Marriage

[BubbleBelly542]

Does it suck to be married?

Does it suck to have kids?

Does it suck to be married and have kids at the same time?

 

[Milldrum]

Does it suck to be married?

Does it suck to have kids?

Does it suck to be married and have kids at the same time?

Does it suck to have .....

It depends on the '........'

Mine are good fun. I have 1 of each. But it depends on the quality of the '........'

 

[BubbleBelly542]

Does it suck to have .....

It depends on the '........'

Mine are good fun. I have 1 of each. But it depends on the quality of the '........'

What

 

[CodeRedR51]

I'm never getting married. So won't be able to tell you.

 

[W3H5]

I've been engaged before and am currently sort unofficially of married. My wife and I are both residing in China where neither one of us are natives so therefore cannot be legally married, but we've had a ceremony of sorts.

My first was great for the first 4 years. Peas in a pod we were, best of friends and very happy together. It was lack of ambition on her part that made us go our separate ways. Left on good terms though.

Current missus is very different from the first, and from me. A wonderful women who over time a managed to get used to my short comings and just accepts that I'm me. We've been hounded by our parents to give them grandchildren for so long but are waiting until her masters is finished in a few years. If it were down to me I'd have them now while my job pays fortunes and is stable and I'm young enough to be an active father.

Does it suck, marrage? Sometimes, but the pros outweigh the cons.

Do kids suck? I can only say from having 2 baby sisters that I'm glad I can give them back at the end of the day, even though I love them dearly.

 

[Milldrum]

Does it suck to have .....

It depends on the '........'

Mine are good fun. I have 1 of each. But it depends on the quality of the '........'

The '......' can be replaced with Wife or Kid/kids.

 

[disinfected]

Who says you have to have kids to be married?

 

[niky]

Conversely... why get married if you don't want kids? Heck, you can even have kids and raise them together without getting legally married... but then there are the benefits...

 

[MadMike'86]

Does it suck to be married? - No, not if you marry the right one

Does it suck to have kids? - Can't say, but will know soon enough

Does it suck to be married and have kids at the same time? - No, from what I understand it feels like the next natural step in life

 

[lukecfc]

The '......' can be replaced with Wife or Kid/kids.

Hmm, my initial thought was 'sex', but I guess wife or kids work too...

 

[TimberW]

Does it suck to be married?
Nope. It's great to have a companion, although there are different challenges at different phases of your lives. Also remember that you are probably the other 1/2 which adds to the issues if there is any. And you play 1/2 the part to make it a great marriage.

Does it suck to have kids?
Nope. It's be best thing when my little daughter came out!

Does it suck to be married and have kids at the same time?
Nope. 1 + 1 = 3. funny math huh?

 

[Shaun]

1. No
2. No
3. No

Cheers Shaun.

 

[Neal]

1. No
2. No
3. No

Cheers Shaun.

This +1

 

[TheCracker]

1. No
2. Can't imagine so.
3. Can't imagine so.

 

[Famine]

Does it suck to be married?

Does it suck to have kids?

Does it suck to be married and have kids at the same time?

I'll clue you in to the worst things about both. They are the wedding and the pregnancy - or specifically the preparation for the wedding and the nailbiting, crossing-off things that can be wrong with it part of the pregnancy.

Weddings can be very stressful. Even if you're a "yes dear, it's your day" husband-to-be, which I don't recommend (there's two of you - the day is for both of you), watching her get more and more wound up planning ridiculous things that you can't see the point of and making it more rigidly scheduled than a Japanese railway timetable - and paying for it - are killers. The most recent two I've been to - mine and daan's - were complex in their own ways (ours was ten thousand miles away and most of the preparation was done by Smallhorses and itgirlxx; daan's was more formal and there were kilts and a ceilidh) but struck the balance right. We all enjoyed both of them.

Pregnancy is a rollercoaster of risk. Every day is a disaster waiting to happen - even before you start. Folic acid, runny eggs, caffeine, alcohol and soft cheese become murder weapons, every twinge you get every day suddenly becomes "a problem", every scan and every test is an attempt to find something wrong, she stops eating for a month and occasionally passes out, then she eats enough for three and occasionally lashes out. We haven't even got to the birth yet - which in our case will be scheduled major abdominal surgery with an alternative of death - and then there's the infant years. A general surgeon friend of mine remarked that he hated paediatric medicine because not only do the kids not tell you what's wrong (because they can't), but they also exhibit almost no symptoms of illness whatsoever up until the point they've died from it...


Being married and having kids are each well worth it, whether you do one or the other or both. The lead up to either is a nightmare.

Oh, and if you're preparing for either and asking yourself those questions, run. Run for the hills. Don't look back and don't even pick up your clothes.

 

[Neal]

Also don't forget the poo, there's lots and lots of poo.

 

[Shaun]

Also don't forget the projectile poo, there's lots and lots of poo.

Fixed that for ya.

Cheers Shaun.

 

[Neal]

We are still talking about the kids aren't we?

 

[Aldo]

We are still talking about the kids aren't we?

Well I've heard curries are strong round your way so maybe not..
💡

 

[ScouserInExile]

Does it suck to be married?

Does it suck to have kids?

Does it suck to be married and have kids at the same time?

No.

No.

No.

 

[Shaun]

@ Neal.


Cheers Shaun.

 

[Vince_Fiero]

Does it suck to be married?

Marriage is a tradition, it has nothing to do with your relationship for me.
We looked into making our partnership for ever official and found that legally marriage was the best way, seen in the context of the projects we had planned. You should not get married because that is the thing to do, you should get married because you decided to be with someone forever and chose to make that official in a marriage.

Your question seems to go in the direction if you go for monogamy, serial monogamy or polygamy. For me that is your choice, but be (and stay) transparent with your partner on that, although some psychologists say that a white lie can save a relationship.

Does it suck to have kids?

Have kids because you want to give to them, not to receive.
You will have to give a lot, but from what I heard you receive in surprising ways.
Personally we chose not to have kids, it is a choice (but accidents happen).

Does it suck to be married and have kids at the same time?

Cumulative things can make them more challenging, but not really getting the question. Marriage and kids are a choice, assume your choices and make the best of it, generally is will turn out quite well, IMHO.

 

[Famine]

1. No
2. No
3. No

No.

No.

No.

I'm afraid you've both contracted what appears to be... Amy Winehouse Syndrome. I prescribe four lines of [Sherbert] and a [tube] of [Smarties].

 

[ScouserInExile]

They did try to make me go to rehab.

 

[Vince_Fiero]

They did try to make me go to rehab.

I hope your life ending is a bit later then it was for the original.
We were on holidays and a bit shocked when we heard Amy passed away this week-end.

Back on topic.

No, No, No does seem a bit of an oversimplified answer, but certainly is valid in some contexts.

 

[Tesla]

They did try to make me go to rehab.

But I said, no, no, nooo.

 

[MadMike'86]

Have you gone Black though?

 

[Steele_obsidion]

Ive been married for 1.5 years now.

No kids, but plans to eventually

let me put it this way. Its not easy. You fight occasionally, but if you truly love someone (like in my case i am STILL mad crazy about Denise) it all just works itself out. im a big proprietor of everything happens for a reason, AND that there is someone out there for everyone. that one person that you just love coming home to every night, someone you just cant live without.

I cant tell you its all good. Like i said it has its ups and its downs. but in the end, though denise gets on my case for playing to much GT5 (like there is such a thing as TO much GT5 sheesh ) we get along very well. it majorly helps that we were best friends THEN we dated. i married my lover AND my best friend.

 

[Famine]

I didn't know polygamy was legal in Michigan...

 

[BubbleBelly542]

I'll clue you in to the worst things about both. They are the wedding and the pregnancy - or specifically the preparation for the wedding and the nailbiting, crossing-off things that can be wrong with it part of the pregnancy.

Weddings can be very stressful. Even if you're a "yes dear, it's your day" husband-to-be, which I don't recommend (there's two of you - the day is for both of you), watching her get more and more wound up planning ridiculous things that you can't see the point of and making it more rigidly scheduled than a Japanese railway timetable - and paying for it - are killers. The most recent two I've been to - mine and daan's - were complex in their own ways (ours was ten thousand miles away and most of the preparation was done by Smallhorses and itgirlxx; daan's was more formal and there were kilts and a ceilidh) but struck the balance right. We all enjoyed both of them.

Pregnancy is a rollercoaster of risk. Every day is a disaster waiting to happen - even before you start. Folic acid, runny eggs, caffeine, alcohol and soft cheese become murder weapons, every twinge you get every day suddenly becomes "a problem", every scan and every test is an attempt to find something wrong, she stops eating for a month and occasionally passes out, then she eats enough for three and occasionally lashes out. We haven't even got to the birth yet - which in our case will be scheduled major abdominal surgery with an alternative of death - and then there's the infant years. A general surgeon friend of mine remarked that he hated paediatric medicine because not only do the kids not tell you what's wrong (because they can't), but they also exhibit almost no symptoms of illness whatsoever up until the point they've died from it...

Being married and having kids are each well worth it, whether you do one or the other or both. The lead up to either is a nightmare.

Oh, and if you're preparing for either and asking yourself those questions, run. Run for the hills. Don't look back and don't even pick up your clothes.

I'm not even old enough to be married yet. Far from it. Its just that I've heard several adults have varying opinions.