My position in life.

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Anyway, here goes.

My life has gone to hell in 1.5 weeks. How you ask? For starters, my mom got thrown in jail. How did this happen you ask? Heres the story, somewhat:

My mom was involved with drugs + alcohol from 1998-2000 (alchohol, all her life until 2000), very heavily. She got caught carrying some drugs in her car and was arrested, then sent to live in a half-way house (recovery house) for a year, getting out in may of 2001. As of our trip to las vegas in April (2002) she had started drinking again, but not badly. I still saw this as a bad sign, even though she said she was ok. Two weeks ago, me and her went over to her friends house to get her hair braided (i have no idea why she brought me), and every once and a while they would go into the bathroom for about 30 mins to 1 hr.

This was when i knew something was up, she was doing this kind of thing when she was really addicted to drugs back in 98-00. I knew she was doing drugs agian, and i asked her on the way home and she did admit it, promising me she'd never do it again. I thought okay, shes never lied to me before, so i trusted her. A few days later she leaves to go to another friends house, this time without me, leaving at about 9:00 at night. She doesnt come back until 3:00 the next day. She claims her car wouldnt start, but again, i didnt believe her, but i still didnt ask, knowing she had promised me.

Last friday (13th of december), my mom was out all night again. She came home at 11:00 am, and she looked horrible. Around 8:00 at night, her and neel (her husband, also the owner of the house, handicap, real ********. you'll see why later,) got into a huge fight. Eventually she started hitting him and tearing the house apart, ofcourse he couldnt defend himself, but tried his best. I went out there trying to keep em from yelling at eachother early before the physical stuff happened, only to get my mom pissed off at me and saying taht i wasnt her son anymore and that as far as she was concerned i could go to hell. After she said that i gave up and went into my room, knowing she didnt mean it.

Around 9:00 pm her and neel were still arguing and the house was literally TORN apart, the tv was on the floor, the glass case was on the floor, the table was flipped over and pottery was everywhere and ofcourse, there was glass all over. My mom came into my room and told me to get out there and clean it up, so i did and she was still saying about how i wasnt her son anymore yaddayadda yadda. Cops finally show up (who called, i dunno) and my mom and neel told their stories and they took my mom to jail.

Thats the long recap of how she got sent to jail, sorry about it being so long.

Anyway, to get on with it, i thought she was going to get out last tuesday, but she was on probation still so they want to give her 3 years for breaking probation (by getting arrested.) I doubt they will give it to her.

As far as christmas goes, there is none. Why? My mom isnt here. Whats neel going to do? Nothing.

An old friend of mine called up asking if i was okay and everything and offered for me to come over for christmas with him his mom and his brother, because they had boughten presents for me and stuff.

Well, i ask neel and what does he say? "Unless im going your not going anywhere."

...

So what does that mean? I get to stay home on Christmas bored off my ass, watching tv while everybody else around the country (except the people that dont have homes and cant afford it) open their presents and have a fun filled day.

Why? Just because neel is a ****ing stubborn bastard.

Whats the moral of this story? I hate him and i wish he would ****ing die.

...end.

(BTW, they cant bring the presents over either because neel has a restraining order against them. That piece of ****.)
 
Oh, and on TOP of that, if my mom gets 3 years, i have no family or friends that i could go live with.

Isnt my life great? :)
 
Ouch, what a dick.Your friends show compassion and he shuts them down. Really sorry about the whole situation, and here's to hoping that it all works out for the best.
 
Whoa. That really sucks man. I'm sorry to hear that.

I would invite you to stay here but I dont think my mom would like that. Not to mention we live kinda far away from each other. ;)
 
I'm sorry gt2. My friends mother is somewhat like that. All she does is drink though. I don't like seeing my friends mom drink.I'm so virgin to stuff like that.

Anyway, I hope everything works out for you man, I really do.
 
I'm very sorry to hear that gt2_gs. I hope things go well for you.

I would sneak over to your friends house. What can that guy do if he's in a wheel chair? I say, call the cops on him and get out of the house if he really does do bad stuff to you. I know it sounds harsh, but you need to stay in control.
 
the best part about that is, if he does do anything to you, you get to beat the **** out of him and get off free!
 
Yeah, but what happens if he finds out i went over there?

He'll probably call the cops on him because of the restraining order and he'll get arrested. That, i dont need.
 
I agree with the counsler suggestion or if you belong to a Church or live near one usually the people or pastor are willing to help.(or at least listen and give you advice and direction)
15 is way too young to be going through all that crap. Actually any age is.
If your friend and hs family are offering a place to spend Christmas then I would try and get there. At least talk to the parents and ask for their help in sorting things out. They sound like they care about you and what you are going through. Don't give up trying. When your Mom get's out reach out to her. You are probably her only solid anchor. I wish you the best. I hope Christmas will bring new beginnigs for you.
 
Wow, I'm so sorry, man!

There are things you can do, places you can call, that can help you out. The children/family services department in your state can probably arrange for you to get out of that house and environment, if you're willing to take the risk of foster care, but they also might be able to get you to live with some distant relative, or even that really nice friend whom you have.

You need to get out or fix the problem before you become mentally messed up. These kinds of things can leave you manic depressive, paranoid, neurotic, and give you all kinds of other serious issues. I wouldn't wait around 3 year until you're an adult. I'd get out now, and get out for good.
 
I agree with TAFJonathan. He has better advice than I do. But, you do need to get out of that house.
 
if he's a cripple, drug him or something, or tie him up. seriously, what's he going to do?

also, you should have tried to calm your mom down. nothing like that EVER happens at my house. my speakers are in the living room, 300$ they were, if anyone starts tearing up the house they'll have to answer to me. it isn't pretty when i get pissed off.

i don't know how strong you are, but i think you could have tried to prevent it a little.

good luck.
 
Originally posted by TAFJonathan
Wow, I'm so sorry, man!

There are things you can do, places you can call, that can help you out. The children/family services department in your state can probably arrange for you to get out of that house and environment, if you're willing to take the risk of foster care, but they also might be able to get you to live with some distant relative, or even that really nice friend whom you have.

You need to get out or fix the problem before you become mentally messed up. These kinds of things can leave you manic depressive, paranoid, neurotic, and give you all kinds of other serious issues. I wouldn't wait around 3 year until you're an adult. I'd get out now, and get out for good.

I agree 100% gt2_gs try what Jonathan said, it will get you out of that house if you try.

Also I have nothing against these kinds of threads but, and I mean absolutely no offense to anyone when I say this but, this is not a real-life forum, its a forum based on a video game that evolved into a pretty much anything forum but posting threads like these are too emtional and some members(I am not speaking for anyone its just a general statement) do not want to see these kinds of threads. I have all the sympathy in the world for you right now Cory but sharing your life to everyone on here is good yes, but also bad, some people will make you feel worse and hurt your feelings more than they are already hurt (ahem...chevette). If I upset anyone by saying this I'm sorry I was just telling my thoughts on these kinds of threads that is all.
 
hey, i'm not going to sit around and cry like a little *****. from the sound of things... SOMEBODY dropped the ball. it sure as hell wasn't me.
 
I see where you are coming from with that, Zero. But on the other hand, often a place such as this is great for just letting it all out.
 
I wouldn't go as far as to say there's anything he could've or should've done about it, especially if his mom was high and/or drunk.

Things'll probably be rough for a little while, but it'll all work out. Keep your head up :)
 
Originally posted by gt2_gs
Oh, and on TOP of that, if my mom gets 3 years, i have no family or friends that i could go live with.

Isnt my life great? :)

Holly **** man im sorry that realy sucks, I hope your mom doesnt get 3 years and she comes home. Wow that realy bites.
 
You know...at the end of the school year last year...i got suspended for leaving and smoking marijuana and coming back (stupid ass **** I know) and I ran away thinking they wont give a rats ass where I was...but then later that day my friend gets a call on his cell while were getting ready to leave to goto a party...and who is it? Its my dad...Told me to come home...I said no, not until I'm ready...so he said you be home on sunday...this was friday...I came home sunday and found out my punishment (for skipping school to go smoke) would have been better if I had not run away.

Moral:
Neil seems like the kind of dick that would want you around just because his life sucks and he wants you to suffer...so running away wouldn't be a good idea in your situation. I thought it would help but it didn't, I wouldn't suggest it to anyone. You would have to go back eventually...and Neil would probally be really pissed...so like Jonathan said try calling one of those places or talking to the school...a friend of mine had an abusive father (she had moved away so I could not help in anyway but telling her what I thought she should do), and I told her to tell a teacher or a counseler...her father got put in jail and now she's safe...no more trips downt the stairs...maybe you should truy that...
 
Yeah.. Well what would i do if he went to jail? I wouldnt have anywhere to go, and theyd probably put me in a foster home.
 
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