My parents think I'm doing drugs, what should I do?

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You should make a point of showing how tired you are and then say, "Man, I'm exhausted. I should start taking drugs or something."

There, you have just hinted that you have not taken drugs (yet).
 
It happens.

There comes a time every young man's life when he hears the words: "Are you on drugs?"

It sometimes happens in High School... it invariably happens in College. It especially happens if you get no sleep.

To me, sleep deprivation is almost as bad as substance abuse. It makes you groggy, irritable, clumsy and hard to live with.

If you don't want to hear the "drugs" talk, get some sleep. I've been there myself... at least, since insomnia is common in our family (I have relatives who wake up at 4 pm and go to sleep at 8 am), they don't give me as much grief as they normally would.
 
Tell them to buy one of the drug kits. And that anytime they can ask you to pee in the bottle. You say you don't do them. So what's the big deal. When and if they ask you to do it. You'll test clean and they will apologize to you probably. It's not like "being tired" will show up on any test.

Many jobs these days require you to submit to a random test within 24hrs. Welcome to the real world.
 
I have a job interview at Sears on December third and according to my friend they make you take a very highly secured drug test. If I had been doing drugs any time this month I would fail that test, so once I take that they should be off my back.
 
Diablo'
I have a job interview at Sears on December third and according to my friend they make you take a very highly secured drug test. If I had been doing drugs any time this month I would fail that test, so once I take that they should be off my back.
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and then after the test, back to the drugs!
 
Like all parents, they're probably just worried because they noticed changed behavior and are not familiar with the matter (drugs) at all. Family members not (directly) communicating with each other also doesn't help.

If something is on your mind (or your parents for that matter), just confront them in a civilized manner. That's the only way to get it off your (and their) chest. And if it's hard for your parents to take the first step (which it apparently is, judging from the fact they approached your sister first), it's up to you to make the first move. :) 'm sure they'll appreciate your candidness (and if they don't, there's not much you can do about it). If you did everything in your power to clear things up, it's not your problem anymore.

Being a father myself, I certainly realize that at some point in time, my children will probably experiment with things like sex, alcohol, drugs, smoking, etc. And there's not a damn' thing I can do about it if it is happening outside of my view. Personally, I'm not too concerned this will happen, because I think it's just part of life. To me it's not a matter of 'if', but 'when'.

The only thing I care about is that my children will know they can talk to me about *any* subject if problems arise (addiction, pregnancy, etc. etc.). And I most certainly will (try to) inform them about drugs/alcohol/sex/etc. myself when the time comes to do so. That takes a lot of the awkwardness away.

And I certainly don't think drug tests are an answer. If you (as a parent) need those, you have major trust issues in your home/family, and those (to me anyway) are a bigger issue than a (possible) drug issue and parents should address those trust issues first, because this time the parents think it's drugs, next time it's alcohol, the other time criminal behavior, etc., etc. If the trust is not there, new issues WILL pop up.
 
I would laugh so hard if the machine was broken and it failed you. But then, i'd also feel very bad for you that now your parents have proof against you. Stay off fried and salted hemp seeds and sea urchins (they have a small Amount of the bad chemical weed has). Also, don't buy any pixie sticks. :p
 
Diablo'
I have a job interview at Sears on December third and according to my friend they make you take a very highly secured drug test. If I had been doing drugs any time this month I would fail that test, so once I take that they should be off my back.
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If by highly secured he means peeing in a cup while a guy stands outside the door asking if you are done yet and telling you not to flush...then yes.

But yeah, it will show you aren't taking anything commonly known. I had to do one for Sam's Club once and while I was in the clinic a couple of parents were bringing their daughter in to take one. She sat there talking about how it wasn't necessary and the mom said, "If you didn't lie to us before we could trust you now. This is your own fault."

Basically, the employer drug test is the same that your parents could force you to take if they wanted to push the issue.


One word of advice: If you have anything in your room that you wouldn't want your parents to see I suggest getting rid of it. You don't want to have this go from them suspecting drugs to having a long talk about that copy of Big Jugs magazine they found under your bed. Clean up your computer's hard drive too, if you need to.
 
FoolKiller
One word of advice: If you have anything in your room that you wouldn't want your parents to see I suggest getting rid of it. You don't want to have this go from them suspecting drugs to having a long talk about that copy of Big Jugs magazine they found under your bed. Clean up your computer's hard drive too, if you need to.
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I think I'd recommend against this. In fact, I might recommend the opposite. Get a copy of Big Jugs and put it under your mattress. It will convince your parents that you hadn't thought about clearing your room of incriminating evidence. They'll be convinced they got a candid snapshot and that there were no drugs. I'm not sure how a parent could take issue with a copy of Big Jugs anyway.

:)
 
Danoff
Propose a family hike somewhere.

That's all you have to do. There's no way a pot head would propose a hike. That's like, the exact opposite of pothead. It takes energy, it requires breathing heavily, it shows an interest in fresh air, it proves to your parents that you're not tired for any reason other than that you're a teenager and need sleep. Note that I didn't say you actually had to go on a hike. Just suggest one (but if they take you up on it, you have to go).
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Zrow
I gotta disagree with you here - people I know that smoke pot are exactly the kind of people who like to hike. They're also some of the more interesting and likable people I know, but I digress.
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Totally agree with Zrow here. A LOT of people I know and knew that smoke weed are actually some of the most artistic and enthusiastic people I know. They use it as a form of inspiration to get their mind to places that a normal mind WILL NOT GO, and to the people who have never even been within whiffing distance of a bong/joint I'm sorry but you will not understand what I am getting at here.

I'm not saying it's a great thing or advocating that you all go out and take a toke, but the truth is that a lot of the greatest artistic moments have come from people who were high at the time of creating that masterpiece, be it art, literature or music. Just in recent history from the past 50 years....people from Hendrix, to Morrison, to Andy Warhol. All were absolutely blasted out of their minds from weed or other stimulants (such as amphetamines or LSD). Then add to the list (yes they are all R.I.P.): John Belushi (Heroin), Heath Ledger (Painkillers), River Phoenix (Heroin), Kurt Cobain (Heroin), Chris Farley (Cocaine & Heroin), Hunter S. Thompson (ALL DRUGS!).....all of them contributed to some of the greatest films and music and articles that we watch, read and listen to over the years. Then add some living people like Johnny Depp, Dr.Dre, Amy Winehouse.....all of them have or are producing masterpieces in their respective areas or film or music.

With the hiking, potheads love doing it as it's an excuse to go searching for untouched natural 'crops' that may be hiding in those forests or hills that you live around. A bonus side adventure for those same hiking potheads is finding 'magic mushrooms'. You will see it a lot more regularly in rural areas than in the cities. :cool:

Diablo....I'd follow what some have said and just "discuss" things with the oldies. If they don't believe you offer to take a saliva test, then a urine test, then offer your arm for a blood test and even offer a strand of your hair for a hair follicle test (it will show anything you may have had in the previous 3 to 6 months!) which will clear you in EVERY way, shape and form.

If they STILL don't believe you after that, tell them they must be the mental cases taking drugs and move in with your mates. 👍
 
Danoff
I think I'd recommend against this. In fact, I might recommend the opposite. Get a copy of Big Jugs and put it under your mattress. It will convince your parents that you hadn't thought about clearing your room of incriminating evidence. They'll be convinced they got a candid snapshot and that there were no drugs. I'm not sure how a parent could take issue with a copy of Big Jugs anyway.

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Ah, the "auditor defence". Strategically leave something mild they can pick you up on. Hidden, but not too hidden. Findable, but not too quickly. Desire to note something fulfilled. Marvellous. Also, answer only the question, no more and no less.
 
I don't think that would go so smoothly, my parents are pretty big Christians.

I haven't had any problem with it since so I think they lost interest, now I can go back to doing drugs ;)
 
You don't have to tell them anything, just take a little time out of your day to spend some time with them. Talk about what you doing in general and let them into your life. They are concerned about your welfare and don't know your life and easily slip into "He must be doing drugs."
 
Diablo'
I don't think that would go so smoothly, my parents are pretty big Christians.

I haven't had any problem with it since so I think they lost interest, now I can go back to doing drugs ;)
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Hey, come on. What would happen if your parents searched you computer and found this post?:yuck:
 
My parents didn't at any point ask me if I was taking drugs.

I can only figure that I hid it very well :lol:
 
Milford Cubicle
My parents didn't at any point ask me if I was taking drugs.

I can only figure that I hid it very well :lol:
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I asked Jack if he had tried drugs, when he said no, I asked him why not.

I guess I am a little unconventional in my parenting. I have never encouraged drinking or drugs but I am a realist and know that they try - I did/do. It actually worked as a deterant for my daughter, she thought if I smoked dope then it can't be cool.

Same went for the internet, I knew what was out there and monitored what the kids were doing when they were younger to ensure it was safe but it is also quite natural for young lads to want to look at naked girls, it's just part of growing up. If anything I would have been concerned if Jack wasn't looking at it by the time he was 16.
 
Trying it is the best way to realise "actually, I don't want to do that anymore".

I did smoke cannabis for quite a while, but it was medicinal. I tore the muscle at the base of my back when I was 15 and it didn't heal correctly. I found cannabis to be the single only thing which rendered me completely pain free. I didn't ever tell my parents, but my dad was/is of the strong opinion that cannabis for medicinal purposes is perfectly acceptable and he'd use it himself if it was regulated!

After 5-6 years of smoking it on and off, I gave up as I didn't need it any longer, the pain was no longer constant and was only triggered by being on my feet for longer than 8 hours. Eventually I discovered that my feet and hypermobility were to blame, fixing the issue with my feet means after 10 years of back pain, it's gone! Yay!

I intend on parenting my child the way you have with Jack, Wenders. I want her to realise that it's ok to experiment, but I'd like her to be totally honest with me when she does. She's allowed to try different types of alcohol when we're drinking them in her presence. Up to now she only likes my strawberry and pear cider! Baileys, port, wine and beer all induce her very best "yuck" face :lol:
 
It really all comes down to how your parents raised you, and I think what you guys are doing is the right thing.

My parents were very strict growing up and as a result I've always had somewhat of a rebellious side. Not that I was compelled to do rebellious things, but all the things my parents didn't want me to do gave me a sort of rush because it was ingrained in me that it was wrong.
 
Well now my parents are more suspicious that I'm doing drugs than ever :grumpy:

They found out that I smoke cigarettes, which my mom apparently "doesn't mind," which is total bullcrap because she won't stop pestering me about it. To make a long story short she went through my closet without telling to get a box she wanted to use, which happened to be the box I had some old packs in.

She asked me after another weekend if I was doing drugs and I again said no, I would never do that. I literally said "Is there anything I can do that would make you stop thinking i'm doing drugs, because I'm pretty tired of this." That probably wasn't the best thing to say but it's starting to really frustrate me. I wish my weekends were that interesting, I may be out till 4am but honest to god all my friends and I do is ride bikes, mess around in his civic, and at the end of the night chill on his porch and talk about random crap for a while. Next time she asks I'm going to offer to do a drug test.
 
Diablo'
I literally said "Is there anything I can do that would make you stop thinking i'm doing drugs, because I'm pretty tired of this."
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And her answer was...?
 
But you are doing drugs. Just legal drugs, assuming you're over 18.

Speaking as someone whose father died of lung cancer, do yourself a favor and quit now.
 
Duke
But you are doing drugs. Just legal drugs, assuming you're over 18.

Speaking as someone whose father died of lung cancer, do yourself a favor and quit now.
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True, and yes I'm 18.

Yes, yes, everyone wants me to quit. I've tried but in the end I really have no reason to quit. Yes there are serious health risks involved, but to be honest I could give a damn (bad way of thinking I know). Plus it's something I really enjoy, so why quit for the sake of my parents bugging me about it.
 
Diablo'
Yes there are serious health risks involved, but to be honest I could give a damn (bad way of thinking I know).
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My mother works on a oncology unit as a nurse and the suffering of people who smoke and are getting lung cancer as young as 26 and dying with children or spouses at that young of an age that she tells me about was enough to keep me from ever wanting to smoke.

But to each their own I guess.
 

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