Depression and Anxiety Thread

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See, I can't tell if its just how my brain is programmed, or if I actually have depression. I looked up the symptoms, and it fits exactly how I feel to a T. But I can't think of anything that would cause it.... also I feel if I go to the doctors I'll just feel like I'm wasting his time, as he must get loads of people who think they have depression, so I'm not sure what to do... or if it will ever pass... Sometimes I don't feel too bad, but 99% of the time I do. I'd like to give anti-depressants a go but I guess that'd mean going to the doctors.
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Go! If you think you need a doctor, go and see a doctor. They are there to help you, it's their job. You won't waste his/her time.

Don't wait too long. Make an appointment with your doctor. If you indeed have a depression and anti-deppressants work, your life will be much better.

You can try this test: http://healthnet.umassmed.edu/mhealth/HAMD.pdf
 
Ive been really happy today :) I got many things that keeps me happy.

Sorry if ive looked depressed for couple months. Im not really fully depressed on that time frame. Its just ive been on my low spectrum on my mind. Just adapt with my semi-adult life and such. Too much thinking, etc.

Yeah, some are right. There are things not even worth thinking or get over about (even when other people suppressed you as such).
 
I've decided that enough is enough, and that I'm finally going to see a doctor about this. Self-diagnosis really isn't reliable, but I know for a fact I'm not right on the head, and quite frankly I'm just exhausted from it now.

I'm sick of feeling like a failure or a bad person, when in the grand scheme of things I'm really not. I haven't had a decent nights sleep in months. I'm bored of being bored. I've blown off so many opportunities just because I feel like I'm not worthy of them or just too unmotivated.

Sounds stupid, but I don't think the human mind is really designed to cope with this level of negativity all day, everyday. I don't really want to go on medication, but if it means I get a shot at just feeling normal, then I'll gladly take it.
 
INEEDNAWZZZ
I've decided that enough is enough, and that I'm finally going to see a doctor about this. Self-diagnosis really isn't reliable, but I know for a fact I'm not right on the head, and quite frankly I'm just exhausted from it now.

I'm sick of feeling like a failure or a bad person, when in the grand scheme of things I'm really not. I haven't had a decent nights sleep in months. I'm bored of being bored. I've blown off so many opportunities just because I feel like I'm not worthy of them or just too unmotivated.

Sounds stupid, but I don't think the human mind is really designed to cope with this level of negativity all day, everyday. I don't really want to go on medication, but if it means I get a shot at just feeling normal, then I'll gladly take it.
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First step to recovery is acknowledgement and that is what you did, acknowledge that there is something not right.

Taking medication is less damaging for/to your health/body than the daily stress of being depressed. If you need to take medication, doesn't mean that is it for the rest of your life.

Finding the right medication is the challenge.
 
Things felt heavier each day, i would also react to the smallest things, it's like i'm getting realy frustrated at something but i don't know what. These days it's getting worse.

It's just, i don't know, am i actually depressed here ? Do you guys ever feel like this ?
 
GTboyz
Things felt heavier each day, i would also react to the smallest things, it's like i'm getting realy frustrated at something but i don't know what. These days it's getting worse.

It's just, i don't know, am i actually depressed here ? Do you guys ever feel like this ?
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Go and see a specialist. We are not doctors and we can't tell you if you are depressed or not. But the fact that you react to the smallest thing and that you are getting frustrated and things feel heavier each day can only mean one thing; this is probably not normal.

It could also be just stress, a lot of stress. If you really are depressed as I was (4 very severe clinical depressions), you will know that you are depressed and you will not need our advice (which I can't give you because I'm not a doctor and I don't know you). When I was clinical depressed, I was so sick that I wasn't even able to log on to GTP.
 
My girlfriend's depression issues are starting to get out of control.

2 times this week she has said she feels that "the world would be much better without her" and that she has been considering "giving up"...

:(

After all these horrible months, I finally understand why she was always mad about everything, about me, about life, about her job, why we would end up fighting about stupid things... her anxiety and depression issues are taking control of her life and she is losing the fight :(

How can I help her guys? We've already talked about going to the doctor, but I fear it could be to late, what if she... pulls the trigger and she "gives up"? :(
 
MoLiEG
My girlfriend's depression issues are starting to get out of control.

2 times this week she has said she feels that "the world would be much better without her" and that she has been considering "giving up"...

:(

After all these horrible months, I finally understand why she was always mad about everything, about me, about life, about her job, why we would end up fighting about stupid things... her anxiety and depression issues are taking control of her life and she is losing the fight :(

How can I help her guys? We've already talked about going to the doctor, but I fear it could be to late, what if she... pulls the trigger and she "gives up"? :(
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The doctor has to be where you go to first. It has taken me close to 7 years of some really dark times with my Girl Friend, I've always tried to be supportive and help in whatever way I could, 6 weeks back things came to point in time for my girlfiend that if she didn't go to the doctor - and be honest about everything - then things were only going to go one way.

Thankfully, she had finally reached a point in her thoughts that she could accept something wasn't quite right and she was able to make the decision that she should go to the doctor. This acceptance and help that she has received and is now receiving has made the world of difference.

But what can you do? For me it had to be my girlfriend that decided she wanted things to get better, even though I was aware something wasn't right, pushing her down the correct route would not have helped the situation. So my advice to you is to always be there for her when she is feeling low but recognise when you should support her feelings of lowness, and when you shouldn't - now I do not mean this for you to be mean, but she will deserve honesty from you as well.

If my girlfriend had a reaction to something that seemed so completely off the wall, something insignificant to me the temptation to not remain patient was always strong and hard to resist. But she needed a calm and rational mind to reach her.

Your situation seems very similar to what my life has been like for me, forever. If you require any advice then PM me, I realise that your girlfriend is going through a very difficult time, but so are you yourself and finding the right person to talk and vent to can often help you and thus help your girlfriend.
 
MoLiEG
My girlfriend's depression issues are starting to get out of control.

2 times this week she has said she feels that "the world would be much better without her" and that she has been considering "giving up"...

:(

After all these horrible months, I finally understand why she was always mad about everything, about me, about life, about her job, why we would end up fighting about stupid things... her anxiety and depression issues are taking control of her life and she is losing the fight :(

How can I help her guys? We've already talked about going to the doctor, but I fear it could be to late, what if she... pulls the trigger and she "gives up"? :(
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Wow man. First definitely stick with her through this tough time. As @rono_thomas said, a doctor definitely needs to be involved and perhaps a counselor would help her as well. Doctors can prescribe anti-depressants that may be able to help her, but simply standing by will not fix a thing. My wife never really suffers from sever depression, so I can't really understand what you're going through personally, but I can imagine to be very difficult.
 
Those phrases, those sentences she has been saying are what are killing me :( I'm terrified...

We really, really need to go to the doctor now :( I won't be able to live with myself I something happens to her :(

Thanks for the kind words guys @PureAlpha1206 , @rono_thomas ,I'm also suffering like I've never suffered before, it's no longer a matter of saving a relationship, it's about saving a life :( I love her sooooo much and I'll do anything in my power to do so.
 
MoLiEG
I'm also suffering like I've never suffered before, it's no longer a matter of saving a relationship, it's about saving a life :( I love her sooooo much and I'll do anything in my power to do so.
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These very words here are exactly what you need to hang on to. Obviously (and I am in no way putting her down so don't take it that way), your girlfriend has something going on that NEEDS to be checked out and assessed, and it needs to be done before it's too late and I don't need to go in detail for all the possible outcomes.

Just another tip, she might be very sensitive to the subject or in denial. That happens a lot with people with severe depression.

Also, I don't know your personal situation, nor do I need too, but keep in mind please that money means nothing as long as it means keeping your loved ones healthy and safe. I think you definitely need to get her in somewhere regardless of cost. It can always be paid down later... but you only have one chance to save her life.
 
PureAlpha1206
These very words here are exactly what you need to hang on to. Obviously (and I am in no way putting her down so don't take it that way), your girlfriend has something going on that NEEDS to be checked out and assessed, and it needs to be done before it's too late and I don't need to go in detail for all the possible outcomes.

Just another tip, she might be very sensitive to the subject or in denial. That happens a lot with people with severe depression.

Also, I don't know your personal situation, nor do I need too, but keep in mind please that money means nothing as long as it means keeping your loved ones healthy and safe. I think you definitely need to get her in somewhere regardless of cost. It can always be paid down later... but you only have one chance to save her life.
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Funny is, 2 days ago I decided I was going to get a bank loan to pay for some things, including her engagement ring (I proposed to her on october) :(

Yeah, I just don't want to think about the outcomes, those 2 sentences will forever haunt my mind. I need to help her, I need to be with her and be strong for the 2 of us. :( I have to save the love of my life :(
 
MoLiEG
Funny is, 2 days ago I decided I was going to get a bank loan to pay for some things, including her engagement ring (I proposed to her on october) :(

Yeah, I just don't want to think about the outcomes, those 2 sentences will forever haunt my mind. I need to help her, I need to be with her and be strong for the 2 of us. :( I have to save the love of my life :(
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Do keep us updated. I'm also here if you want to talk about it just shoot me a PM. I know going through things like this is really tough and I also know it really helps to be able to talk to someone. I really wish you both the best and I hope your girlfriend (soon to be fiance???) gets better soon.
 
PureAlpha1206
Do keep us updated. I'm also here if you want to talk about it just shoot me a PM. I know going through things like this is really tough and I also know it really helps to be able to talk to someone. I really wish you both the best and I hope your girlfriend (soon to be fiance???) gets better soon.
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We are already engaged. Proposed her on October :( best day of our lives. Thanks for the kind words :( Will keep you updated as much as I can. I'm talking to her as we speak via Skype.
 
MoLiEG
We are already engaged. Proposed her on October :( best day of our lives. Thanks for the kind words :( Will keep you updated as much as I can. I'm talking to her as we speak via Skype.
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Well congratulations on that bud. You seem like you both are really good for each other. Just both stay strong and you'll fight through it :)
 
PureAlpha1206
Well congratulations on that bud. You seem like you both are really good for each other. Just both stay strong and you'll fight through it :)
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Thanks a lot bro.

Still talking to her :( I'm still terrified... I've read so many things this morning about what she might have or might be experiencing... :( I'm ultra scared
 
MoLiEG
My girlfriend's depression issues are starting to get out of control.

2 times this week she has said she feels that "the world would be much better without her" and that she has been considering "giving up"...

:(

After all these horrible months, I finally understand why she was always mad about everything, about me, about life, about her job, why we would end up fighting about stupid things... her anxiety and depression issues are taking control of her life and she is losing the fight :(

How can I help her guys? We've already talked about going to the doctor, but I fear it could be to late, what if she... pulls the trigger and she "gives up"? :(
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Hope your girlfriend is better. And boy i think that reminds me of someone......
 
PureAlpha1206
I quickly looked through this article here, but I suggest you give it a read. It will help you to know what to do and what not to do with people who suffer from depression.

http://www.helpguide.org/articles/depression/helping-a-depressed-person.htm
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Just gave it a go. Thanks. Lots of useful information, fortunately I'm doing things fine.

FrzGT
Hope your girlfriend is better. And boy i think that reminds me of someone......
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Sadly she's not :( talked to her 2 times in the afternoon via phone :( she is crushed, completely crushed. I hope I can still do something to save and help her :(
 
My experiences of depression are not my own, however although I cant recall who said the following, it certainly rings true to me:
Depression is like a bad houseguest: it doesnt tell you when it is arriving, nor how long it is staying, nor does it have the decency to tell you when it is leaving.

Seek professional help. They are totally non judgemental and can listen better than even a best friend ever could.
 
If any of you guys are still ****ed up and haven't gotten help, just do it. What are you waiting for? Swallow your pride and try something. Best decision I've made lately and I should have done this years ago
 
@MoLiEG Find the external factor also. Could be harrasment, bullying, death threats, etc.

Not being selfish. But i do have received those sometimes. More younger more frequent.
 
FrzGT
@MoLiEG Find the external factor also. Could be harrasment, bullying, death threats, etc.

Not being selfish. But i do have received those sometimes. More younger more frequent.
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He grandparents.

That might be one of the reasons.

Several years ago, her grandfather revealed her she had another wife, another family, and even more, he revealed he wasn't even sure if he and her grandmother were her granparents...

She has mentioned several times she has suffered a lot of conflict because of that. That might be one of the reasons of her depression.
 
This has been bugging me for a long time as I feel like I'm the only one who isn't suffering from depression.

Everyone around me seems to be down lately and even people I look up to online actually have depression issues, especially Youtubers and GTPers or at the very least show a lot of signs of it or Anxiety.

It actually scares me if this problem with keep growing to the point it'll be too dangerous to do anything about it.
 
Dan
What do you mean?
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Depression has becoming more of a problem than before, the bad part is what if soon there is too many to be helped by peers and doctors.
 
RESHIRAM5
Depression has becoming more of a problem than before, the bad part is what if soon there is too many to be helped by peers and doctors.
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I don't think it will ever come to that point. Maybe you just notice people with depression more than people without it.
 
RESHIRAM5
This has been bugging me for a long time as I feel like I'm the only one who isn't suffering from depression.

Everyone around me seems to be down lately and even people I look up to online actually have depression issues, especially Youtubers and GTPers or at the very least show a lot of signs of it or Anxiety.

It actually scares me if this problem with keep growing to the point it'll be too dangerous to do anything about it.
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Many depressions and depression related problems, such as paranoia, psychoses, phobia, anxiety attacks, can actually be avoided. The Western way of living is partially to blame.

Don't worry about it becoming a problem. If life goes on like we know it, medical science will come up with medical solutions to help people with depression.
 
RESHIRAM5
Depression has becoming more of a problem than before, the bad part is what if soon there is too many to be helped by peers and doctors.
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Depression causing factors are becoming more prevalent in modern society, and people are being exposed to such factors from a much younger age, so the problem is only going to get worse in my opinion. As for there being too many to help, that probably depends more on your regional/national healthcare system than the shear weight of cases, but I've never felt the public healthcare system in the UK has really been effective at combating depression or anxiety.
 

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