Why are people so cruel?

[ExigeEvan]

Well doesn't that sound familiar...

Does it?

I only say because there was a spate of bully-incuded suicides in my area (none connected to my school or anyone I knew) about a year back.

 

[MistaX]

Does it?

I was bullied throughout my entire grade school experience, and yes, I've been driven to such lengths.




I've been "emotionally disturbed" to this day.


But this thread isn't about my problems.

 

[OZZYGT]

Adults are quite a bit more civil (overall). Though still far from perfect.

Um, quite right there my friend. Also, when you become an adult, (I know you won't remember this but) and you see that somebody is giving you a real hard time at work, school or somewhere else, is because they WANT to see you down. They don't want you to be more successful than them. Essentially when you're at work and you ask for help, and that person doesn't want to help you, or at least pretends they can't, is because they are scared, scared brother. scared of you becoming better than them. So what are most people wanting to do? to eat you before you eat them. The law of the jungle.

In life, sometimes you'll have somebody who backs you up, sometimes you'll be all alone. And when you start seeing yourself going downhill, with nobody to rely on, then you start realizing life won't be always pretty, and YOU are gonna have to be one more "cruel" person in this world for your survival.

I was bullied throughout my entire grade school experience, and yes, I've been driven to such lengths.




I've been "emotionally disturbed" to this day.


But this thread isn't about my problems.

John I'm here to tell you that you suck and I wished you killed yourself. So ha! WHAT ARE YOU GONNA DO?! WHAT ARE YOU GONNA DO??! HUH?

 

[MistaX]

John I'm here to tell you that you suck and I wished you killed yourself. So ha! WHAT ARE YOU GONNA DO?! WHAT ARE YOU GONNA DO??! HUH?

Punch you in the face next time you come here because it's not cool to joke about that?

 

[miata13B]

Miata, the friends are really more like enemies really....


Also I really don't think thats funny Omnis and Duck. -rep. 👎

I hate to say it but sometimes it is good also to keep your enemies closer then your friends. . . It sounds so cliche, but in essence you can turn the tide around. When they act or say things cruel to you, do you back down? or do you give it right back to them? Are these rich snobby kids or are they regular joe types?

There are many things you can do to turn this around, but understand humans are predators and they prey on the "weak". I am not saying you are weak, but what I am saying is that the less "weak" you come off as the better you can deal with these people...

there was a point when I felt spineless towards others and just sat there and let them do whatever. It turns out they were not friends. I only have 1, possibly 2 friends in my life now and I hold them in high regards. I know I can count on them for anything. The rest of the people I just look at and laugh over the fact that they just try to make themselves "cooler" by preying on the "weak". It really is a feat to watch, if you can just imagine them trying to compensate for their lack of a c*ck. It works quite well.

Just remember everyone is out to get you, everyone has an ulterior motive. Everyone does something for their own personal gain.
Everyone is your enemy.
Trust no one.
Everyone WILL screw you over if they gain something from it.
Your best friend is you, because you're the only one you can trust.


...Maybe my outlook on life is a bit harsh.


Most bullies I've come across, hate people they're jealous of, or have traits that they hate about themselves.

Myself included. And Since I've noticed, I'm working on fixing that.


But not my outlook.

I could not said it better. . .

 

[Omnis]

We all know what quiet girls are good for....








Fashion advice.

No, you go to the obnoxiously loud gay boys for that.




You know, if you want to look like an obnoxiously loud gay boy.

John I'm here to tell you that you suck and I wished you killed yourself. So ha! WHAT ARE YOU GONNA DO?! WHAT ARE YOU GONNA DO??! HUH?

I bet you'd have done the same had Milan been in Juventus's situation. WE CHEAT LIKE TRU G's.

 

[OZZYGT]

I bet you'd have done the same had Milan been in Juventus's situation. WE CHEAT LIKE TRU G's.

Hahaha, that's why we're on the Champions League and you're not!

 

[Omnis]

Hahaha, that's why we're on the Champions League and you're not!

Token image macro ftw.



I have one for Matthew, too:

 

[SS69]

The best advice I can give is buck up champ. You can try to ignore them but I really dont think it will help. Just stand up to them. Show them you arent afraid. I dont mean haul out and try to kick their asses, just stand up for yourself. Maybe they're bigger than you, but I'm willing to bet (based on previous experience) that if you just stand up to them, they'll start to back off.

The reason they're treating you like this is because they know you wont stand up to them.

You'd be surprised how many people will back off if you just confront them. If you get in the habit of letting people walk all over you now, it will drag you down the rest of your life.

 

[Tulok]

you now , this has helped me, im 6 ft, 140 lbs, and people pick on me a bit, its cause i have overactive flinch syndrome, OAFS. this little guy, woodrow is a jerk, he totally pusshes EVERYONE ALIVE around, but hes so short, i cant do anyhing back...

 

[a6m5]

Good news is that most kids will grow up. I think you'll be fine by the time you are out of school.

 

[miata13B]

You know, if you want to look like an obnoxiously loud gay boy.

But aren't they the ones hanging out with your girlfriend? ? ?

The reason they're treating you like this is because they know you wont stand up to them.

You'd be surprised how many people will back off if you just confront them. If you get in the habit of letting people walk all over you now, it will drag you down the rest of your life.

This is true, most of the time bullies per say, will back off.

 

[DuckRacer]

Token image macro ftw.

Clownboy is not amused you reuse the same photos.

 

[zoxxy]

IKEA is an acronym of the initials of the founder's name, Ingvar Kamprad, and his home village, Elmtaryd, Agunnaryd.
Saab is an acronym for "Svenska Aeroplan Aktiebolaget".

👍

 

[Turbo Lag]

I think the best way is to find a little group. In 2005, i was picked on a bit by some people about a year older, mostly cause of my bike. They have cut my bike chain, broken the brakes, popped the tires and thrown my bike away and scrached it too. I wasnt too popular and i wasnt in that 'cool' group either. But later i found that this 'bully' was doing this ONLY because he has had trouble in his family; his mum died, and father dissappeared. It is not you, it is them.

Now-a-days, i see still see them at high school but they dont pick on me, because (Not to brag or anything) I have made heaps of new friends, who are a a fair bit older (13, Over 13 etc) and know quite alot of people in our grade (About 80 out of 160).

This week at school, we have adult education, stuff about alcahol, drugs, puberty AND bullies. If you show no signs of getting annoyed MAYBE they could just go pick on someone else. I went through this door: Making matters worse. My dad went around telling the principle HEAPS of times, heck even i did. It happened everyday to me, making school simply hell. But later I kinda realized, they only took it to that extent because they were gonna leave school in about 2 months, so no-one could 'follow up' on what really happened. Nothing really concluded, no-one said anything and they left so it all ended after that. Maybe you shouldnt go around telling too many peers but its always a good idea to tell your best mate.

I also am a bit of a Church nut; i go every week (at least once a week) and i dont play too much sport. Im kinda black and white; i sometimes even look green in some photos . But sometimes people call me stuff like 'Chocolate' and it really get's on my nerves.

I think all you need to do is get some trust worthy friends, it helped for me and now its all over

 

[Touring Mars]

Some good advice here, but I have to disagree with what MistaX is saying. Having a completely selfish attitude and a pre-conceived notion that people are out to get you is a sure-fire way to close yourself off from the very resource you need to escape this predicament - new people. With a wholly selfish and deeply suspicious view of other people before you even meet them, you will almost certainly be projecting a falsely negative image of yourself that others will pick up on.

I'm not saying John is entirely wrong, however - a healthy level of skepticism and an awareness that some people (but by no means all) are not particularly interested in building constructive and mutually beneficial relationships with you... but to say that all people are that selfish is totally untrue - atleast it is not my experience. In my life I have moved around a fair bit and have had to 'start from scratch' on the friends front many times. In my earlier days at Uni, I felt a bit like you are feeling now - when I realised that the people around me didn't really know or care much about me. But feeling sorry for yourself and closing yourself down is entirely the wrong thing to do in this case. Indeed you need to do the opposite. You need to keep yourself open to meeting new people and have the courage to drop those acquaintances who are not offering you a constructive friendship.

John is certainly right in one respect, you are your own 'best friend' to start with - if you are waiting on your surroundings to change around you, then you will have a long wait. I'm not saying you need to change yourself to "fit in" to your surroundings either, though. You just need to change what you considering to be your sphere of influence - if that means trying new things, meeting new people, then so be it. Ultimately, however, the emphasis is on you to make the changes you want to make.

 

[socomplayer2]

Dude, just ignore them. They will be the people that work for you one day.
I know its easy for me to say because i have been blessed that whenever i go to a new school i can get into the "cool" crowd but i know from being with them the stuff they say the forget like 2 seconds later. You shouldt take them seriously just make them look like dumbos in class with your smarts.

 

[Sakiale]

This is true, most of the time bullies per say, will back off.

ehh, doesn't work for me.

 

[Barracuda]

oops, wrong topic, sorry man

 

[Blake]

Matt, do you have bad posture?

 

[Sakiale]

Eh. I know a guy who when he was a teenager, went around in Harlem, then when he moved to NJ, to the area of NJ where it was really bad, and, being a black belt, helped people getting mugged. Now, he's a TV actor and also a undercover detective type thing. He recently shut down a guy for stealing dogs to sell them to laboratories. And he said once, the worst thing he ever saw, was two guys, because they were bored, torture their host's (they were guests) dog while he was shopping. They called him the n-word (wtf? ), shot it with a bb gun, tied it to a tree and punched it, and lit dunked it in gasoline and lit it on fire, before killing it by ripping apart its jaw. And they both got off with no jail time... even though the judge was black and pretty pissed about them calling it the n-word (they were white teenagers). Its amazing what people can do these days... what they're capable of.