What to do about a girl

[boombexus]

Maybe she's ignoring you because she saw your "happy face!"

Mike, I still stand my my original statement of just going up to her and ask. Be straight forward with her. If it works it works, if it doesn't it doesn't and then you will have wasted much less time.

It's like TV commercial that has a limited time offer, you must act fast cus someone else is going to.

 

[Mike Rotch]

Originally posted by boombexus
Maybe she's ignoring you because she saw your "happy face!"

Mike, I still stand my my original statement of just going up to her and ask. Be straight forward with her. If it works it works, if it doesn't it doesn't and then you will have wasted much less time.

It's like TV commercial that has a limited time offer, you must act fast cus someone else is going to.

I agree with you 100%. The stumbling block is that the opportunities to speak to her are as rare as hens teeth. I will just have to "chase" her discreetly up the escalator next time i see her.

 

[Mike Rotch]

Update:

Took bull by the horns and spoke to her - I sorta stopped her before going down an escalator, she had a meeting to go to, apologised for her rudeness, came back from her meeting 10 mins later, saw me sitting in the coffee area and came over to chat.

Yip, she got the aforementioned email and apologised for not replying but said she was under a mountain of pressure to meet deadlines. To emphasis the point she said she has to go to some of the satellite offices in our city next week to do some sort of evalualtion. We then chatted about parking at work and other stuff till she had to excuse herself for another appointment.

Well, at least i know now she wasnt ignoring me due to me being a creep or pest or some such thing. Time will tell now whether she does get back to me when all this dies down

 

[boombexus]

Right on Mike!

But why didn't you ask her out when you had the chance?

You need to go right this second and ask her out. Right now! Why are you still reading this?

She will still have your conversation fresh in her mind. HURRY!!!!

You don't want this to "die down" do ya?

 

[Mike Rotch]

Originally posted by boombexus
Right on Mike!

But why didn't you ask her out when you had the chance?

You need to go right this second and ask her out. Right now! Why are you still reading this?

She will still have your conversation fresh in her mind. HURRY!!!!

You don't want this to "die down" do ya?

just call me Mr.

I see where you are coming from, but I dont want to seem like I'm obsessed with going out with her - even if that is true (well not obsessed; you know what i mean).

She must obviously know i'm interested from the email and the way i stopped her and then hung around like a lost goat waiting for some scraps.

I think a) she is genuinely busy or b) she wants to see how determined i am to see it through.

I think that although - yes I would very much like to go out with her - it may be time for patience. She knows my intentions, so if she allows herself to be nabbed by another guy (read Jerk), well then she wasnt really interested. If she gets back to me after her travels, well then S*C*O*R*E.

Hey Boom, thanks for the kick up the jack, i needed it to get things moving

 

[GilesGuthrie]

The fact that she acknowledged the e-mail but didn't answer it could mean that she's not interested. However, it could also mean that she is interested, but she's too shy to do anything about it.

I would stick to the personal-contact approach. I've always felt that sending people e-mails is a bit stalker-ish.

"Lost goat"

I'm not sure that you can really justify this bit though:

I think that although - yes I would very much like to go out with her - it may be time for patience. She knows my intentions, so if she allows herself to be nabbed by another guy (read Jerk), well then she wasnt really interested. If she gets back to me after her travels, well then S*C*O*R*E/

Definitely, if she initiates some contact with you when she's back in the office, then you're in with a good shout. But I don't think you have any claim on her, so the "allows herself to be nabbed" part is maybe a bit unjustified.

Keep calm matey.

 

[Mike Rotch]

Originally posted by GilesGuthrie
But I don't think you have any claim on her, so the "allows herself to be nabbed" part is maybe a bit unjustified.

Keep calm matey. [/B]

Yip, that came out wrong. By saying she "allows herself" to get nabbed sounds like I own her or something which is quite pompous and 9th century ADish.

What i meant was that if she decides to go out with another guy in the interim, it means she wasnt interested to start with.

 

[Danoff]

What i meant was that if she decides to go out with another guy in the interim, it means she wasnt interested to start with.

Nope.

She's not going to wait around for some guy she barely knows. It doesn't mean she's not interested in you, it means she's not interested in you enough to sit by the phone waiting for your call. I wouldn't take that personally. It's tough to get a girl so interested in you that she refused to date anyone else. If she was that interested in you, you'd probably have already been dating for a while.

Think about it this way. If you were approached by some other chick at work who was really hot and she asked you on a date. You'd probably still be interested in this girl, but now you'd have another girl to date too. Put yourself if her shoes. You know you would totally go out on a date with another girl and could still be interested in this one.

 

[Danoff]

Oh, and if she does start dating someone else, you shouldn't let that stop you from asking her out. She might be willing to date you both for a while and you could win out. If she turns you down then you're still not out, but you have to get her to ditch the borefriend. That's a little more difficult to do and you might just want to wait it out - which of course can result in the one-that-got-away syndrome.

So try to be pro-active before she gets taken off the market by some loser that doesn't deserve her

 

[GilesGuthrie]

Originally posted by danoff
Think about it this way. If you were approached by some other chick at work who was really hot and she asked you on a date. You'd probably still be interested in this girl, but now you'd have another girl to date too. Put yourself if her shoes. You know you would totally go out on a date with another girl and could still be interested in this one.

Heh heh, that happened to me at University. As soon as the girl I was interested in saw I was interested in someone else, she became interested in me too, so I dated them both for a couple of days, before dropping the "else" girl.

I don't necessarily recommend this as a strategy!

 

[Mike Rotch]

Originally posted by danoff
Nope.

She's not going to wait around for some guy she barely knows. It doesn't mean she's not interested in you, it means she's not interested in you enough to sit by the phone waiting for your call. I wouldn't take that personally. It's tough to get a girl so interested in you that she refused to date anyone else. If she was that interested in you, you'd probably have already been dating for a while.

Think about it this way. If you were approached by some other chick at work who was really hot and she asked you on a date. You'd probably still be interested in this girl, but now you'd have another girl to date too. Put yourself if her shoes. You know you would totally go out on a date with another girl and could still be interested in this one.

Hmmm. That makes sense. I give weight to what you are saying, but in the interaction i have had with her to date (or maybe it is just me imagining it or lacking the confidence to be a "playa ), but she seems (by her behaviour) to prefer things not to be rushed. If that is because she just wants to be pals i dunno, but i think that - although what you say is true about another guy stepping in - i would prefer to not jump in with both feet YET. I will wait until her work quietens down, and then speak to her again regarding getting together for coffee or lunch.

You can stop screaming now.