Please help! Need advice!

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After being at GTPlanet for quite a while, I've realized that a lot of the people here are very intelligent and have extremely good advice.
My girlfriend and I have been going out for a little over 4 months. She used to always be with me whenever possible. Keep in mind that her and I are both 15 and freshmen. Anyways, all of the sudden she started hanging out with other guys a lot more. Not just one guy, but like 6 or 7. She flirts a lot with them as well, but that's also a part of her personality. I asked her why she stopped being with me as much and she said that she felt as if she was being annoying. She thought that I always was doing homewrok and that she was always barging in on me. Maybe this is true, or maybe it's just an excuse, but I loved when she was always there. She says she still loves me and she acts like it when we're together, but then she's always with a bunch of other guys, flirting like crazy.
Am I just paranoid?
Please help, should I greet this by caring a lot and getting sad or to asct as if it doesn't bother me. GIrls have always wanted what they can't have, right?
I don't know...please help me!
 
Best advice! Don't have a girl friend, there a waste of time and money. Wait til your serious about getting married.

My last girlfriend was like that and I told her to take a hike.
 
There all fixed, just a luaghable mistake :lol:
 
Well, at 15 both of your attentions mat wander from time to time. Tell her honestly that you are happy with her company as much as you can have it, and that she's not barging in. Then prepare yourself to have her still want to hang out with other guys - BUT - realizing that you can hang out with other girls, too.

The best thing you can do is let her know you like her as a girlfriend, while preparing yourself by knowing she may be less interested at the moment.
 
Relax, man. If you;re both 15-year-old freshmen then I can see what you mean. Your hormones are all out of whack, you're young, confused. Honestly, all I can say is that in general relationships formed in the freshman year are never kept for more than 4 years. Advice of mine? Try telling her that you don't mind her coming to see you so often. spend more time with her, Go out more, maybe she has been flirting the whole time and you just didn't know about it; my advice to you is to let it be. If the relationship is to work out, it will work out. Tell her how you feel about her flirting with other guys (be really careful so as she doesn't think that you're controlling her in any way), tell her that it bothers you. If she oppologizes and says "I can't help it sometimes" or something like that, believe her. Honesty, as 15-year-olds, you have no clue what's going on in your or anyone else's mind, so if she says she can't help herself, forgive her (constantly; even if it hurts) and move on. That is the best advice I can give right now, I hope everything works out for the best...
 
She's into other guys as much as she is into you. 'Tis the way of things, young padwan. She is making excuses to avoid hurting your feelings even though it is an inevitablity (and it's not even because she cares about your feelings, it's because she doesn't want to be inconvenienced by seeing you cry or get angry). If you have to base your faith in her "love" for you on what she says and how she responds to your questioning, there clearly is none there to begin with. Move on. You will most likely have innumerable girlfriends before (or if) you ever settle down with one for good. Don't dawdle. Dump her now.
 
Don't dawdle. Dump her now.
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I dissagree. Yes, your relationship is probably doomed. I've been there and the exact same thing has happened to me. My advice is that you should have fun while you two are together. Expect to break up but use that expectation to relax about the relationship and have fun.

Do not in anyway expect this to last forever. If you two are together in college then you can start changing that expectation. Besides, high school isn't the place to find "the one".

My guess is that if you relax about the relationship and treat her like she's your excuse for having a good time at the moment, she'll come back to you (but don't let that change your expectations).

Lots of girls at that age really respect guys who aren't interested in them. What am I saying? Lots of girls at all ages respect guys who aren't interested in them.
 
have your fun and don't get attatched. let her know whats up.
take some time off maybe, just go places with friends, find girls, stick your tongue in their mouth (and then some if you are lucky) and then be on your way, it's what i did for a year and three months untill i met one that i decidet to call, and then keep.:D
 
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