Suspect in a rape case.

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Jay
I wouldn't pay much attention to it, the whole point of it is to scare you. If they were serious they would have done something about it already. Keep your awareness up but don't stress. A good friend of mine has been through a similar situation.
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Indeed, the whole object is to rattle you, if they really wanted to do it, they would have done it within the stated time frame. Try, if you can to put it to put it to the back of your mind for the moment.
 
Jay
I wouldn't pay much attention to it, the whole point of it is to scare you. If they were serious they would have done something about it already. Keep your awareness up but don't stress. A good friend of mine has been through a similar situation.
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This.

It's an attempt by someone to attack you with minimum chance of them being traced. Don't fret about it.
 
Kikie this is dreadful i feel so sorry for you.

To be honest i'd expected the whole situation would have all blown over by now.

But like Jay said above, awful as it is, it's just a threat designed to scare you. If they actually meant to harm you in some way they wouldn't have warned you before hand.
 
You should have told them to shut up and stop asking questions or you'll rape them.

Seriously though, unless they show up with cuffs, most likely they're only doing some questioning after receiving a tip. Who cares what someone thinks, its most likely the creepy old lady across the road who does nothing but pet her 200 cats and stare out the window to hopefully find something out of the ordinary that will bring some life back to her useless existance.
 
Agreed with above sentiments. Horrible as it is, it's just an attempt to scare you and shouldn't be worried about. You've done the right thing and handed it into the police, so try not to let it bother you.
 
kikie
I just got my first written death threat in the mailbox.
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Mate, I know how you feel. About this time last year, I found a death threat stuffed into a hole in the wall around my college. There's a thread on it around here somewhere. I came back from a session at the swimming pool and spotted bunched-up papers in an out-of-the-way hole in a wall I walked past every day. It said something about making you scream until you begged for death. I can't remember the specifics, but it was pretty scary. There was no way it could have been targeted at me since there was no way of knowing where I would be at any given time and the gate I used got pretty good foot traffic, but it made me nervous as hell - and I was just the unfortunate bloke who found it. I wouldn't have thought anything more of it other than it being some immature and juvenile practical joke, but it was just the latest in a string of odd coincidences that always seemed to happen when I was around. I'm pretty sure - though I can't prove a thing - that it was somehow related to someone who had taken an intense dislike of me for no apparent reason and who wanted to drive me out of the college. It's all over now, though.

But I know just how you feel. The best thing you can do is keep a clear head about you. If you suspect the death threats are related to your visit to the police station six months ago, then tell the police. I wouldn't try doing anything fancy like think about anyone who would want to target you unless you're asked, though. If you do that, then there's a chance that you might start seeing things that aren't there.
 
kikie
I already went to the police before I posted the update above. They are going to look into it. No there hasn't been any progression. I wish there was.
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Your last hour has struck
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Sad to hear this, some people have no clue what they do ...

I'm changing my mind on the previous part of the story:
1) It was: If people are trying to help the case, you are yet another unfortunate victim if you are innocent and get mixed up in the story.
2) The case now is personal and we have to assume (like all others until proven differently before court) that you are innocent. This is seriously wrong from the person that did it!

Clarity on the case would be a good point, for all!

P.S.: "we have to assume" is not that I have any reason for an other opinion, it is just to point to the right thing to do!
 
kikie
I just got my first written death threat in the mailbox.
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Well, someone thinks it was you don't they? And if the case doesn't go well for them, I'm not trying to scare you, but they might decide to take matters into their own hands. If they think the justice system failed them and they think they know you're the guilty party, they may try something. Again, not trying to scare you, just trying to make sure you face with open eyes.

If I were you I would do what I could to defend myself. I don't remember where you live, but depending on where you are you might consider getting a handgun and a concealed-carry license (you should probably do this anyway :) ), so that you can be armed as often as possible. You might also consider a tazer. (All of this assumes you're old enough to do so of course)

If you know who the person is that is accusing you you might at least consider (don't necessarily do it) getting a mutual friend to talk to them about your innocence in this case. The death threat is undoubtedly coming from someone close to the victim.

You should also consider your daily routine and try to identify where you are most exposed to an attack and make a change. In fact, you should probably try to change your routine regularly so that it can't be predicted where you'll be at any given time. It's easy enough to improve home security, but improving car and transportation security is something else.

Others on this thread have stated that this is an attempt to scare you - and I agree. But I don't think that necessarily means they won't act on it. I'm trying to put myself in the shoes of someone who has had a loved one raped and who thinks they know exactly who the perpetrator is. If the justice system failed me - would I be willing to act on my own? I'd certainly think hard about it. I might even send them a note first so that they'd know I was out there instead of blissfully living their life. I'd be scared as hell too and have some serious soul searching about what I was going to do.

Make no mistake. Someone near you is SERIOUSLY emotionally damaged right now and is very dangerous to you given that you have been identified as a suspect. If I were them I'd be thinking about how I could set something up to make it appear as though you attacked me and I defended myself against you. Not sure if they'll be thinking that clearly, but you should be aware of the possibility.

I would take this as seriously as you can. I'm glad you contacted the police about it, but if they're not willing to help, you need to be prepared to defend yourself. There is only so much the police can do.

Good luck... and if you're thinking "why me?" to yourself right now, keep in mind that there are worse things in life than someone threatening to kill you - like having your daughter, sister, or wife raped (or being raped yourself).
 
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I was about to make a crackingly bad joke - until the Death threat part appeared.... I'm mostly wondering who the hell could know that Kikie is "a suspect". Unless the one who named Kikie, "overflew" with joy of doing so to a couple of drinking buddies - this info should be tucked away safely at the police station.....
 
I know, unless this person is very smart, where he lives. It's not more than one kilometer from where I live.

The person whom wrote the death threats is very stupid or very smart. He wrote it on the back of a tax declaration of 2008. They tried to cover up the address but didn't succeed. I could still read the address. And the rest of the information is still on the piece of papers which can identify to whom this tax declaration was send at.
There is a 13 y.o. son in that family who doesn't have the knowledge about the personal information on the tax declaration, so it could be him. Or it is somebody who got these papers from a trash can and used these to write the threats. He's a minor, so nothing will happen to him besides appearing for the judge sitting in a juvenile court. The police are going to look for fingerprints on the pieces of paper.

I'm not going to lock myself up over this threat. No sir I won't. I'm going to keep doing the things I like to do. Tomorrow, I want to go to the gym again. I wanted to go this evening at around 7pm but decided not to. It's not a pleasant feeling receiving these threats and knowing that people are still talking about my back and look at me as criminal. Story of my live. Being abused and instulted and being accused wrongly in the past started when I was 13 and I guess it will never end. Welcome to my life! :p

When I got the treaths in my hand, I firstly thought it was directed to my father. I didn't even think it had something to do with the rape case. By the way, this raper has been busy for 6 year and they still don't have him.
After I knew it was directed at me, I started getting angry and I thought; not with this person, I'm going to the police to file a complaint.

I don't know what my problem is but, and this off topic, when I come in contact with a very aggresive dog that clearly wants to attack me, I always find myself going towards the dog shouting: (this is Dutch (Flemish dialect) godverdommme, gij vuile smerig rot hond, nie me mij za kerel. Makt da ge weg zijt jong, rot beest. I always feel very aggressive when a dog wants to attack me and I always feel the hair on my arms raise. Maybe I'm psychopath or maybe I'm fed up with being attacked, insulted, abused almost my entire life and I want to stand up for myself? I don't know. I have scared more than one dog away in my life, mostly German Shepherds. And when I'm riding my bycicle and come accross a dog, any dog, that starts to bite at my feet and runs after me while I'm still riding, I alsways stop, get of my bike and start running after the dog which is getting the hell away from me at that point. I never had any problems with the owners though. And no, this doesn't happen often. I seem to have a good attraction with dogs. Non aggressive dogs always want to be with me and even fall asleep under the chair I'm sitting on. I love dogs and cats ever more. :sly:

I told this story to describe how I felt when I read these 2 letters. I was angry and but suprisinly very calm but my heart was pounding in overdrive.
I was controlling myself w00t.
 
kikie
I always feel very aggressive when a dog wants to attack me and I always feel the hair on my arms raise. Maybe I'm psychopath or maybe I'm fed up with being attacked, insulted, abused almost my entire life and I want to stand up for myself? I don't know.
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All creatures respond to a threat with what is known as a fight or flight response, meaning that in a threatening situation every creature will either run away or fight back. Your natural instinct is to fight back when threatened.

That does not make you a psychopath. That makes you normal. If you chased down the dog and harmed or killed it out of spite long after it had quit being a threat, then that would bring into question your mental stability.
 
FoolKiller
All creatures respond to a threat with what is known as a fight or flight response, meaning that in a threatening situation every creature will either run away or fight back. Your natural instinct is to fight back when threatened.

That does not make you a psychopath. That makes you normal. If you chased down the dog and harmed or killed it out of spite long after it had quit being a threat, then that would bring into question your mental stability.
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I would never do that I love animals. In fact I can't keep up with the dogs and once I fell on my face when chasing. :p

I don't eve kill flies/spiders etc ... . I catch them alive, in mid air of when sitting still and let go of them outside.
 
kikie
There is a 13 y.o. son in that family who doesn't have the knowledge about the personal information on the tax declaration, so it could be him. Or it is somebody who got these papers from a trash can and used these to write the threats.
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If it's a 13 year-old, I'd expect him to be stupid and brag about it - so word may get out. It's easy to dismiss a death threat from a kid, but I'm going to urge you once again to take this as seriously as possible. Assume, for now, that it is not from a kid and take whatever steps are necessary to protect yourself. There is a mentally unstable person out there with an unknown degree of hatred for you.
 
kikie
If I stop posting, you all know what happened, I'll probably be dead.
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Shoosh you. Dont even think like that but, if you are going into those pages of the book, do us one thing.

Please tell your dad that if you die to post on here and inform us, you dont have to but to be honest, I would like to know if you did. Its better than never knowing...
 
kikie
If I stop posting, you all know what happened, I'll probably be dead.
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I would first gamble on PC issues if the above happened.

With all the abuse you seem to experience, think of it positive. "Onkruid vergaat niet" (Flemish sorry: Weeds are hard to kill).

For the dog, I saw a recently documentary about this, your behaviour is quite good, except for the aggressive part. If a dog does not see you as a running pray (like when you are driving away from it on your bicycle) but you stand up and look at it, it will stop its instinct to chase and bite. They advice to talk in a calm voice, so you can keep you same message but say it calmly.
Your chasing an attacking animal is also known as a tactic, big predators generally have limited enemies, so they are not used to being attacked and it confuses the hell out of them. However here it is difficult to predict their behaviour.
 
Vince_Fiero
With all the abuse you seem to experience, think of it positive. "Onkruid vergaat niet" (Flemish sorry: Weeds are hard to kill).
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Abuse, insults etc... (daily) started when around the age of 13 and went on until I was about 20. After that I was sporadic abuse.

Vince_Fiero
For the dog, I saw a recently documentary about this, your behaviour is quite good, except for the aggressive part.
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Aggressive in a verbal way, not physical. Unless a dog or whatever attacks me, I can become physically (only to defend myself).
 
After Kikie the queen of Belgium (spouse of the former king) Fabiola receives death treats.
It seems gangs are taking over that country!

What is wrong with the people there?
 
Came back online for giving a heads up.

A police officer came to my house yesterday. He had some news concerning the death thread notes. It seems that it was a harmless joke from a 9 y.o..

Some time ago, he (this 9 yo) rang the doorbell. He was selling wafles. I think I wasn't home because I can't remember him selling wafles. It was getting dark outside and the roll-down shutter were closed and my father opened one (or is it rolled one up?). He signaled to the 9 y.o. that he wasn't interested in buying something. After a few days, he returned and me father didn't answer the door.

When the police interrogated this 9 y.o., he explained why he wrote these messages. He said that he was bored and he wrote these messages because he was mad because he wasn't able to sell wafles and because my father didn't anser the door the second time. The Sexmaniak part was just a word he heard on television and he didn't even know what it was. But he knew that it was an insult.
It had nothing to do with the rape case. Because of the word sexmaniak, I was sure that it was directed at me and had some bearing on the rape case and that was why I filed a complaint. His parents didn't know anything about this and he was/is going to be punished by his parents. They also asked the police officer if it was appropriate to apologise to me.

After hearing this, I immedialtely dropped the charges against him but I did clarifie that the police has to go over there to teach him a lesson and tell him that he can't do anything like that anymore. It wasn't necessary because the judge sitting in a juvenile court will give the police the same order. At least this kid doesn't have to appear for the judge sitting in a juvenile court anymore. I also said that his parents don't have apologise.

That's it.
 
Nice to know it was a harmless threat, I bet you are relieved..
 
Yeah, still a pretty big scare though. I bet you're pretty pissed off at the kid :lol:.
And welcome back to GTP - for now :p
 
You should have said to the police to pretend to the kid that you were taking him to court and that he would get in really big trouble leave it for a couple of days for him to really worry for a couple of days before telling him you arn't really charging him. I don't think he would do anything like that again.

Edit: That might be abit harsh actually, I'm sure he didn't know about the rape case and that he didn't mean any harm and at that age its hard for kids to really know the difference between right and wrong and consequences of actions and how people can take what you say can not allways be what you mean.
 
I'm made up to hear you've had some good news Kikie. Good to see you posting again, don't let it be a one off.
 
The rapist has been caught! But he killed himself last week. It was the last suspect whom gave up his DNA last week that was the rapist. He raped 19 girls between the age of 16 and 20 y.o. in a period of 8 years.
 
kikie
The rapist has been caught! But he killed himself last week. It was the last suspect whom gave up his DNA last week that was the rapist. He raped 19 girls between the age of 16 and 20 y.o. in a period of 8 years.
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Oh well, one less out there.
Glad they finally wrapped the case up.
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