I guess the problem I am having is the lack of feedback. Compared to actual racing, the game has no feedback that I am used to. I guess I do not have a good way to reference my entry speed (the game looks very slow to me, I really want to brake much later than I do), I really miss having peripheral vision, that is how I judge speed. Difficult to judge the amount of braking without feeling it, difficult to judge the affect on tires without being able to feel how much grip I have. Definitely have never judged tire wear/grip by the sound they make. Some of it may also being to abrupt with the joystick while turning. Tends to be more of a sawing motion than smoothly moving the stick.
I have been working on being smooth, but the lack of feedback will take a while. The game gives me about 20% of the feedback I am used to. In the offline game I adjust the car to even out tire wear.
A little background, 8 years motocross, then 2 years of kart, then 18 years of road racing motorcycles (raced up to the AMA Pro level). Decided to retire in 2008 while laying in a hospital in Birmingham AL (we were at Barber). I also worked for 5 years as a road racing school instructor.
I have many things to unlearn. It will just take time and patience.