Is Anyone here Married?

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I'll be married 9 years this September. Couldn't be happier and wouldn't change a thing if I could.

But it appears my experience with marriage is in the minority these days.

I'd say congratulations on your engagement, but I hope you already know if you've made the right choice. If you're still wondering....

Have you lived together yet? Shared finances?


M
 
Ye, we live in a house in a place called Falkirk, I'd never change my mind about Georgia unless she cheated on me. hopefully that wouldn't happen.
 
Danster
Just wan't to know. I'm getting married in May (I'm just 22)
Is it a good experience?:nervous:
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Married three years this June.

Is the wedding a good experience or marriage in general?

The Wedding: I assume you are the groom, so no. You are merely a decoration to your bride's wedding. I am sure you have found that out by now as you have gone through all the planning. You worry about the dress, flowers, colors, guest lists, food, etc, but if you are going insane no one cares. Just keep her happy. ;) Oh, and all that good looking food you all are having; you will be lucky to get a bite. I suggest setting something up with your mother or a friend to have them pull you out of the crowd of well wishers and hand you a plate of food off to the side where they don't let anyone bother you until you have eaten at least a little bit. After it is all said and done you won't remember any of it.

Now, if you are doing some small thing with like five guests then perhaps you will. But we had almost 200 people and by the end of it I just wanted to be left alone with my wife.

Marriage itself: Yes, it is a godo experience, assuming you are with the right woman. By the fact that you are getting married we can assume you are, or by this point you would have had signs. I am absolutely happy in my marriage. Having someon to come home to whom you love and who loves you back every single day is wonderful. Some days it doesn't feel that way, but those are short lived in comparison to everything. The overall scheme of a happy marriage is a wonderful thing and I wouldn't trade it in for anything. It was worth all the pains of the wedding to get to this point.
 
I've been married *looks at ceiling* 5? well, it's coming up on 6 years now. It's an excellent experience. I wish more people got married young (I was just barely 22 at the time). By getting married young you have time to really focus on and strengthen your relationship before bringing kids into the picture. Kids have a natural tendency to divide couples who don't have a strong relationship built ahead of time.

Once I got married, I felt like life really began. I felt like I'd been a child up until that point, and that I could finally focus on living instead of finding a mate. People say that it's not all fun and games, but it certainly seems that way to me. But then again, I can't remember a time in my life when I didn't want to have found my "soulmate" (for lack of a better word) and be with her always... so maybe it's different for you.

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FK
You are merely a decoration to your bride's wedding.
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You may both be a decoration at a party that's really for your parents.
 
I'll have 12 years with my current wife this July. She's my best friend and greatest supporter. I also had a 3.5 year PITA marriage prior that didn't work out so well. It can be a lot of work, but it will be a life that you get to build together and as long as you both are headed in the same direction, it should work out just fine. :)

Many congrats.

Someone told us on our wedding day to treat each other with as much respect, honor, and graciousness as you would a guest in your home. NEVER take your spouse for granted.

:cheers:
 
I just passed 9 years of wedded bliss. We get along and agree 90% of the time, one of us isn't interested enough to have an opinion about something 5% of the time and the other 5% we disagree. Not a bad ratio. In that 9 years, we've bought two houses, gone through 5 cars and had 2 kids. Without her I wouldn't have done any of those.

As for you being "just" 22, I was 21 (3 months short of 22). ;)
 
///M-Spec
I'll be married 9 years this September. Couldn't be happier and wouldn't change a thing if I could.

But it appears my experience with marriage is in the minority these days.
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Married 18 years this coming December. Couldn't be happier; a few things I would change if I could, AND if I knew it wouldn't screw something else up instead.
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Best of luck to you and your fiancee. I agree with ///M-Spec - have you practiced yet? It can tell you a lot about what to expect from the marriage, and it can make the transition from dating to husband and wife a lot more smooth.

FoolKiller
The Wedding: I assume you are the groom, so no. You are merely a decoration to your bride's wedding.
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I'm going to disagree here. My (then future-) wife and I planned everything ourselves, together. We designed the wedding dress, we picked the pattern for the bridesmaid's suits; we bought yards of raw silk, silk habotai, and silk charmeuse. We dyed the silk for the suits (4 different deep jewel tones, one for each bridesmaid). She sewed the suits and her dress; I did her train. Tradition dictated morning suits for the men, given that we got married at 3:30p.

We sampled different reception venues and picked our menu. We hired the DJ, told her what to play, and asked her not to say anthing all night. But we did it all ourselves, together.
 
Been with the same woman for 13 years, now. Haven't been married for a single day of it. I often refer to her as 'my wife.'

You gotta be best friends. It wouldn't work any way else. Simple as that.
 
Solid Lifters
You gotta be best friends. It wouldn't work any way else. Simple as that.
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Indeed. My wife & I are coming up on our 5 year anniversary.
(Wood, apparently. Uh-huh. Uh-huh-huh-huh! Wood! )
Again, just like everyone else here that has posted so far, we're very happy together, heck, she followed me halfway round the world just so we could be together. 👍
We have our differences, as any couple do, but I'm sure if you share every interest with someone and live with them too, then you eventually get sick of living out of each other's pockets, so a little diversity is good and it makes you appreciate your partner as your friend & companion as well!
Was 28 when we got hitched, but we'd been together for almost 3 years by that point, so it seemed silly to wait for something we both knew that we wanted.
 
Smallhorses
Indeed. My wife & I are coming up on our 5 year anniversary.
(Wood, apparently. Uh-huh. Uh-huh-huh-huh! Wood! )
Again, just like everyone else here that has posted so far, we're very happy together, heck, she followed me halfway round the world just so we could be together. 👍
We have our differences, as any couple do, but I'm sure if you share every interest with someone and live with them too, then you eventually get sick of living out of each other's pockets, so a little diversity is good and it makes you appreciate your partner as your friend & companion as well!
Was 28 when we got hitched, but we'd been together for almost 3 years by that point, so it seemed silly to wait for something we both knew that we wanted.
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Cool, you're a mod. 👍

I guess Pupik is one too, and that just wasn't a clever avatar.
 
before bringing kids into the picture. Kids have a natural tendency to divide couples who don't have a strong relationship built ahead of time.
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Georgia is currently 3 months pregnant, somehow, i don't think kids will break us up.
 
My wife and I have been married for 5 years, all of it pleasurable. We'd been together for 6 years before that, so we knew what we were getting into. We have a 1-year-old daughter, so playing any video games is a rare moment indeed.

Communication is key: Respect each other, but be honest and open, and don't hold it all in or you'll blow up at each other and nobody wants to listen (whether in the relationship or not!) at that point. As long as you're both ready to make the commitment to each other and keep it, then your marriage will do fine.
 
Just make sure it's 100% what you want. I made a major error when I was 21 by getting married to the wrong person but fortunately something good has come from it in the form of my (almost 7 year old) daughter.

However, there is happiness to be had and i'm pleased to report that I'm now with my soulmate. Yay :)
 
I've been married for 24 years. Would do the same all over again! Ah........:)

nige
 
Whoa hey stop.

Guys guys guys.

Stop marrying at <25!!!

I will share with you the two magic words.

Promise. Ring.
 
sn00pie
Whoa hey stop.

Guys guys guys.

Stop marrying at <25!!!

I will share with you the two magic words.

Promise. Ring.
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Being young and married is awesome! It's phenomenal. And it has major relationship advantages. Being married without children is a great opportunity for building your relationship so that you can know each other well before a child tries to decipher differences between you. Once you have kids, time for your relationship and each other is much reduced (from what I can tell), so best to build a strong foundation. Not only that, but many couples who don't have a strong relationship prior to having kids end up in divorce when they retire and the relationship once again focuses on the two of them. I think it's a critical period in a marriage (obviously every marriage is different and extenuating circumstances abound).

Generally, though, as someone who met my wife when I was 19 and married just after turning 22, I can say for sure, marry as soon as you're sure she's the one. DINKing FTW
 

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