Falling in love...

[bondy_1625]

okay, just noticed this thread popped up here again, i agree with some things but not others, so heres what i think.

about the whole 'should i?' : yes definately, although a lot of people are saying get it over with and dont waste time you also have to respect the fact that moving in too fast can also be a problem.
The time you take to get to know someone you hope to, for lack of a better word, 'hook up' with will vary between different people.
Although it may come down to 'best friends', if you continue to keep her interested she may become so infatuated with you that she'll just do exactly what you set out to in the first place.
Though the girl asking out the guy doesnt happen all too often, thats not to say it wont, in fact the last 3 partners ive had asked me out.

Recently i came out of a long distance relationship with a girl i thought really loved me, but considering the circumstances on which we seperated i certainly dont think thats the case anymore.

A couple of weeks of being single and something i wasnt expecting happened, a girl at work, who ive known as a good work mate for over 2 years admitted she's fancied me for at least a year, but couldnt do anything because i was in a relationship. To be quite honest ive fancied her for some time also but i thought since id known her so long that she would only want to be friends, how wrong i was.

anyway, bottom line is, dont hang around to long, be fun, dont look too desperate and use spontinaity (sp?) to your advantage, doing things on the spur of the moment can keep it lively and interesting.

 

[OZZYGT]

Definitely cultural differences can make a difference. Whihc is why I suggested whatever is common for Australia.

My wife enjoyed meeting my friends, but sitting around talking video games, sports, movies, or going out to bars was not a ton of excitement for her. She prefers to cuddle up with me and torture me with some romantic comedy, preferrably involving Mathew McConaghey. When my friends want to do stuff she tells me to go have fun.

Whatever is more the norm for your cultural region, and the girl.
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Well playing/talking video games is definitely not on the menu, but I recall that she is 17. I am now dating a 22 year old girl, we actually enjoy going out to new places, like upstate NY or discover some natural places (we get tired of NYC ), but she also enjoys ice skating, going to the beach, and once in a while hitting the ol' good restaurants, we both like to eat good food.

Anyway, I guess you're right, not only it depends on culture, but also on age.
We both lived in Italy, and we find almost no difference of what people usually do here from what we used to do over there.

Lewyman pay attention to the statement below..

Don't delay. I give you until the end of next week before you are in the friend zone and then it is too late.

Ciao!

 

[LewyMan]

Thanks heaps everyone for the advice.

Sorry for not putting in all of the details, but this friend of mine that we're goin with, Jarryn, these two have know eachother for ages, they're in the same drama group. I'm 100% sure she doesn't like him, and vice-versa, because prior to the formal, she had a boyfriend, Jarryn described him as a jealous boyfriend, and he (bf) was quite reluctant to let her go to the formal with me. But he eventually gave in, and during the formal, he was sending her suicidal text messages, and she got really upset, so her and Jarryn went outside (due to the fact that they know eachother) and called her dad. She eventually came back in and was fine (or so we thought). The day after, Jarryn told me what had happened, and I said to him, "if I was her I would have dumped him" and he said yeah, that was the last straw, as it were.

I'm actually going to see her in Gatton today, she will be with a few of her "gal pals" as she puts it

Anyway, thank you guys heaps for the advice, although I still am a little nervous.

Also, regarding the whole boring/fun bit, I'm considering taking her to a theme park, just me and her, because in a conversation, she mentioned that she went to Dreamworld, and loved it.

 

[OZZYGT]

Also, regarding the whole boring/fun bit, I'm considering taking her to a theme park, just me and her, because in a conversation, she mentioned that she went to Dreamworld, and loved it.

Totally go for that.





Ciao!

 

[LewyMan]

Hell yeah 👍 👍

Also, she said that she enjoyed the thrill rides, which is so cool.
I will go on all of them, except the giant drop. I outright refuse to go on that.

Anyway, she also said she likes drumming as well,

I was like, you just got sooo much cooler

So thats a few similar interests....

 

[FoolKiller]

Also, regarding the whole boring/fun bit, I'm considering taking her to a theme park, just me and her, because in a conversation, she mentioned that she went to Dreamworld, and loved it.

You just did a big, important thing that will win you big points. You listened to her.

Also, I just looked up Dreamworld. Sounds like fun. Amusement parks make great fun dates, as long as they like them. My wife hates rides.

Also, she said that she enjoyed the thrill rides, which is so cool.
I will go on all of them, except the giant drop. I outright refuse to go on that.

Oh, come on. That sounds like a blast. It's the tallest in the world. It is almost worth the plane ticket for me to try it.

But as you can see from this thread I do that kind of thing.

 

[LewyMan]

You just did a big, important thing that will win you big points. You listened to her.

Yeah, I'm one of those nice kinda guys, who lets the female do what she wants, won't boss her around etc.

Oh, come on. That sounds like a blast. It's the tallest in the world. It is almost worth the plane ticket for me to try it.

But as you can see from this thread I do that kind of thing.

One word.... Heights

 

[DLRgian]

I am 20 dating a rather young girl lol. I have been with her for a month and a half now. Her name is Megan and man is she beautiful.

 

[FoolKiller]

Yeah, I'm one of those nice kinda guys, who lets the female do what she wants, won't boss her around etc.

Good. But be sure you get what you want too. My wife lets me have my video game and out drinking with the guys time. If you let yourself get pushed around too much then you become unhappy and the perfect girl suddenly seems like a terror.

You have to have balance, but on your part listening is a big key. Listen and make mental notes and you may find that getting the perfect gift or the best surprise is easy.

One word.... Heights

Well, if you have an uncontrollable fear then that's one thing. You don't want to push yourself into a panic attack or something. But if you just get nervous about it then go for it and you'll thank me later. I've dropped 150 feet with nothing but a cable holding me in the air (Skycoaster) and it was probably the most freeing feeling in the world.

 

[Dave A]

When Charlottes having a moan about something I just listen, I don't give much input, just listen and sympathise usually without a clue what she's actually moaning about. Then I borrow a tenner for a drink at the pub.

 

[FoolKiller]

When Charlottes having a moan about something I just listen, I don't give much input, just listen and sympathise usually without a clue what she's actually moaning about. Then I borrow a tenner for a drink at the pub.

I've found that if I just sit and nod long enough usually one of her friends will call, because she tried to call them long before she talked to me, and then I have a few hours of video game and beer time before my attention is required again.

Although, I do try to pay attention to what her problem is. I've found that 90% of the time her problems have a very simple solution but she over reacts too much to think straight and so once I manage to be able to get a word in I lay out the solution to her. A call to all her friends and a few hours laters she tells me whether my idea has approval or not and then goes on. Most of the time, when she doesn't use my idea, she comes back with the problem still there and then I tell her to do what I said and it solves her problem.

She is just now learning that I don't get tied up in my emotions and will actually stop listening to her to figure out a solution. She and her friends will cry together and almost never find a good solution. She used to think I was cold and uncaring until she realized that I don't react so I can think.

Solve their problems and they love you forever.

 

[LewyMan]

Good. But be sure you get what you want too. My wife lets me have my video game and out drinking with the guys time. If you let yourself get pushed around too much then you become unhappy and the perfect girl suddenly seems like a terror.

You have to have balance, but on your part listening is a big key. Listen and make mental notes and you may find that getting the perfect gift or the best surprise is easy.

Yeah, true. But at the formal, I can bet you that I was the only guy there that pushed in her chair, poured her drinks and all that. I'm willing to bet no other guys did that. But that's just my normal chivalrous self
I'm just hoping she took notice of that...

Well, if you have an uncontrollable fear then that's one thing. You don't want to push yourself into a panic attack or something. But if you just get nervous about it then go for it and you'll thank me later. I've dropped 150 feet with nothing but a cable holding me in the air (Skycoaster) and it was probably the most freeing feeling in the world.

At Dreamworld, I have pushed myself to go on the other four of the "Big 5 Thrill Rides" and they were so much fun! But I will not go on the Giant Drop. Never.

 

[LewyMan]

Well, as freakin usual, I still have had no luck in love....

 

[kikie]

Well, as freakin usual, I still have had no luck in love....

Join the club!!!!

 

[Takumi Fujiwara]

Join the club!!!!

Yep, same here.

 

[Dave A]

Well, as freakin usual, I still have had no luck in love....

besides just being a gentleman, do you ever actually ask gilrs to go out with you? Because in my experience, it's pretty damn rare that they'll ever ask you out. You could always try clubs, you meet women all the time in clubs, it might take meeting a few women before yiou find one that you would normally be interested in but there' plenty of fish in the river, you just need to know when and where to throw your hook.

 

[Omnis]

No way. The place to meet chicks is in the library.

 

[kikie]

No way. The place to meet chicks is in the library.

How do you do that? Using sign language maybe???? You're not allowed to talk in a library.

 

[Dave A]

I don't think he was being serious 💡.

 

[Omnis]

How do you do that? Using sign language maybe???? You're not allowed to talk in a library.

I don't know what kind of Nazi library you visit, but you're allowed to talk silently (oh snap, oxymoroff). The whispering and soft, mellow vocalization helps to reel them in. It's intimate, especially when you're in the section for Effects of nephrosis on pancreatic functions.

 

[Omnis]

I don't think he was being serious 💡.

But, in all seriousness, I have met some interesting people in libraries. You might catch some hotties if you're able to get into a big university library.

 

[OZZYGT]

But, in all seriousness, I have met some interesting people in libraries. You might catch some hotties if you're able to get into a big university library.

Ahhhhhhhh nothing like meeting a sweet hot smokin' looking hottie at the library huh? ...

Ciao!

 

[kikie]

I don't know what kind of Nazi library you visit, but you're allowed to talk silently (oh snap, oxymoroff). The whispering and soft, mellow vocalization helps to reel them in. It's intimate, especially when you're in the section for Effects of nephrosis on pancreatic functions.

It was just a joke.

 

[standard235]

*snip*

Solve their problems and they love you forever.

Hell, it even works at 14!

 

[GT4_Rule]

I don't know what kind of Nazi library you visit, but you're allowed to talk silently (oh snap, oxymoroff). The whispering and soft, mellow vocalization helps to reel them in. It's intimate, especially when you're in the section for Effects of nephrosis on pancreatic functions.

 

[Omnis]

Ahhhhhhhh nothing like meeting a sweet hot smokin' looking hottie at the library huh? ...

Ciao!

Okay, if you want to play that game:








Smart Babe-a-thon. I can personally vouch for instances of hot single studying chicks in barnes and nobles and borders and libraries all over this place. I'd rather take my chances meeting hotties at libraries than to go meet some slut in a club and catch VD.

 

[Dave A]

I can't see any of your pictures, but anyway, you do get smart hot chicks that go to the library, but quite often they're the same hot chicks that also go clubbing. Your just more likely to cop off with one in the club than the library.

At least that's how it is here, with the Manchester university and everything, it's all students, the same students in the clubs as the librarys and the pubs.

 

[LewyMan]

besides just being a gentleman, do you ever actually ask gilrs to go out with you? Because in my experience, it's pretty damn rare that they'll ever ask you out. You could always try clubs, you meet women all the time in clubs, it might take meeting a few women before yiou find one that you would normally be interested in but there' plenty of fish in the river, you just need to know when and where to throw your hook.

I'm 17, not old enough to do clubs