What to do about a girl

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Originally posted by Mike Rotch
b) what would be the best way to introduce myself?
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Take some advice from the master [me:O].

*make eye contact at your break/or whatever

*say something like "i have been seeing you around, whats your name?"

* get to know her for approx. 1 week, stirring occasionally. ask her if she wants to go "get some lunch" sometime, and take it from there.
 
Ok first, get a dog. Then make sure she has a dog. Go to the park on a nice warm day and let the dogs get tangled up. Then fall in a fountain or something. You'll both laugh and be happy... I swear I've seen it a million times in the movies...
 
Originally posted by Mopar Muscle
Take some advice from the master [me:O].

*make eye contact at your break/or whatever

*say something like "i have been seeing you around, whats your name?"

* get to know her for approx. 1 week, stirring occasionally. ask her if she wants to go "get some lunch" sometime, and take it from there.
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Lunch is a good one. Nice and non-threatening. Has a predefined start and end.
 
Originally posted by bmwx
Ok first, get a dog. Then make sure she has a dog. Go to the park on a nice warm day and let the dogs get tangled up. Then fall in a fountain or something. You'll both laugh and be happy... I swear I've seen it a million times in the movies...
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That could work...:odd:
 
Originally posted by sn00pie
Look, Tazio, it doesn't matter what the hell you talk about. If a girl isn't going to like you -- she's not going to like you no matter what the **** you say to her.

And vice versa.
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Truth.👍

I always thought about it. Put it like this. Suppose the girl is 100%. If you already have 50% of her, you have a big advantage. That doesnt mean the other 50% is not as important as the first one. In fact, the other 25% is what you can do to get your odds higher, and the remaining 25% are her parents.

I mean, that doesnt mean, that if you have 0% attention of that girl, you could do nothing about it, but the battle is going to be even harder.
 
Originally posted by Tercel_driver
Truth.👍

I always thought about it. Put it like this. Suppose the girl is 100%. If you already have 50% of her, you have a big advantage. That doesnt mean the other 50% is not as important as the first one. In fact, the other 25% is what you can do to get your odds higher, and the remaining 25% are her parents.

I mean, that doesnt mean, that if you have 0% attention of that girl, you could do nothing about it, but the battle is going to be even harder.
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What?? :confused:
 
Another option, after you get her name, is to ask her for drinks/coffee after work.
(Presumably you get off work at a reasonable time.) Drinks/Coffee gives you about half-an-hour to "chat her up" and decide whether there may be some "spark". If there is, you can say something along the lines of "I'm really enjoying your company. Would you like to join me for dinner?"
If you and she don't feel any "spark" drinks/coffee give you both a chance to bail without losing face.

He who risks not, profits not.
Good luck.
 
Damn. Gil & Mopar Muscle sound like they know what they're doing. You might wanna listen to them.

Originally posted by Gil
Drinks/Coffee gives you about half-an-hour to "chat her up" and decide whether there may be some "spark". If there is, you can say something along the lines of "I'm really enjoying your company. Would you like to join me for dinner?"
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Awesome idea! Start out slow with lunch. If that works, work your way up to the next step with dinner or something like that. If that goes well, work your way up to the next step again with whatever you find appropiate. Step by step.

Originally posted by Mopar Muscle
* get to know her for approx. 1 week, stirring occasionally.
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Huh? Stirring what occasionally? Sounds like your making a martini or something. :D Just kidding. It's all good advice. I just didn't understand this part.
 
Ok ok ok... I got it this time for sure... first off, you have to be walking down the hall at the same time as her. Get one of your work buddies to walk down the hall in front of you and run into her, knocking her papers everywhere (they really have to scatter). Then you, being the nice guy that you are, help her pick them all up...

OR

Have some guy steal her purse, then chase him down and tackle him.

I wonder why I have problems with women...
 
Wouldn't that be cool, if after he stole her purse, she kicked the living hell out of him. Then I would be completely into this girl. I'm into that type, which is why I have problems with women.:lol:
 
Thanks Gil and Mopar :cheers:

UPDATE: I finally got her name and department :D

Every time we crossed paths, we waved and smiled and i was tearing my hear out at not getting to know her. But i bided my time, and this morning a second after i hopped on the escalator she climbed on. Luckily i looked down, and we smiled again. At the top i decided enough was enough so i asked her if she had 2 minutes to chat, she said she did and voila.

we chatted for a few minutes about where and in which dept we work and then not wanting to creep her out, let the conversation end naturally.

NEXT STEP: This is the big question. Do i email her? Send her flowers and put the ball in her court? My female friend say i must do nothing and wait till the next time we chat to see if there are any signs. I wanted to pull my hair out, i mean that could only be in weeks time :(

The floor is yours
 
Waiting is bad. Waiting is a good way to find out she has a new boyfriend. Ask her out to a low profile get together that doesn't really say date. Lunch is good, coffee is even less date. She'll know what you're getting at. She's already made up her mind about whether or not she'd go out with you so you've got nothing to lose finding out what that decision is. The worst thing to do would be to sit on it for weeks before asking her out.

Don't let more than a week and a half go by before you jump on it. Otherwise you look insecure and women don't like insecure.
 
Originally posted by danoff
Waiting is bad. Waiting is a good way to find out she has a new boyfriend. Ask her out to a low profile get together that doesn't really say date. Lunch is good, coffee is even less date. She'll know what you're getting at. She's already made up her mind about whether or not she'd go out with you so you've got nothing to lose finding out what that decision is. The worst thing to do would be to sit on it for weeks before asking her out.

Don't let more than a week and a half go by before you jump on it. Otherwise you look insecure and women don't like insecure.
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I gotta agree with dan. Go for something with no pressure that doesn't really feel like a date. Learn a little more about her over lunch or something, then decide to pursue it or not.
 
Originally posted by bmwx
I gotta agree with dan. Go for something with no pressure that doesn't really feel like a date. Learn a little more about her over lunch or something, then decide to pursue it or not.
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Hmmm. im gonna ask for coffee at work when a) i finally get to chat to her again or b) when i can find her on the email contact list here. then, the wheels will finally start turning :pray:
 
way to go mike!
since you have her name and dpt, try to get into a conversation where you go:
hey i was gonna grab a bite to eat (weather its for lunch, dinner, break, whatever).
make some small talk, then you go : so do you have a boyfriend/girlfriend(you never know)/ are you married.
take it from there, she will know you are interested in something more than a friendship with her.
 
As i am a girl myself, i would like to say a few things.. if this girl is pretty, i bet she has heard that a million times.. And met a million guys like you that wants to take her out.. so if you wants to have a chance, you should show her that you are special in some way.. Dont ask her out before you have talked to her, and got to know her a bit. Becauce then she'll know that you are interested in her not only because of the way she looks(and if you are only interested in her because of the way she looks, then drop it..). just intoduce yourself sometime and then see what happends.
 
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Apologies to those i owe PM's and posts to, but frustratingly I can browse but not post. I have been trying for two days, and this is the only thread i can post to :grouchy:
 
UPDATE:

Well, the waving and hello's continued, but the opportunity to "chat" just didnt present itself. So not wanting the chance to become "stale" I crafted a light, humorous and airy email asking "that if she was at a loose end sometime during the week" perhaps she would like to join me in a coffee. Well, I saw she read the mail via outlooks read receipt, but that is where the matter ended. Shot down via silence. That was a week ago, so I basically considered the matter finito

Then yesterday she waved again - when she clearly could have just as well ignored me. So now I am :confused: , and not really knowing what the status quo is.



PS Beleth - no i wasnt asking her out just because "she is pretty", altho that obviously has a part to play
 
You're making me laugh.

Why don't you invite her over to your place, or take her somewhere or whatever the **** ever? You know, it's what people do.

By ignoring her you're making yourself look like a fool towards her. She's going to think you're some wuss.
 
Originally posted by sn00pie
You're making me laugh.

Why don't you invite her over to your place, or take her somewhere or whatever the **** ever? You know, it's what people do.

By ignoring her you're making yourself look like a fool towards her. She's going to think you're some wuss.
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Correction. She ignored my mail. In the period from mail sent to yesterday, I hadnt seen her due to meetings etc. So I hadnt been ignoring anyone actually.
 

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