You've grown up with "participation trophies", haven't you? It shows.
Do you cook? Have you ever ruined $20 worth of steaks (2) on a grill because you didn't clean the grease trap, even though you took so much time in prepping the meat in order to cook to perfection? Or over cooked some eggs because you got caught up in Facebook or YouTube videos? Have you ever had the postal service put a check of yours in your neighbor's mailbox, whom only checks her mail once a week?
He doesn't like to lose. He doesn't like it when he screws up. He doesn't like it when other people do things that affect the outcome against him. Some drivers are simply satisfied driving a car for a "start and park" team. They realize THAT is all they can accomplish. At least they are in a NASCAR Sprint Cup car.
Harvick didn't spank him, it was a close battle. Kyle gave every effort that he could. The team did not prep the car for the night time conditions. Which, evidently, Harvick's team did. Instead of dragging his team through the mud, he bit his tongue.
Some people can decompress from failure a lot faster than others. Some people are less passionate than others. Some people have very high expectations for themselves. While another driver is just happy to be banging the only chick in NASCAR. Wait a minute, Crashica drives for an opposing team AND and opposing manufacturer. Ricky Bobby is "sleeping with the enemy"!!!!
Without high expectations set by surpassing goals with proven talent, you will not achieve much, ICEY.