Love is in Danger

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Today is not a good day for me....even just now i had this whole thing typed out and i hit backspace when it misteriously highlighted the whole page.

..........im gonna keep it short. or try to.

Mal(my girl) calls me today, everything is normal, untill she reveals that she is not sure if she wants to be with me much longer...
Now usually she says little things like this, but it always turns out OK because she realises she was just stressed at the time r whatever. but this time she sounded serious.
She told me that she couldnt think of a single reason for us seperating, she even went on to say she wouldnt know who to call all the time and who to think about all day.
But she said things were becoming "routine".
anyways....the kind of person i am, i freak out even on the littlest of things....and right now, im a complete wreck. I keep breaking down every now and then, and i cant stop thinking about her.
I cant imagine not being with her.

She said that things are ok now...but not sure for the future. and this time...she didnt come back and say everything was ok....she means it this time. its going downhill for me...from here on.
she told me to pray that God would give her something....some reason to love me again....a sign, and im praying in my mind even as i type this.

Just the other week i was in heaven....now i feel like i have nothing left. i know somethings wrong with me, because i clearly can tell im freaking out too much over her, but she said nothing was wrong with me...

only fate can decide what happens now.
if she leaves me...i fear what might happen to me. i get completely wrecked just thinking about how much i love her, and how devastated id be if she left me, so i dont want to imagine what ill be like if it DOES happen.

has anyone out there been through this? does anyone know what im going through. im freaking out and the only thing preventing me from breaking down is typing this out, because as soon as i stop reality will kick in. i dont know what to do....
 
If you love her so much start showing her and get out of the damn "routine" or pass her off to me for a night!
 
Search for everything tercel_driver has posted about girls on this board. Then do the exact opposite. She'll be eating out of your hand in no time.
 
Originally posted by neon_duke
Search for everything tercel_driver has posted about girls on this board. Then do the exact opposite. She'll be eating out of your hand in no time.
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Nice :lol:

With your situation. Hmmmmm....... Show her how much you Like/Love her. Just like hanker said. Be spontaneous. Do something that you or her would never expect. Make her feel loved.

Good luck 👍
 
Originally posted by F.Zamataki
But she said things were becoming "routine".
anyways....the kind of person i am, i freak out even on the littlest of things....and right now, im a complete wreck. I keep breaking down every now and then, and i cant stop thinking about her.
I cant imagine not being with her.

Just the other week i was in heaven....now i feel like i have nothing left. i know somethings wrong with me, because i clearly can tell im freaking out too much over her, but she said nothing was wrong with me...

only fate can decide what happens now.
if she leaves me...i fear what might happen to me. i get completely wrecked just thinking about how much i love her, and how devastated id be if she left me, so i dont want to imagine what ill be like if it DOES happen.

has anyone out there been through this?
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Although I've never been through what you are going through, I know what a stress it can be. My roommate lost his g/f that meant everything to him, and his life just went downhill from there. He spent 2 grand on plane tickets trying to patch things up, and got really depressed. From the time of his breakup, things just went downhill. Two attempted suicides. As of last week, he dropped out of school and is back at home living with his parents.

I dont know if it makes you feel any better to know that other go though similar situations as you. I dont really have much advice to offer, but I would say that it is important to know when something is over (I dont think that point has come for you yet) and move on with your life. There are other people out there. Try not to strees over it, and go on with other things in your life. Hang out with other friends, etc. It can be hard, but just remeber that it probably is not easy for her either.
 
My girlfriend and I seperated a little while back. Then I realized I made a bonehead mistake and I wanted her back. I told her this, and she felt the same way, but just wasn't sure. I instigated the break up saying I wanted to see what else was out there. I learned there was nothing better than her, and nothing came close. But she was already dating someone else. We still saw each other and went out. I acted like every day was the last time we would be together. I tried to do everything for her.

It ended up working. We're back together and I'm totally happy again.
 
sorry for the double post but i just saw this...
Originally posted by neon_duke
Search for everything tercel_driver has posted about girls on this board. Then do the exact opposite. She'll be eating out of your hand in no time.
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hahahahahahaa:lol:
 
Originally posted by neon_duke
Search for everything tercel_driver has posted about girls on this board. Then do the exact opposite. She'll be eating out of your hand in no time.
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Oww! Ouch! So hard. So funny. :lol: And probably true.

FZ, what's up with "drick mjölk"?
 
Originally posted by F.Zamataki
Today is not a good day for me....even just now i had this whole thing typed out and i hit backspace when it misteriously highlighted the whole page.

..........im gonna keep it short. or try to.

Mal(my girl) calls me today, everything is normal, untill she reveals that she is not sure if she wants to be with me much longer...
Now usually she says little things like this, but it always turns out OK because she realises she was just stressed at the time r whatever. but this time she sounded serious.
She told me that she couldnt think of a single reason for us seperating, she even went on to say she wouldnt know who to call all the time and who to think about all day.
But she said things were becoming "routine".
anyways....the kind of person i am, i freak out even on the littlest of things....and right now, im a complete wreck. I keep breaking down every now and then, and i cant stop thinking about her.
I cant imagine not being with her.

She said that things are ok now...but not sure for the future. and this time...she didnt come back and say everything was ok....she means it this time. its going downhill for me...from here on.
she told me to pray that God would give her something....some reason to love me again....a sign, and im praying in my mind even as i type this.

Just the other week i was in heaven....now i feel like i have nothing left. i know somethings wrong with me, because i clearly can tell im freaking out too much over her, but she said nothing was wrong with me...

only fate can decide what happens now.
if she leaves me...i fear what might happen to me. i get completely wrecked just thinking about how much i love her, and how devastated id be if she left me, so i dont want to imagine what ill be like if it DOES happen.

has anyone out there been through this? does anyone know what im going through. im freaking out and the only thing preventing me from breaking down is typing this out, because as soon as i stop reality will kick in. i dont know what to do....
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I know what you have to do.
 
Originally posted by sn00pie
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Join the Foreign Legion.

either that or pull yourself together..she sounds like a bit of a ..

no female is worth doing anything silly over, count yourself lucky, thats what i say..this could be your chance to do all those things you couldnt do when she was around....travel, party and meet girls...yeah soon you'll be married so get you self on a trip round the world or something...
 
If there is one thing i've learned from my current relationship is that sometimes things have to go really bad before they get better.

I think the key here is not to freak out. Just talk to her in a reasonable manner. Listen to what she has to say. This may sound very Dr Phil but perhaps deep down she just needs you to know that you can't take her for granted.

I've found that sometimes when it seems like you've lost someone you realise how much they mean to you. If that is the case then she may come back to you.

It's hard to keep things fresh. Maybe try something a bit different from normal but nothing too drastic, because that could freak her out and make things worse.

Good luck dude:)
 
You heard him:
Originally posted by neon_duke
Search for everything tercel_driver has posted about girls on this board. Then do the exact opposite. She'll be eating out of your hand in no time.
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do the opposite:
Originally posted by TurboSmoke
don't Join the Foreign Legion.

either that or don't pull yourself together..she sounds like a bit of a ..

no female is worth doing anything silly over, count yourself lucky, thats what i say..this could be your chance to do all those things you couldnt do when she was around....so don't travel, party and meet girls...yeah soon you'll be married so don't get you self on a trip round the world or something...
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haha, oops, quoted the wrong person :p - this is what happens when you have accounting100 - i only had 2 hours of sleep because of that course :banghead:. Either way, do the opposite of what he said
 
yes, pull yourself together man and dont be so weak...if i were with you i would give you a slap and take you out to the sleaziest bars in town, give you a good talking to, get you rat-arsed drunk and set you up with a few hookers...

you'll see things slightly different in the morning...
 
^ what he said - don't dwell on it too long. Get over it and move the hell on. The more you think about her, the more it'll hurt.
 
Originally posted by neon_duke
Search for everything tercel_driver has posted about girls on this board. Then do the exact opposite. She'll be eating out of your hand in no time.
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That means do the exact opposite of what you guys said.
 
Don't forget seeing her with some other guy when you're out and least expect it. Ouch. You think you're hurtin' now? Just wait.

Of course you can't imagine life without her. Have you tried? I'd start now because it sounds like she's been yanking your chain for a while.

Yea, yea I know... she's not like that, bla la la. Take some initiative and dump her now. Issue an ultimatum. Tell her to **** or get off the pot and get back to you when she's made a decision. Until then, enjoy life. Some day you will look back on the former girlfriends that made you cry and feel silly about it all, wondering what all the fuss was about. It's really nothing too unique or too bleak. Just one of the crappier parts of life.
 
I was taught that if I have nothing nice to say, not to say anything. So, with that in mind.
















Still, it beats having to post any more pictures of her that aren't available on the internet, eh?

By the way, are you really one of Rumple Foreskin's many alter-egoes?
 
Originally posted by milefile
Of course you can't imagine life without her. Have you tried?
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That was a low blow there Mile. . . That really hits home hard. . . Trust me it is no walk in the park, ever blow up things with cherry bombs or home made stuff? That is how your emotions go. . . It sucks man. . . Imagining is one thing, living is another!
 
Originally posted by miata13B
T. . . Trust me it is no walk in the park, ever blow up things with cherry bombs or home made stuff? That is how your emotions go. . .
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:) or ever build a "rocket" out of PVC pipe that eneded up being more of a pipe bomb...oh yeah good times.....
 
Originally posted by skip0110
:) or ever build a "rocket" out of PVC pipe that eneded up being more of a pipe bomb...oh yeah good times.....
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Trying to make a potato gun and then getting arrested for a pipe bomb. . . that has gotta suck :lol:
 

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How is that a low blow? I don't see it. This girl is obviously jacking him around. If he's not looking to a future without her he really should be for his own good. And the pain of ending a relationship is very common. It happens all the time to everybody at one time or another. It gets me how people thing they are special because they are hurting. Big deal. All I have to say to things like this is "you'll get over it". And you will. Nothing else helps anyway.
 
dude, just be up front with her. I mean, it has got to be pretty bad that she says she's leaving you and then comes back. Seems that she's just doing it to get more attention from you. As milefile said - tell her to either end it already or stop d!cking around. If you dig yourself into a rut over a break up, your performance at school and hell, everything you do will suffer.
 
Originally posted by milefile
How is that a low blow? I don't see it. This girl is obviously jacking him around. If he's not looking to a future without her he really should be for his own good. And the pain of ending a relationship is very common. It happens all the time to everybody at one time or another. It gets me how people thing they are special because they are hurting. Big deal. All I have to say to things like this is "you'll get over it". And you will. Nothing else helps anyway.
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I actually should have stated that was a smack in the face over a low-blow. . . Should have thought that post through a little better. I'll catch it next time.

The girl is jacking him around. The ending relationship is something everyone goes through, some are worse then others. The imagining part always hits hard because you don't know how it is going to be. Actually dealing without having that person is a whole other story because there is no more figment of imagination in it.

I represent that, I am special and I am hurting :lol:. Where is my short school bus though??? Getting over it is a matter of time. . . Some time is longer then others. I always had a problem with putting time on everything so I had this notion of getting over my first love as 1.5 times the amount of time spent with her. Which is not a smart thing to do.
 
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