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Spoke to some friends on Sunday and they said they were going to a party on Saturday. I know the girl quite well, but I haven't been invited.

Should I ring her up and ask if I can come?

Do I suppose that she doesn't like me anymore?

o I get a friend to ask if I am coming to her an see if she decides to invite me?

Do I just not try and not go?
 
I dont know how well you knew the people having the party to begin with, but from my point of view you have two choices:

a) If this person having the party was considered a serious friend, then sit down with them and ask what the score is. If they say "I did invite you, dont you remember" or some such line then perhaps they arent the friends you thought they were.

b) Accept that they werent the friends you thought they were and treat them as such.
 
Ouch. Definitely no.
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Agreed. Better to sit this one out. There will be lots of parties, it's not worth calling up and inviting yourself. That's definitely against etiquette, even in high school.

You should throw your own party. Invite others and then (assuming it goes well) they'll invite you to theirs.... or go to a good friend's party tha they've been invited to and enjoy yourself, they'll probably remember if you were at a party they were at. If you were fun, they'll invite you next time.

Another important thing. Don't act all upset or even mention that you didn't go to the other party. If it comes up say that you weren't there, but don't say anything like... "I wasn't invited because somebody didn't invite me." Best not to mention, ever, that you weren't invited.

It would also be better to crash the party than to call up and invite yourself, but I would suggest not going and not caring.
 
is it like a party with a ton of people or just a small one with invites only? maybe she just assumes you are goin to go, but i dont know you or her so i dont know what to say
 
This reminds me of the episode of Gilligan's Island when Gilligan didn't get invited to the Howell's party.

He tells everybody that he didn't get invited, and they decide to have their own party, and they didn't invite the Howells. You and your friends should do the same.

As it turns out, Mr. Howell dropped Gilligan's invitation when he got hit in the head with a coconut. So, before starting your own party plans, ask her if she got hit in the head with a coconut recently.

I knew watching all those Gilligan's Island reruns would come in handy someday. :)
 
Right so I don't ring her, but what about talking to my friend and asking to ask who is invited, because then I know how many people are invited, if it's just a few she knows really well or what.
 
I'd say you have 2 options. You could either a) just show up at the party anyway. They might've just forgotten to invite you, but even if they didn't...**** em if they don't like it. or b) skip the party. I definitely wouldn't call them up and ask if you're invited. I'd rather skip the party and keep my dignity. :)


-Mark
 
It's funny that this came up because about a year ago I had the same problem. I've kind of accepted the fact that I'm probably not "cool" enough to be invited to something, so I don't worry about it too much.

But advice for you: Don't call her, you WILL sound like a wiener, and definatley won't be invited anymoere. I'd suggest trying to invite her over and trying to talk about it one on one. Or you don't even have to do that; try to do something on most weekends so that she knows your number/house # and so she is comfortable calling you. Hope that helps.
 

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