The General Relationship Thread

[sesselpupser]

Well only you can decide that and I don't know your situation as well as you do, but I've got many regrets about over-thinking situations and hesitating. You get to a certain age, though, where you realise 90% of the time you were barking up the wrong tree so really having regrets over stuff like that is futile. I wish I'd known that when I was younger!

Essentially, just do whatever you want but keep cool, stay charming no matter what happens, be a gentleman (not literally, girls find it boring these days) and remember that your self respect and confidence are all that matter, because no one will respect you if you don't respect yourself.

Seriously though, you don't learn if you don't take risks and failures aren't failures if you learn from them.

 

[Ven0m]

Ahh the joys of getting rejected by someone that you work with. And then watching the prick you work with have success with her.

In other news I did find another girl I'm into. She's great fun. Said she would go out to eat with me. Also got her number. Feel like she likes me at least a little. Helped her when she was having a hard time. Gave her someone to talk to and lean on so maybe that really helps me. If not, then I'm alone again.

 

[Dean]

Well only you can decide that and I don't know your situation as well as you do, but I've got many regrets about over-thinking situations and hesitating. You get to a certain age, though, where you realise 90% of the time you were barking up the wrong tree so really having regrets over stuff like that is futile. I wish I'd known that when I was younger!

Essentially, just do whatever you want but keep cool, stay charming no matter what happens, be a gentleman (not literally, girls find it boring these days) and remember that your self respect and confidence are all that matter, because no one will respect you if you don't respect yourself.

Seriously though, you don't learn if you don't take risks and failures aren't failures if you learn from them.

I'll follow your advise(s). - It can't go more than wrong. Thanks.

Ahh the joys of getting rejected by someone that you work with. And then watching the prick you work with have success with her.

In other news I did find another girl I'm into. She's great fun. Said she would go out to eat with me. Also got her number. Feel like she likes me at least a little. Helped her when she was having a hard time. Gave her someone to talk to and lean on so maybe that really helps me. If not, then I'm alone again.

Good luck, to you!

 

[Callum B]

Ahh the joys of getting rejected by someone that you work with. And then watching the prick you work with have success with her.

In other news I did find another girl I'm into. She's great fun. Said she would go out to eat with me. Also got her number. Feel like she likes me at least a little. Helped her when she was having a hard time. Gave her someone to talk to and lean on so maybe that really helps me. If not, then I'm alone again.

Gotta be careful though, make your move swiftly before she thinks she puts you in the friend zone, I've made that mistake before.

 

[Dean]

Edit to my previous post: I found out she had a boyfriend, so never mind.

 

[Ven0m]

Gotta be careful though, make your move swiftly before she thinks she puts you in the friend zone, I've made that mistake before.

Yeah I'm going to. She sure is touchy feely for a friend though. I'm hoping that's a good sign. Anyone ever have that anxiety that the number you were given was put in incorrectly? And then your texting to the wrong person. I hate it. Do it all the time.

 

[Dean]

Yeah I'm going to. She sure is touchy feely for a friend though. I'm hoping that's a good sign. Anyone ever have that anxiety that the number you were given was put in incorrectly? And then your texting to the wrong person. I hate it. Do it all the time.

I've tried it once. Not nice.

 

[interpunct]

Edit to my previous post: I found out she had a boyfriend, so never mind.

I know how this feels, last person I liked had a partner... We are still friends though.

 

[Dean]

I know how this feels, last person I liked had a partner... We are still friends though.

Well, it's a bit annoying, but what can be done? - I can't make her break up, with her partner. I'll just have to accept it.

 

[Driving Park]

Well, it's a bit annoying, but what can be done? - I can't make her break up, with her partner. I'll just have to accept it.

You just have to move on, but not completely. If you're willing to wait a long time, you can leave her on the backburner so to speak, hoping that eventually they'll break up (but while they're together, don't do anything to try to end it). Then after a suitable amount of time has passed, you can start to think about trying to make something happen. I met a girl recently that I was interested in but found out she had a boyfriend. I'm not going to try to break them up (I don't even know the guy) but I'm not going to completely give up either. I'll just stay friends with her and if they end up breaking up, it's a bonus!

 

[MarinaDiamandis]

You just have to move on, but not completely. If you're willing to wait a long time, you can leave her on the backburner so to speak, hoping that eventually they'll break up (but while they're together, don't do anything to try to end it). Then after a suitable amount of time has passed, you can start to think about trying to make something happen. I met a girl recently that I was interested in but found out she had a boyfriend. I'm not going to try to break them up (I don't even know the guy) but I'm not going to completely give up either. I'll just stay friends with her and if they end up breaking up, it's a bonus!

Waiting like that is a good way to come across as a creep. Move on, plenty of girls in the world!

 

[Dean]

You just have to move on, but not completely. If you're willing to wait a long time, you can leave her on the backburner so to speak, hoping that eventually they'll break up (but while they're together, don't do anything to try to end it). Then after a suitable amount of time has passed, you can start to think about trying to make something happen. I met a girl recently that I was interested in but found out she had a boyfriend. I'm not going to try to break them up (I don't even know the guy) but I'm not going to completely give up either. I'll just stay friends with her and if they end up breaking up, it's a bonus!

I actually thought of doing this.

Waiting like that is a good way to come across as a creep. Move on, plenty of girls in the world!

You're right. That's why I've accepted it. Though, this thought keeps coming to my mind; “Who'll be the right one for me?”, and I know, it's a question that can't be answered, yet. After that, “Will there ever be anyone?” comes to my mind, and here, I think, the answer is yes, but I really don't know.

 

[MarinaDiamandis]

I actually thought of doing this.

You're right. That's why I've accepted it. Though, this thought keeps coming to my mind; “Who'll be the right one for me?”, and I know, it's a question that can't be answered, yet. After that, “Will there ever be anyone?” comes to my mind, and here, I think, the answer is yes, but I really don't know.

Look around you, very few people end up alone. Now stop worrying about it and get on with the important parts of life, like living.

 

[sesselpupser]

Look around you, very few people end up alone. Now stop worrying about it and get on with the important parts of life, like living.

Hear hear! It's impossible to actually do, but if you just forget about looking for someone, that's when you'll find someone. Girls can sense these things, it's bizarre.

 

[cgr-10]

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[MarinaDiamandis]

Apparently subtle hints are a language that girls can't understand based on how the last week has gone. I mean I wasn't even that subtle to be honest; If a guy starts talking to you out of the blue, complimenting you, flirting to an extent and says 'do you want to go to *insert stereotypical date location* some night this week?', it's fairly obvious that he likes you right? Clearly not according to the girl I've been talking to.

Now we're in an awkward position where she has somehow concluded that we're best friends and is either unaware or is ignoring the obvious fact that I'm into her. Awesome. Next time i'll be sure to say 'Do you want to on a date because I'd quite like you to be my girlfriend?' spelt out letter by letter. I may even write it down to make things easier.

Or she's just not interested? Some girls hard trouble out-and-out rejecting guys.

Maybe "Do you want to go on a date with me, yes or no?"

 

[cgr-10]

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[Ven0m]

Made a big mistake of texting a crush from last semester. Would have given anything for this girl. I asked her three separate times to go on a date with me and she turned me down all three times. This was while me and her were hanging out a lot. Now I text her and got those emotions back, stewing in my head. It's like the second I talked to her it tore down this mental wall and sent me back to a state of depression. To make things worse she now is dating a guy that works at the gym that we used to work out at. I fell for that girl and it's like nothing happened to her. I feel absolutely worthless. Don't ever text someone that rejected you. Ever.

 

[Azuremen]

Don't ever text someone that rejected you. Ever.

More like don't text them with expectations. Ever.

Especially after they rejected you three separate times. Once is generally enough...

 

[MarinaDiamandis]

More like don't text them with expectations. Ever.

Especially after they rejected you three separate times. Once is generally enough...

Yup, asking over and over only does more damage, you look desperate and nobody finds that attractive.

She's just a girl, why would you give anything for her? You don't buy the attention of women, or at least the women worth having the attention of.

 

[phillgt2002]

Excellent advice in this thread.

 

[sumbrownkid]

One thing I hate about relationships is when a couple that you happen to be friends with make you take sides in a petty fight.

I pretty much have to declare myself as Switzerland and stay out of it. If it's one thing I don't want to be, is to be the one who winds up ending a relationship.

 

[Joel]

To me, is someone asks me to choose between them and another person, the best bet is usually the other person.

 

[Dean]

Well, I'm so “lucky”, that I haven't been in that situation.

 

[photonrider]

Relationships are forbidden outside of the Infield! FORBIDDEN!

Agree. This is most definitely taboo.

 

[Skython]

Waiting like that is a good way to come across as a creep. Move on, plenty of girls in the world!

It's only creepy if they know of it.

Look around you, very few people end up alone. Now stop worrying about it and get on with the important parts of life, like living.

But there ARE people who end up alone, and the numbers of those are rising, right? ... ... I'm not helping, am I...

 

[Azuremen]

But there ARE people who end up alone, and the numbers of those are rising, right? ... ... I'm not helping, am I...

"Oh hi, I'm teen angst and paranoia all in one, let me post please"

Really, people are only alone because they choose to be; in a world with 7 billion people, it isn't hard to find another that sees it the same way. Generally, the people that feel alone are the ones that worry the most about it, to the point of alienating others and thus making their worry reality.

 

[photonrider]

Stop looking, Skython, and start feeling.

Seriously though, everybody ends up alone eventually. I was alone holding my Dad's hand when he passed away. That doesn't mean you'll be alone ALL your life, as M'Diamandis says - someone will eventually synch into your life. Even if you don't build it, they will come.
Ah! The impatience of youth . . .

Companionship is not always about sex, or finding somebody from the 'other' gender. One shares many things in a relationship most importantly the bond of understanding - of seeing eye-to-eye with someone on many things, and therefore spending time happily together. That 'closeness' is eventually what you should look for when finding someone to have a special relationship with - that is the bond that brings the experience of sharing into your life - and it's the shared experiences that make a relationship what it is.
E.T. will vouch for me that it doesn't matter what planet you are from (never mind complexion, tone of voice, or length of hair) when you connect.

 

[Joel]

For me, the only girlfriend I had spawned from a great friendship, which gradually became more as I got to know her better and better (and eventually I sacked up and asked her out). I chased various girls all through high school, and it was a complete failure. Only after giving up on chasing girls, and deciding to focus more on enjoying myself (and making an effort to carry myself with more confidence) did I actually get a girlfriend.


Shame she turned out to be bat:censored: crazy.

 

[Skython]

"Oh hi, I'm teen angst and paranoia all in one, let me post please"

Really, people are only alone because they choose to be; in a world with 7 billion people, it isn't hard to find another that sees it the same way. Generally, the people that feel alone are the ones that worry the most about it, to the point of alienating others and thus making their worry reality.

Or end up alone due to incredible laziness.

And whoever said I was worrying about finding someone, I'm not all that fussed about being on my own. It's a lot more enjoyable because it means I do what I want, when I want. And I can be as lazy as 🤬 and no one cares. I am not paranoid about anything because I focus on what's happening now rather than what may or may not happen years from now.

Stop looking, Skython, and start feeling.

Seriously though, everybody ends up alone eventually. I was alone holding my Dad's hand when he passed away. That doesn't mean you'll be alone ALL your life, as M'Diamandis says - someone will eventually synch into your life. Even if you don't build it, they will come.
Ah! The impatience of youth . . .

Companionship is not always about sex, or finding somebody from the 'other' gender. One shares many things in a relationship most importantly the bond of understanding - of seeing eye-to-eye with someone on many things, and therefore spending time happily together. That 'closeness' is eventually what you should look for when finding someone to have a special relationship with - that is the bond that brings the experience of sharing into your life - and it's the shared experiences that make a relationship what it is.
E.T. will vouch for me that it doesn't matter what planet you are from (never mind complexion, tone of voice, or length of hair) when you connect.

I'm not being impatient. I never said anything about trying to find someone. My other post wasn't actually serious. But yeah, you're last paragraph is true however.