The General Relationship Thread

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MarinaDiamandis
Finally! Nice work.

On the subject of the ex-boyfriend, he's her ex, he has no say.
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lintels123
Congrats terminator! I'm sure, and hoping for your sake, that nothing bad will happen tonight. Like Marina said, he has no say. It shouldn't be a problem.
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cnd01
Great job man. Way to go. 👍
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Thanks everyone.

As for the ex, he kept quiet the whole time. I almost felt bad for the guy. He's really mild tempered and shy. But instead of giving in I kept thinking about how difficult it was for me to get close to her; so I just kept chatting away for the next 3 hours. I was talking to a girl I haven't met mostly, but I kept making really sweet eye contact with the girl I'm going out with. :) None of her friends know so we feel really close and it isn't awkward for anyone. 👍

Just a bit of advice for anyone in on this thread:

I've learned that after this, anything is possible. I thought she was above my league. Frankly she's one of the most attractive girls in the school (very intelligent too). Yet she told me that all she was looking for was "a guy who could make her smile".

Good luck to everyone here for now. :dopey: :cheers:
 
terminator363
Thanks everyone.

As for the ex, he kept quiet the whole time. I almost felt bad for the guy. He's really mild tempered and shy. But instead of giving in I kept thinking about how difficult it was for me to get close to her; so I just kept chatting away for the next 3 hours. I was talking to a girl I haven't met mostly, but I kept making really sweet eye contact with the girl I'm going out with. :) None of her friends know so we feel really close and it isn't awkward for anyone. 👍

Just a bit of advice for anyone in on this thread:

I've learned that after this, anything is possible. I thought she was above my league. Frankly she's one of the most attractive girls in the school (very intelligent too). Yet she told me that all she was looking for was "a guy who could make her smile".

Good luck to everyone here for now. :dopey: :cheers:
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Congrats...and I agree...humour is often the way to a woman's heart...

"Perhaps most important of all, you have to be able to make them laugh. As a basic necessity look up and memorize jokes to begin with, but a quick wit is an invaluable asset with women. Don't be mean about anything though. With your buddies you can make fun of other people's weaknesses or quirks but not yet with your potential date, unless she leads the way of course. If you can make a woman laugh, you are halfway home every single time".
 
She's got my sense of humor. I mean exactly. I never go into dirty stuff because a guy was hitting on her talking about orgys, sex and prostitutes, and I could see her get turned off immediately - and as soon as that happened she would turn to look at me.
 
terminator363
She's got my sense of humor. I mean exactly. I never go into dirty stuff because a guy was hitting on her talking about orgys, sex and prostitutes, and I could see her get turned off immediately - and as soon as that happened she would turn to look at me.
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:lol: :lol: That sounds like my kinda guy! :p:rolleyes:
 
Got a text from the girl of my dreams today.


...And it was not pretty. Unexpected too. Got it at an odd time of day....my stomach went to my throat before I even opened it.

It pretty muuch said listen I do NOT LIKE YOU. I am NOT interested. Stop trying to get with me because it's not going to happen. That was the gist of it minus some other unrelated stuff.

I was working at the time and tried to keep my cool...choked up a bit though. Part of me died inside...
 
Slashfan
Got a text from the girl of my dreams today.

...And it was not pretty. Unexpected too. Got it at an odd time of day....my stomach went to my throat before I even opened it.

It pretty muuch said listen I do NOT LIKE YOU. I am NOT interested. Stop trying to get with me because it's not going to happen. That was the gist of it minus some other unrelated stuff.

I was working at the time and tried to keep my cool...choked up a bit though. Part of me died inside...
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Ehhh. Sorry to hear. Sometimes it isn't meant to be. Hopefully you can learn from it going forward.
 
cnd01
Ehhh. Sorry to hear. Sometimes it isn't meant to be. Hopefully you can learn from it going forward.
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I guess. Hurts like hell though. Going to take a long time to get over this one especially after having a huge crush on her for, god, gotta be going on 7 years now. :nervous:


I just wish I knew where I went wrong....
 
You are correct about having a girlfriend.

And you are correct about that as well.

But I mean prior to getting with the girl I am with now. That's where I want to know where I went wrong. I'll admit I've been ignorant in this thread thus far...being selfish and all. Honestly besides this I have a rather clean record with women. And I feel like a total 🤬 right now.

And you know what? I totally deserve it and had it coming,
 
No matter how I look at it it's not going to have a happy ending...

She's totally devoted to me to...

UGH I just want to break something right now.
 
Slashfan
No matter how I look at it it's not going to have a happy ending...

She's totally devoted to me to...

UGH I just want to break something right now.
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Go out with your girlfriend dude. Have fun with her. Simple stuff
 
I try to. I treat her like gold. I do everything for her. But during all this in the back of my mind is where all this other stuff was lingering. Obviously it is defintely not happening now with the other girl so it's time just to give up and move on and stick with the one I have now I guess.

Just sucks. I could have seen myself with the other forever. Married, family etc. I'm with my girlfriend now obviously but I can't say the same at this point of wether or not I want to go that far with her. Likely not. Even though we dated and split before we've always remained good friends and I think if we split she'd be heartbroken for a bit but things would cool off between us again.

Without a doubt in my mind I would have gone that far with the other. Absolutely no hesitation. That's how strongly I felt. I did not feel that for anyone else I've ever met or been around or even dated.

That said I always said I never wanted to go that far with anyone...but this other girl was the first I felt that may have been an option.

And now I know it will never happen as long as I live. Sucks man.
 
Dump your girlfriend. She deserves someone who won't sit by & see her as a 2nd prize, a person you just settled for because the girl you did want didn't even like you.

You just said so yourself that you don't see it going that far with her, so quit wasting her time, dump her, & let her find someone who will think of her the way you thought about the other girl.
 
casey_2005
^ This is good meme material.
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McLaren
Dump your girlfriend. She deserves someone who won't sit by & see her as a 2nd prize, a person you just settled for because the girl you did want didn't even like you.

You just said so yourself that you don't see it going that far with her, so quit wasting her time, dump her, & let her find someone who will think of her the way you thought about the other girl.
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I plan on it here pretty soon. I can't keep doing this to her. Hope the family doesn't get pissed off at me like last time :/

Problem is I don't know how to break it to her...
 
And being that there is no easy way to say it isn't going to help. :/

This is going to be really, really hard on her...
 
Slashfan
And being that there is no easy way to say it isn't going to help. :/

This is going to be really, really hard on her...
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Grow a pair and tell her. If you don't like her or like someone else, just end it. Don't put your gf through it.
 
terminator363
It was actually pretty disgusting at one point. He told us about how he was plucking... nevermind. :yuck: During our lunch break. 👎
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:yuck: Some people have no shame man
 
xStretch-
I don't think you warrant any advice, going by your posts you seem very selfish. Guys like you are clueless
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If you are going to make a statement like that you might want to be more specific about who you are talking to (use their name or quote their post)👍
 
W3HS
I've made a similar statement a few times in my relationship history. Time has a way of changing ones perspective.
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Hope mine changes for the better :/
 
Slashfan
Hope mine changes for the better :/
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Generally, you'll find that when you stop focusing on yourself, and start focusing on others, doing good things for other people, your own situation will improve dramatically. Your first priority should be doing right by your girlfriend and taking the consequences like a man, you've earned them.

Classic
What did I do. :nervous:
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Give stretch a chance to clarify whom he was talking to..not sure if was you or not which is why I posted what I did. 👍
 

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