Please be thinking about my family and I.....

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That is horrible news, jubula. :( I will be praying for you and your family.
 
Many emotions come out when you lose someone so close. I've never had to go through losing a brother so I can only offer my sympathies. You and your family will be in my prayers.

In times like this don't think of what he might have done if he was here, rather you do what he would have done. It's the best way I can think of to honor his memory.

Time will heal all wounds, but live with the good things he did.

AO
 
This makes me very sad, :( as I too have a brother that I am very close to. I couldn't imagine how I would feel if his life was ended short.

I am sorry, and my prayers are with you!

May next year bring nothing but happiness for you and your family!
 
I saw this thread when it had no responses yet. I wanted to respond but for the life of me I could not think of a thing to say. I was just sort of stunned and thought no words could really express my sorrow and compassion. There seems to be a library of appropriate responses to such things, none of which I adhere to. I don't pray so I can't pray for you, him, or your family. I don't believe in heaven so I can't say "he's gone to a better place." But I still feel your pain and know that somehow, even this tragedy, will take it's necessary place in your life's history, and someday you will look back and see that this, too, must not be missing.
 
Some news about the arangements. The viewing is on Thursday and the funeral is on Friday. I hope I don't have to get up and say anything. I suck at that.:(
 
Well, I just got back from the funeral about 3 hours ago. As they closed the coffin, I thought to myself how I would never see his face again. I almost cried, but I did my best to hold it in. I also thought how cool he made me feel when I was with him. How cool he made me feel when we were cruisin on the freeway with the windows down and his system loud and thumpin. I just thought I'd let ya'll know how it went so, there it is.
 
Jubula, I was offline so I missed the original post. You and your family have my deepest sympathy. As Gil said, post here or PM us; that's what a community is for. Anything I can do to help is yours.

I too flipped a car while falling asleep at the wheel, but luckily I was not injured. It's one thing you don't do twice.

I also know the pain of losing a close family member, though mine was not as sudden. I will tell you that missing him will not fade, though the pain will, eventually. Honor his memory, do something he always wanted to do but never did, and carry on. He won't disappear from you memory, or from your family.

Best of luck to you and remember we're here to help... not matter how long it takes.
 
Jubula, sorry to hear that dude.:( Your brother may not be here physically, but his spirit will be watching over you and your family.:)
 
Please forgive me if this post is not up to my usual standard. It's 02:50 here, and I've just ushered the last guest from my house party out.

I saw this thread and wanted to say something, but like milefile said, sometimes the right words are hard to find.

I found it interesting the way you said you held the tears back. I hope you were being strong for someone because there's no shame in crying for yourself, especially at a time like this.

All I can say is this: I am very sorry for your loss, and I sympathise wholeheartedly. I can offer only one piece of advice:

Take heart in your brother's death. Learn from his mistake and promise yourself that you will not make it, for you take more than your own life in your hands whenever you drive. Love your brother - it may seem like a silly thing to say right now, but remember him. Remember all the fights you had, not with pain, but with nostalgia. Glorify your memory of him. Cherish it. Do not worry when you cannot remember the lines in his face - remember only the kindness, the ice-cream he shared, the blame he took for your mistake, whatever. Think in a positive way - remember not the things he could have done had he lived longer, but the things that he did do, the contributions he made, the people who smiled because of him. Think about him in a good way.

Like I say, cherish his memory, rather than regretting all the things you and he didn't do.

My condolences are yours.

G
 
My condolences. As someone who is also 22, this helps me to remember my own mortality.
 
Originally posted by GilesGuthrie
Please forgive me if this post is not up to my usual standard. It's 02:50 here, and I've just ushered the last guest from my house party out.

I saw this thread and wanted to say something, but like milefile said, sometimes the right words are hard to find.

I found it interesting the way you said you held the tears back. I hope you were being strong for someone because there's no shame in crying for yourself, especially at a time like this.

All I can say is this: I am very sorry for your loss, and I sympathise wholeheartedly. I can offer only one piece of advice:

Take heart in your brother's death. Learn from his mistake and promise yourself that you will not make it, for you take more than your own life in your hands whenever you drive. Love your brother - it may seem like a silly thing to say right now, but remember him. Remember all the fights you had, not with pain, but with nostalgia. Glorify your memory of him. Cherish it. Do not worry when you cannot remember the lines in his face - remember only the kindness, the ice-cream he shared, the blame he took for your mistake, whatever. Think in a positive way - remember not the things he could have done had he lived longer, but the things that he did do, the contributions he made, the people who smiled because of him. Think about him in a good way.

Like I say, cherish his memory, rather than regretting all the things you and he didn't do.

My condolences are yours.

G
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This may seem a little stupid, but I went to the mall with my friends tonight and when me and William used to go to the mall, he would always go to "The Cajun Big Easy" and get some Bourbon Chicken with rice.(Very good:p) But that is what I got tonight in rembrance of him, if that's what you want to call it.
 
It's a good start.

One day at a time. Take the time you need to mourn, and to heal.
 

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