Pre Patch or Post I have yet to find a track where I'm not beating the pants off of Sophy by the time we make our first pit stop. I only do endurance races and it doesn't matter how I set it up I have to take a bone stock GT3 and SLOW IT DOWN to make a race competitive with the AI.
Some things you're likely doing that causes this.
First up, leave the fuel and tires at 1X or 2X (I know there will be crying). Here's the deal, the tire usage is set by the tire and forces upon it, not by the car or the track. The fuel usage is set by the car. When people start multiplying it, it throws everything out of whack. You can use the multiplier, but it takes tweaking to get it just right for the track and car combination. Just leave it at 1X or 2X. Adjust your endurance races to suit that. The higher the multiple, the more out of whack the settings become.
Second, you say that you are tuning down, and that's a give away that you've set the race incorrectly. The Audi, Lambo, Merc Evo, and GT3R are all beasts when Sophy has them at 100%. The Lambo is better with a 400/600 downforce setting compared to its standard settings. Put those cars at the front of the field and drive something else. Set the boost to weak (yes, I know they will boost back to you after a pit stop). If the race is set up properly, there won't be a gap to worry about. Lastly set the slipstream to real or strong. Setting it to off is the worst choice. Strong is best IMHO because it gets the Sophys racing each other more.
You know how some people advise on using a "rabbit"? Well, the Audi, Lambo, and Merc Evo will gladly run off into the distance when they are stock.
Set the damage to full and the set the collision and short cut penalties to strong. You are looking for a challenge after all.
Now, I have found that every GR3 cars needs to be tuned UP to at least 720pp. Add the medium power option and the power adjuster (DO NOT USE THE CPU). Adjust the power down until the adjuster hits 70% or 720pp, which ever comes first.
I've used this procedure with Sophy and Reggie. I did 1 hour at Yas Marina with the Alfa Romeo and finished 5th (Regular AI) and I finished 8th at Spa after 1 hour (Sophy).
If you are "beating the pants" off Sophy after this, you're an alien. Post the results.