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Kind of is...
I'm sick of all this bragging on GTP from people who are happily married and have great children. Egomaniacs all!! I bet the next thing you're going to say is your 7 year old son is faster than everyone here!!
I'm sick of all this bragging on GTP from people who are happily married and have great children. Egomaniacs all!! I bet the next thing you're going to say is your 7 year old son is faster than everyone here!!
I'm sick of all this bragging on GTP from people who are happily married and have great children. Egomaniacs all!! I bet the next thing you're going to say is your 7 year old son is faster than everyone here!!
I take no credit for Emily Post... but I do highly recommend what she had written. Though many customs she wrote about might be outdated, many traditions antiquated and unnecessary or no longer applicable... she had a keen understanding about why customs, traditions, and etiquette is important... (for those exercising etiquette as much as those on the receiving end)... and had a very good way of succinctly explaining those reasons - which persist even if the goal posts have moved a bit or are, as poss mentioned, differ by culture/region.
You only do yourself a disservice if your manners don't recommend your opinions.
I would advise always holding public judgement when holding it costs nothing in results, as it's one sure way to always be on the high road, and always look better and be more respected than those committing faux pas or even egregious unsociable behaviour.
And, correct or incorrect (because unless someone tells you, you won't know), whenever I see someone being belligerent on a regular basis I always (privately) default to the belief that they're drunk.
I don't think that's an excuse... or at least not a legitimate one. But it is sometimes an explanation. And if you approach the situation with that mindset... that the cantankerous or trouble-making person, may in fact be drunk - maybe even regularly - you can quickly realize and act accordingly - that arguing with them or trying to control what they're going to say, is likely not a good use of your time & energy.
As for the "bad day".
Lots of people I have interacted with on the forum, and race with online racing over the past few years... could be quite trying from time to time, for one reason or another.
Usually if I approach them privately, and calmly, I find out that it's a case of a "bad day" - or maybe they didn't even realize they were being odd or off-putting, and are quick to want to correct and make up for whatever they said or did that came across poorly.
Maybe there's more to the story, in other words 💡 if it's not a regular thing.
Myself, I have some whole bad months, and occasionally can get snippy or terse, or lose my temper occasionally, or just not feel like responding at all.
And I hope that my pals & acquaintances don't judge me or treat me ill, solely based on what I said/did (or didn't say/do) one day in a moment when that pesky Real Life or an abundance of petty annoyances... had me short tempered...
And instead work from the basis of what I've been like the whole time they've known me.
If you don't know someone much at all, and only judge by one post on a forum... you certainly would be unable to do that.
So what then is lost by holding judgement a little for some more evidence?
You really think insulting someone on this forum is going to induce them change their behaviour?
You really think insulting someone on this forum is going to induce them change their behaviour?
You really think insulting someone on this forum is going to induce them change their behaviour?
You push someone, they'll push back. You likely won't get someone to agree with you & conform to your standards of behaviour by being nasty to them and making yourself their enemy. I know I don't want to listen to someone who's insulting me. Do you?
Have you heard that you catch more flies with honey than vinegar?
I think "the problem with our society these days" is there's far too much vinegar being spewed. So there.
Yet you have yourself exhibited snap judgements and made ill advised and rude comments and then walked away from the response without a word. Hypocrisy is another modern facet of the human world that is becoming more prevalent but to see it come from someone who preaches cultural understanding and has such apparent insight into the human condition, I find that surprising.
To be honest, no, I've not spent much time there... well, ever, really. If there are problems and inflamed debates that get out of hand in any part of the forums, the report feature is the best way to get our attention.
I don't know who you're referring to. If someone is a persistent trouble maker, they will be dealt with accordingly by one or more of the staff but you (or anyone) have to keep reporting the posts that are causing the problems.
People are angry and disappointed with the state of things. We aren't Japanese, most of us anyway, and in most cultures you express your anger so that's what we do. When the communication is all one way, when the other side isn't talking, either directly or through the game itself, this is kind of what happens. You should louder and louder and louder until you are heard. This is a very human experience.
I'm also guilty of derailing it so that would make me a hypocrite at this point.
Maybe I'll PM the thread author and ask if I can change the subject to 'GT6 and the human condition' ..?
