to explain things as cleary as possible, something that I am not very good at doing when it comes to typing it up!
 
Craig HP
About 2 months ago, we were both walking up the stair case talking, one of her shoes fell off. She didn't fall over, which was lucky considering that stair cases aren't made out of cushions, but the next time I saw her, I was outside my Maths room, and she came up the stairs. I went up to her and said "Ah, you made it up ok this time", in a rather sarcastic tone, while sort of directing my eyes to her shoes. She smiled at me and turned bright red.
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Well at least you have something too fall back on if silence falls, but this connection means nothing as you said she has someone already. Is there really anything you can do to stop that?

No.
 
Craig HP
Ok Speedy Samurai. Since you obversly got a problem with member asking advice on this website, how about you PM Jordan and propose this to him. Any member who ask's for advice on this website should be banned for ever. Oh yeah, and here is a new tag... [/NOT SARCASM]
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Obviously, you have failed to detect the sarcasm in my post. That's okay. You're young and before you know it, you will learn these things. The gist of my post was...

"It irks me that kids living in a high-tech, relevantly well-off society can complain about their lives when the worst thing that has happened to them is having some girl that they like be interested in someone else."

Evidently, I am not alone in this thinking, as I pointed out by using the Family Guy scenario as an example.

Good luck! My advice: Do something.
 
Danoff
Keep in mind that unlike men, women don't put a lot of stock into appearance alone. Your rating will be based largely on attitude, behavior, and personality. Depending on the girl, your rating may also be determined largely by the effect you have on those around you. It's a difficult mindset to get into, because you don't think that way. You're interested in this girl because you think she's hot and she has flirted with you. She knows that.

I'm generalizing here, and I could be way off base if this girl is special (which, from your description, it doesn't sound like). Ok, here's the generalization: she'll be interested in you if you're the guy that other guys at school follow. If you're a leader, socially, of 14 year olds, she'll be attracted to that. If you're confident, a little cocky, and you don't worship the ground she walks on, she'll probably be interested. If you're shy, the other guys don't respect you, and you break out in nervous hives every time you try to talk to her - you have no chance. You amount to little more than a confidence boost for her. She flirts with you, sees you wet you pants, and enjoys the fact that she's desired.

There's something wrong with a 14 year old's brain (mine was broken too when I was that age), that prevents guys from recognizing girls who understand and abuse the power that their appearance has over the guys around them.

If that assessment is off-base, I apologize. If you'd started this thread by talking about how you really connect with this girl on a personal level and you two have lots of common interests, share the same sense of humor etc. etc., I'd have responded differently. As it is, you remind me of so many misguided crushes I had when I was stupid.
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This is so true its hard to agree with more. Like I said earlier there was one particular girl that even now I regret I didn't acpet her offer to go on a date with (partly because i didn't want to ruin are good freindship, partly because I was lacking confidence) other than that every other girl I have liked or been with has been forgotten. You like this girl sure, there is no doubt about that, but is a passing crush, if this girl really is something else you will know it, without an ounce of doubt in your mind. Its nice to have things in common, but its often what things you don't have in common and how accepting you are of those things which ulitmately determines how compatible you are.
 
Solid Lifters
What you should have done was stuck your tongue down your friends throat just to show her up! Now who's the jealous one, baby?
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I know this is from the first page, but I had to bring it up again. :lol:
 
Craig HP
Today has almost certainly been the worst day of my life.
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I just wanted to quote that for you.

So that when you come back in 12 months' time you can look at it and facepalm.
 
Jeez I can't imagine how long this thread has gone for. IMO Craig, just give her up or take some action. There's no point of just posting this here if you won't take an effort. I don't think an internet forum is the best place to ask this anyway. Just get some friend's advice who knows this chick or something, it kind of worked for me. I would regret it now if I did "get" that girl. I'm not sure of how your "school" works but the girls here ended up being all cocky and bitchy. I at that time too treated her like the world, but now after going to an all-boys school I've gotten over it.
 
Ram-Rod
I met (and started dating) my current wife at 16...

Maybe I just got lucky.
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You're 2 years older then me, I find it hard to believe a relationship that started at 16, marriage at 20 will last forever, succesfully...
 
Bram Turismo
You're 2 years older then me, I find it hard to believe a relationship that started at 16, marriage at 20 will last forever, succesfully...
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My parents met when they were 17 I think, and my grandpa/ma met when they were 12, all of them are still married, and they're like a million years old.
 
I have got a plan of action. But, I will say later. Dad is on computer, right behind me, and it's embarrasing for your parents to read about these things if you know what I mean!
 
Craig HP
I have got a plan of action. But, I will say later. Dad is on computer, right behind me, and it's embarrasing for your parents to read about these things if you know what I mean!
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Remember, it's not rape if you shout "surprise".
 
zoxxy
My parents met when they were 17 I think, and my grandpa/ma met when they were 12, all of them are still married, and they're like a million years old.
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Wow, that's quite old...like...ancient! :p
 
Bram Turismo
You're 2 years older then me, I find it hard to believe a relationship that started at 16, marriage at 20 will last forever, succesfully...
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Half of all marriages end in divorce, the other half end in death.

Ram-Rod, I hope you die...
 
zoxxy
My parents met when they were 17 I think, and my grandpa/ma met when they were 12, all of them are still married, and they're like a million years old.
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Same, my 'renst met at 16, married at 23 (woo, saving for a wedding lol) and still together nearly 26 years later.

Lead to many an awkward joke from my dad when I've brought a girlfriend home.
 
Craig HP
I have got a plan of action. But, I will say later. Dad is on computer, right behind me, and it's embarrasing for your parents to read about these things if you know what I mean!
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OK, I see you completely ignored the part about not doing anything as it would only make things worse for you. In that case, try and remember this: men forget, but never forgive while women forgive, but never forget. If this "plan of action" goes badly - and I'm pretty sure it will - then the object of your affections won't forget what you do. And since women talk, you can bet your bottom dollar that every girl in school will know about it before the week is out. Your name is going to be mud and believe me when I say it will take one hell of a long time to clear it. Unfortunately I know this because I had a heated argument with someone a few years ago and she decided to play the sexual harrassment card, even though nothing of the sort had happened. It was two years before everyone found out what had really happened - I'd had an altercation with a drunk and accidentally ran into this girl from behind - but it still lingers as her friends tell everyone what they thought had happened at every opportunity (even though the girl in question is gone); there are first-years at my residential college who believe it before they even know my name.

So pay attention, Craig HP: whatever the hell your "plan of action" is, forget about it. You're skating on very thin ice and gambling when you have no idea of the stakes. Don't expect me - or anyone else - to bail you out if it goes south because as far as I'm concerned, anything that goes wrong will be a product of your own stupidity and you'll have thoroughly earned it.
 
Danoff
SNL, last weekend. :)
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Best episode they've done in a decade...

...A friend of mine is getting married, I'm tempted to put it in a card...

But I'm not a douchebag, so I won't.
 

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