Why are people so cruel?

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Really, I'd like to know.

Everywhere I go, I'm picked on. I don't do anything to them. I try to be nice, but they're just evil.

And some of them are your "friends" I do all kinds of nice things with them, and half the time they are asses.

The only, and I mean only place I know of where all the people are non judgemental and just kind is my UU Church....

Is it because I'm white? (Only white kid in my entire neighborhood, which is approximatley 4 blocks.)

Is it because I'm smart? ( Not exactly popular either, I'm not a smart ass either.)

Is it because I'm a pacifist? ( I'm sorta weak also.)

I have maybe 5 true friends outside of my church. 4 of them either live in Amityville, or moved away. One lives down the street and is a really nice person to know.
 
It might not be a matter of people being cruel, more along the lines that people are selfish and don't care about others. The more I grow up the more I realize that too most people I am insignificant.

Now if you are being picked on by other people, there are several solutions to it. The 'eye for an eye' thing will only work them up. You could just ignore them, due to the fact that some people need to dump on others to make themselves feel better about themselves. Those are the worst offenders, but easily dismissed. If it is a 'acquaintance', and it is in humor to pick on each other, then at that point it is fine to pick back on them. My friends and I do that all the time. It is not a matter of making fun of each other just to be arses, but a way of joking to each other to laugh about.

Don't let it get to you and eventually they will stop picking on you...

Worse case start hitting the gym and get big while taking some martial arts, and if they do it still just quietly and as nicely you can say, "I will break you." and walk away very silently. . .
 
Cause kids are all bitches. They love to see other people's pain.

Go make friends with some quiet girls... or quiet little people. That's most of the people I'm really friends with, and my girlfriend is (or at least I think so, she disagrees) a pretty quiet person...
 
+rep to miata13b, sensible advice there.

Don't rise to it Matt, alot of the time and from past experience people that do that are wanting to get a reaction.

btw, whats UU?
 
Miata, the friends are really more like enemies really....


Also I really don't think thats funny Omnis and Duck. -rep. 👎
 
Don't let the bullys get to you dude, just don't pay them any mind, and they'll get off your case. Just be yourself, don't be one of those people who try to change theirselves to appeal to others.
 
Silverzone
Don't let the bullys get to you dude, just don't pay them any mind, and they'll get off your case. Just be yourself, don't be one of those people who try to change theirselves to appeal to others.
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This definitely does not work.
 
Just remember everyone is out to get you, everyone has an ulterior motive. Everyone does something for their own personal gain.
Everyone is your enemy.
Trust no one.
Everyone WILL screw you over if they gain something from it.
Your best friend is you, because you're the only one you can trust.


...Maybe my outlook on life is a bit harsh.


Most bullies I've come across, hate people they're jealous of, or have traits that they hate about themselves.

Myself included. And Since I've noticed, I'm working on fixing that.


But not my outlook.
 
Matthew Keller
Miata, the friends are really more like enemies really...
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So do they just pretend to be friends?, or they just couldn't care-less about you? or are do they simply not like you at all? and if they obviously don't like you to what extent do they dislike you? it could help us give more accurate advise.
 
Matt, you sound to have little self-confidence.

Unless I am much mistaken, you are not the problem, they are.
 
Matthew Keller
Also I really don't think thats funny Omnis and Duck. -rep. 👎
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Maybe the reason nobody likes you is because you're lacking a sense of humor. Seriously, dude, lighten up. I can't believe you actually let such bestial morons get you down. You need to celebrate who you are and what you believe in, and if your only friends right now are at your church, so be it.

If you're an intelligent white pacifist, you have, quite frankly, nothing to be worried about. If someone is giving you a problem in school (where I'm guessing you are), make friends with the administration. (catch my drift?) Just survive until you can leave and immerse yourself in an environment of people who aren't mushroom caps.
 
Omnis
Maybe the reason nobody likes you is because you're lacking a sense of humor. Seriously, dude, lighten up. I can't believe you actually let such bestial morons get you down. You need to celebrate who you are and what you believe in, and if your only friends right now are at your church, so be it.

If you're an intelligent white pacifist, you have, quite frankly, nothing to be worried about. If someone is giving you a problem in school (where I'm guessing you are), make friends with the administration. (catch my drift?) Just survive until you can leave and immerse yourself in an environment of people who aren't mushroom caps.
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I'm sorry Omnis, I was feeling kinda touchy before, all better now though.

Also I do not lack a sense of humour. I forget that you aren't that big of a troll. :p

Oh well, I do realize that so many of them won't have a future outside of highschool janitorial work. They all have the combined intelligence of a cheese sandwich. :D
 
Get yourself a "crowd".

I'm not saying you have to suddenly become a socialite, but join a club, a sports club, preferably even a team sports club, though not always necessary.

If you can form friendships with people and earn trust off them then they will stand by you. You may not be particularly fit but there are plenty of sports you can take up where fitness can be worked on as you get better.

It's worked for me in life, and while I'm only part of a small team at present (5 a side footy) most my mates, and all my closest, have come from playing team sports.

That's my two pence.
 
Sakiale
Go make friends with some quiet girls...
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Yeah man, make friends with them. ;)

*hint hint*

*wink wink*


No but seriously, start meeting people that do something that can make them stand out, like skateboarding or playing the guitar really well or something like that. It's in those groups that you make friends for life.
 
ExigeExcel
Get yourself a "crowd".

I'm not saying you have to suddenly become a socialite, but join a club, a sports club, preferably even a team sports club, though not always necessary.

If you can form friendships with people and earn trust off them then they will stand by you. You may not be particularly fit but there are plenty of sports you can take up where fitness can be worked on as you get better.

It's worked for me in life, and while I'm only part of a small team at present (5 a side footy) most my mates, and all my closest, have come from playing team sports.

That's my two pence.
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I'm actually part of the Golf Club. (Feel free to poke fun not a big deal)

Also, I have my little group, and they so happen to be at my chuch! :D

Theres 5 of us, and we generally go around bieng asses. Like any other 13 year old. We are really close. :)
 
Matthew Keller
I'm actually part of the Golf Club. (Feel free to poke fun not a big deal)

Also, I have my little group, and they so happen to be at my chuch! :D

Theres 5 of us, and we generally go around bieng asses. Like any other 13 year old. We are really close. :)
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Golf isn't too bad to be honest. I'm not sure what it's like in your area, but quite a few people take to golf as they get older (late teens).

Ah okay, I wasn't quite sure how much you socialized them outside of Church.
 
ExigeExcel
We all know what quiet girls are good for....








Fashion advice.
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No they're not.

Also those skateboarder punks usually are more the bullying guys then friends...

I don't know. I'm not the best at making friends, but most of the people I really call friends are ....


Damn I suck at giving advice..

My friends...

Ah, forget it. I'm sure there's some point I'm trying to get across, but if even I don't get it, how can I get it across?


Since when is IKEA and SAAB an abbreviation?




And Matt you sound pretty normal to me...


Danoff
Because you're dealing with kids, and kids are jerks. Adults are quite a bit more civil (overall). Though still far from perfect.
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My point exactly, but in a more civil, adulterated (?) way...
 
Danoff
Because you're dealing with kids, and kids are jerks. Adults are quite a bit more civil (overall). Though still far from perfect.
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Actually, now they can hide their hatred and any incivility by staying quiet or insulting you through complicated words and the hope that you, the one who is new to English, can't understand.
 
Yeah, kind of like I insult people in Chinese...

Also. Even though kids are expletives, they're not realllly cruel. Real cruelty is like what happened at Virginia Tech. But that could have been caused by expletive kids screwing with the shooter until he got pissed off. I've thought of going on a killing spree before too.... I mean, I've sure as hell got enough dangerous things around to kill a few people... but I wouldn't because ... well, it's stupid....

Gah, I'm depressed, have ADHD, and miss New York. Damn it.

Pay no attention to me.
 
Sakiale
Since when is IKEA and SAAB an abbreviation?
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IKEA is an acronym of the initials of the founder's name, Ingvar Kamprad, and his home village, Elmtaryd, Agunnaryd.
Saab is an acronym for "Svenska Aeroplan Aktiebolaget".
 
Sakiale
Yeah, kind of like I insult people in Chinese...
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Insulting people in a foreign language usually just infuriates them further. There's a definite art to confusing an angry or violent person without just increasing their anger. I don't posess it, but I know someone who does.

Also. Even though kids are expletives, they're not realllly cruel. Real cruelty is like what happened at Virginia Tech. But that could have been caused by expletive kids screwing with the shooter until he got pissed off. I've thought of going on a killing spree before too.... I mean, I've sure as hell got enough dangerous things around to kill a few people... but I wouldn't because ... well, it's stupid....
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You don't have to kill to be cruel. Ask someone who's been bullied and who've been pused to seriousley consider suicide, they're probably the ones who have it worse, atleast IMO.

Pay no attention to me.
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When you think of typing that, just hold down the BackSpace button.
 
ExigeExcel
You don't have to kill to be cruel. Ask someone who's been bullied and who've been pused to seriousley consider suicide, they're probably the ones who have it worse, atleast IMO.
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Well doesn't that sound familiar...
 
ExigeExcel
Insulting people in a foreign language usually just infuriates them further. There's a definite art to confusing an angry or violent person without just increasing their anger. I don't posess it, but I know someone who does.
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Hehehehe... :trouble:
I do, even unintentionally.

ExigeExcel
You don't have to kill to be cruel. Ask someone who's been bullied and who've been pused to seriousley consider suicide, they're probably the ones who have it worse, atleast IMO.
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Yep. I've experience that. Except the only problem is I don't have the balls to. But I will seriously get my money and my bike and go back to New York.
ExigeExcel
When you think of typing that, just hold down the BackSpace button.
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No.
 

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