VANDENAL's Life: Unfolding on GTPlanet

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I created this thread as a tool to help me deal with the problems in my life and help me realize and place importance in the sucesses in my life. I welcome any comments, I don't care if they're harsh or if they're supportive. I'm at a point in my life where I have no interest in anything, and my life just seems bland. The only time where the events that affect my life seems to dissapear is when I'm bowling. Its one of the sports I am good at. I don't know anymore, maybe this was all caused by my personality, I am nice to people but I like being by myself. But now I find myself longing for that one girl who could change my life. I am more social than I used to be, I wear the cool clothes, I hang out with a lot of people. But I'm afraid that the girls that like me don't want to be with me because I care alot, almost too much. I created an act so complex because I don't like being me. I don't want to act now. Its hard to get up in the and appreciate the world when you don't like you. Help me please... I need it.
 
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Being supportive IS a problem, especially towards girls - they tend to date assholes and cry on your shoulder then. Yet, a good girl will see that and date you, it's going to happen sooner or later. Problem is, sometimes the asshole girls are going to date you. Took quite a few attempts for me to find Mrs. Scuzzilla.

Then again: did you change your personality just to "get a life" or "improve your life"? If so, you shouldn't do something alike.
 
Well don't change who you are for a girl. Do what makes YOU happy and your life will get brighter. You will find the girl for you eventually.
 
Let me check...uh, no, not helpful at all.

It's better to ask for advice. I'd go out with a mate and drink way too much while I'm asking but nonetheless, each to their own.
 
Thank you Scuzzila for your comment. I started acting differently because I wanted to be something, it was hard to do, and now I regret it because I don't know what I used to be. I liked one girl, we were good friends, and she told her friend that she liked me. I didn't want to ruin our friendship, so I waited a while. When I finally asked her out, she told me she liked someone else, then she told me... I hope this doesn't effect our friendship. Well needless to say, it did. We still are friends, but my mistake affected us tremendously. By the way her boyfriend was a major 🤬. I have gotten over that, and have tried to focus on my schooling, but I can't help wanting to be with people. I think I got some problems because I'm never happy. I hope I can get better.
 
Well, it all comes down to this: if you like a girl, go for it. You're friends? Good, friendship is the base you want in a relationship. If she doesn't like you in that way? Not good but not certainly bad either since you couldn't be with her, as a friend, and be happy with it. Ever tried to go out with an ex, just friends and everything? Really awkward, believe me - same for friends that you secretly love / really like a lot.

Things to do: be yourself, go for it and take your shots.
Things not to do: change yourself for someone, hold back if you really want to do something.

The leopard cannot change his spots? Uh, well...you can, all you need is the courage to do so. And it's not easy.
 
A leopard can't change his spots
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How very true. Thank you for that, and helping me address one of my problems. Scuzzila, thank you for helping and addressing Type S Tony. Tony, not cool. One of reasons I wasn't being myself was because I am kinda like Sheldon on the Big Bang Theory: I'm kinda neurotic, but not to that extent.
 
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If you got nothing fruitful to add just pass by quietly...
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It just cracks me that in Western society depression is an issue, We are better off than most other country's in the whole world yet we get cut & emo about a girl not liking us or not being socially accepted.

There are thousands of people dying every day in Africa, towns, Villages & cities being blown to bits in Afganistan, over population in India forcing people to live in slumb's, Natural disaster being declared everywhere and we as westeners get depressed over trivial crap???

I was once depressed, seriosuly, but i realised what i douche i was being and how bad other people had it and literally snaped out of it & took life by the neck and accepted the challenge to be the best i can be.

Did you know some ridicoulous percentage of the worlds population dont even have regular access to fresh water or medical assitance?? here we are giving some guy cheer up advice on the internet when theres 3 Billion people out there that dont even know what the internet is.

My advice to you bro:

Snap out of it, be a man, take life by the horns & wrestle that b*tch down



Ill admitt my first post was a bit out of line but seriosuly man your problems vs the rest of the wrolds renders it so insignificant that its almost laughable.

Your young, just take a chill pill & ride the rollercoaster, be happy with what you have and aspire to get what you dont have.

its really not that bad.
 
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Tony, DO YOU HAVE ANY 🤬 IDEA OF THE 🤬 I've BEEN THROUGH? Half of my family is 🤬 arguing about who is going to get the most stuff when my Nana dies, and the other half is dying of cancer. My closest brother is on the other side of the country because that's the only place he can get a job. Hell, half my family hates me. So if you don't like what I need to talk about, get out of the thread and gamble away your life savings playing poker.
 
Whatever dude, Just trying to give you some advice man, taker it or leave it. if you dont like what i have to say you shouldnt have posted on a public forum, What did you honestly think everyone was going to be nice & supportive, Pfttttttt yer whatever.

p.s.: i dont play poker with my life savings, i have a seperate poker bakroll that is money set aside purely for poker, if that was to ever become $0 balance i would quit poker for life!
 
He may not have worded it very well, but Tony has a good point. Sometimes putting your problems into perspective can make things seem a lot more manageable.

You'll probably hear less criticism with a less morbid title, too.
 
Hey, I said in my first post I don't care what you put as long as it contributes. Don't complain because I'm expressing my feelings and concerns. What you think means nothing. Now thanks for derailing my thread, and violating the AUP. Nothing you said contributed to the discussion. And next time you post, use the shift key and capitalize your I's. Thank you Tonderai and Skuzzila for trying to help. Now lets get back to the discussion, shall we. Today I had a okay day. I took 30 minutes to influence myself to go to school. I love my parents, but they just expect perfect marks in every class, and its just not do-able. I never have time to go and chill anymore with friends. I haven't partied it up in 2 years. I spend my time here to get away from my problems, and I had to raise them somewhere. So excuse me for addresing my problems on the internet.
 
VANDENAL
I created this thread as a tool to help me deal with the problems in my life and help me realize and place importance in the sucesses in my life. I welcome any comments, I don't care if they're harsh or if they're supportive. I'm at a point in my life where I have no interest in anything, and my life just seems bland. The only time where the events that affect my life seems to dissapear is when I'm bowling. Its one of the sports I am good at. I don't know anymore, maybe this was all caused by my personality, I am nice to people but I like being by myself. But now I find myself longing for that one girl who could change my life. I am more social than I used to be, I wear the cool clothes, I hang out with a lot of people. But I'm afraid that the girls that like me don't want to be with me because I care alot, almost too much. I created an act so complex because I don't like being me. I don't want to act now. Its hard to get up in the and appreciate the world when you don't like you. Help me please... I need it.
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You bowl? Awesome. So do I.
 
I do 5-pin bowling. League play on Sunday's. 7 years now, I do have some hardware... 8 medals, 7 trophys, and 3 plaques. One of which is for dedication to the sport.
 
Oh... I do that amurkan bowling. What's the difference beside half the number of pins?


Nevermind, looked it up myself. I'd like to try it sometime, along with duckpin, and candle stick.
 
Man Vandenal, it's probably been said but man, why do you have to change who you are? Unless it's for the better, there's no point in not being you. I'm a Communist, poet, writer, romantic, and I like emo chicks. That's who I am, don't change yourself. I'm coming to grips that I am who I am, despite any critique.

BTW: you didn't really need my approval for this. I wouldn't of cared, if it helps you then I wasn't going to stop you from posting. Just don't let it get of hand where this is all you do.

Besides, the title should say 'tale' :sly:
 
Sounds fun. I just found out that the girl I liked before might be available. So I'm going to do what I should've did 3 months ago and ask her out. I will be back shortly. Wish me luck!
 
VANDENAL
And next time you post, use the shift key and capitalize your I's. .
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There were no I's in my post...

Also helping somebody doesn't always equal being nice all the time.

I can't wait until our whole front page is filled with threads about high school kids whining about how tough their lives are. One 'high school sucks' thread would suffice.
 
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VANDENAL
Thank you Scuzzila for your comment. I started acting differently because I wanted to be something, it was hard to do, and now I regret it because I don't know what I used to be. I liked one girl, we were good friends, and she told her friend that she liked me. I didn't want to ruin our friendship, so I waited a while. When I finally asked her out, she told me she liked someone else, then she told me... I hope this doesn't effect our friendship. Well needless to say, it did. We still are friends, but my mistake affected us tremendously. By the way her boyfriend was a major 🤬. I have gotten over that, and have tried to focus on my schooling, but I can't help wanting to be with people. I think I got some problems because I'm never happy. I hope I can get better.
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I had this happen to me in a slightly different form.:( Took me a while to recover from it.
 
No reason to apologize, just don't take it so personally.

Some of us just roll our eyes with the whole high school kid being infatuated with a girl thing because we've all been through it and realize how meaningless high school 'relationships' were.

Chances are you're not going to meet 'the one' in high school anyway. Just be yourself and make a lot of friends and enjoy having almost no responsibility for as long as you can.
 
Thanks Max, when I'm done high school I'll probably look at this thread and laugh. I got to lighten up and be myself, let my personality shine and not care what other people think. I need to realize I have a good life. I got rejected by that girl btw, but I don't care, I'm actually happy. It's a sign that I should look for someone else to be with, and know the relationship will last a week or 2 max. I just got to keep my head up, enjoy myself and get noticed by being me, not something I pretended to be. Now that I think about it, Tony is right, my problems are so small. Wah I don't have a girlfriend, that's why there's one night stands. People are dying in Africa, now my problems feel insignificant. I feel better, and thanks to everyone who commented. And Tony, sorry for being such a 🤬. This made me realized that is not all about me. This was the kick in the butt I needed, and I'm thankful for it. 👍 to everyone.
 
Its a part of life, Alex. Life ain't always gonna go straigh the way you want it to. :indiff:
 
I'm in Grade 11, so I'm still in High School, and I think I'd give the same advice I gave to GT_Prologue5. It's just high school, don't waste your time worrying about a silly girl. High school is a fun time, I joke around with my friends all day at school, talk to some girls at school, then go home and play video games or watch hockey for most of the night. On the weekends, I'm either playing hockey or hanging out with a few friends. Just kick back a bit, and enjoy the ride. Work hard at your school work, and try to do your best, yeah. But high school isn't the be all and end all of relationships, and you're not going to find Mrs. Right at high school.


Don't worry about girls so much, and make some good friends (guys or girls you aren't attracted to), spend time with your friends, laugh, and remember to be a kid. As much as the teachers preach that "young adults" bull:censored:, we're still all just kids, and I have no idea why teenagers want to grow up so damn fast. Sure, I'm excited about the future too, but I don't want to miss the present.



TL;DR : High school's fun, 2 years from now nothing will matter so have fun and enjoy it.
 
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