Falling in love...

[Zrow]

...won't last more than a year, apparently.

Read this.

Pretty interesting, and may provide insight as to why some relationships go sour after a short period of time.

Discuss!

 

[Dave A]

I don't much agree with that. Hang on, I've been with Charlotte now, just over a year... Oh dear . No I have to say, I don't agree with that from my experience anyway.

 

[Kylehnat]

Yeah, whatever

 

[Delirious]

i havnt read the article, but i must throw this in

Love is not a feeling, but a commitment made. It also matters on how strong that commitment is.

 

[Omnis]

i havnt read the article, but i must throw this in

Love is not a feeling, but a commitment made. It also matters on how strong that commitment is.

Correct.




Because, Warcraft is a feeling.

 

[HondaRacer]

Correct.




Because, Warcraft is a feeling.

Hahaha.

 

[DQuaN]

errrm. I'm not gonna get the chance


I fell in love with a girl, and she fell in love with me. But before it happened, she had organised that she would go to Asia for 6 Months.

She leaves March 1st. And i am sure it will be the worst day of my life. But i will stay faithfull for that time, because i am head over heals.


What a great feeling this is right now

 

[Gil]

That article is rubbish.
It is designed to make you get nervous after a year, and move on to someone new.
It's the "escape hatch"
What about those people that are "just friends" for a long period of time, then they "discover" that they may be "made for each other"?
How does the NGF work then?

 

[Kylehnat]

How does marriage work if the love is gone after one year?

 

[Jedi2016]

It's BS.. They'd have a hard time explaining how I can still be in love with someone I haven't even seen in more than five years. Yeah, the relationship is long since over, but the feeling is still there, just as strongly as it ever was.

Ever heard the phrase "True love never dies"? It's quite accurate, you know. Once you love someone, I mean really love them, you can never not love them from that point on.

 

[Raghavan]

I think if you truly love someone, you won't break up with them. If this BS article was true, you'd be seeing divorces left and right.

 

[McLaren]

That article is rubbish.
It is designed to make you get nervous after a year, and move on to someone new.
It's the "escape hatch"
What about those people that are "just friends" for a long period of time, then they "discover" that they may be "made for each other"?
How does the NGF work then?

You just described what may be happening to me and a girl right now.

 

[MagpieRacer]

Same here.

 

[VIPFREAK]

I stopped trying to figure any of this out. I'm not wasting my time. Especially in the case of my friend's and I the other night where this Ho... not even the good looking was clearly trolling at the bar near us just to make herself feel better. **** that.

 

[Plague.Ghost]

There's also a hormone released in the body shortly after one falls in love. I forget the name of it, but it literally drugs you and makes you feel dumb and in love. Apparently, after a couple of years, your body builds an immunity to it, which is also another reason why people break up after a common amount of time.

 

[Omnis]

Oh, that's just called APM.

 

[Diego440]

She leaves March 1st. And i am sure it will be the worst day of my life. But i will stay faithfull for that time, because i am head over heals.

I'll give you one word of advice: DON'T

If Murphy's law take seffect (as it most likely will), you'll get several chances to hook up with very good-looking women... and in a few years, when/if you break up with this girl your are with right now, you'll be cursing yourself for the fact that you let the chance slip for "staying faithful"... and even if you do marry her, in the future you'll wonder what it would've felt like to hook up with those girls from the first part of the paragraph...

I've been married for almost two years (Dec. 27th is the 2-year mark) and I'm very happy. However, before my wife was my girlfriend, I spent six years with another girl, and when I was in college in the US and she was in Venezuela, I stayed faithful for the first couple of years, but I had many chances to be unfaithful... as time passed, and I eventually broke up with her (or she broke up with me, rather) I was very pissed I lost the chances to hook up with other girls, even when given the opportunity. And yes, when I was single in college I did hook up.

So... in short, take every chance you get, because you never know how long it'll be 'til next time

 

[niky]

The article doesn't indicate that people fall out of love after a year, it just says the Nerve Growth Factor levels associated with romantic love or infatuational love recede after a year.

It's possible not to be goo-goo eye infatuated with a person after a year and still be in love with them, but only if you use that year to build a relationship more meaningful than "love at first sight".

I've been with the same girl for eleven years. I'm not ga-ga goo-goo wowee in love with her anymore, but I still love her and respect her.

 

[crimson_menace]

Agreed w/ #17...

'Tis only a commitment issue.

I'm only 20, and me & the Pickle (petname for g/f) have been in that four-letter-mushy-word, and not fading any since day 1 way back in 2003.

Do the math:

That'd be 25% of my entire lifespan.

It's not that the chemical thing dissapates the quality of a relationship, it's the persons involved in it.



Edit:

I'm not retarded. We've been together since 2001.

Sorry for the confusion. I'm so stoopit...

 

[Touring Mars]

I'll give you one word of advice: DON'T

If Murphy's law take seffect (as it most likely will), you'll get several chances to hook up with very good-looking women... and in a few years, when/if you break up with this girl your are with right now, you'll be cursing yourself for the fact that you let the chance slip for "staying faithful"... and even if you do marry her, in the future you'll wonder what it would've felt like to hook up with those girls from the first part of the paragraph...

I disagree... why would you feel the need to pull someone if you are already in love?? Seems to be missing the point somewhat...

So... in short, take every chance you get, because you never know how long it'll be 'til next time

Quality means everything, quantity means nothing... A successful relationship is one that you enjoy(ed) and the experience is something that you will always have, whether you stay together or not. One sign that you're in a successful relationship is that you don't even consider going out with anyone else. I say stick to what you feel is right....

 

[Diego440]

'tis a matter of opinions... how do you know the girl you're with is the best if you haven't tried with others? And I don't mean only mushy mushy love, sex is also involved... My theory is that before settling down and getting married, you have to try everything at least once. It makes little sense to stay faithful and miss out on some chances when you're about 20 years old if you don't plan on getting married for another 8-10 years.

I stayed faithful to my girlfriend while I was in college, but after two years we decided to call it quits, because we were both waiting for each other all year long and missing out n many chances. Since we broke up I had my next g/f about 3 years later, but in between I had many "friends", and I tell you I learned a lot from those experiences. Brazilian, Nigerian, Mexican, French, German, British, Japanese... hey, I was in charge of international student orientation

I say stick to what you feel is right....

When the time is right... no sense sticking with someone so early in your life... and how old is Dquan? My guess is less than 25. And I see little sense (maybe I'm too modern) in getting married before 25.

 

[Magic069]

I tend to agree both sides here.

How is this possible? That is the question I continuely ask myself.

I fell in love at the young age of 18. I stayed with that girl until the age of 22. I felt that our feelings became to strong for one another, and that we weren't ready to be married yet. We seperated, and now I lives have taken us in different directions. We still are semi-close, but no where near as before.

Now, having said that... Postives and negatives have come from the expereince. We both have matured far more then we were when we first seperated. We both have expereinced different aspects in life, and new problems only faced by allowing other people to influence them. We have also have been allowed the time to focus on our own lives, instead of being concerned about what the "wife" thought, while still being in our young twenties.

The bad. She has been the only person I have truely loved. I can also honestly say I still am in love with her. So that brings sadness to me when I think about how we were and how we are now. I continue to live, date, and progress, but I am always wondering if we will ever get back together.

So I really have no advice. I think it is different for everyone, and you really need to step outside that box you call everyday life and look at the big picture. Which can be hard. You need to do what is right for you, and then stick to it no matter what comes up in the near or distant future.

As for the article. The very thought of this girl still sends my blood boiling. Since I am now 26 pushing 27. I think the 1 year thing goes out the window in my case. 27-18=9 years.

 

[SRV2LOW4ME]

I believe it. I'm coming up on my 1 year with my girlfriend right now, but I was ready to strangle her and throw her off the balcony about 5 months ago. lol

 

[Ram-Rod]

I did not read it, I've been in it for over a year.

 

[Dave A]

I bumped in an old friend shal we say not too long ago, I use to like her a lot, we never wen't out cos neither of us were ever single at the same time while we knew eachother but I definitely still have feelings for her. I would definitely not advise people to not stay loyal though. Sure some people may have the "treat women like sweets in a candy shop" approach but imagine it being the other way round, you wouldn't be happy about it, and if it's happened I bet you WERN'T happy about it. So does that mean you should start doing it yourself.

 

[Zrow]

I apologize, the title of the thread is deceiving.

The article isn't saying you can't stay in love for more than a year; it just basically says that the "butterflys in your stomach" feeling that you get when you initially fall in love lasts only about a year due to a reduced NGF molecule count in your blood that triggers these feelings.

 

[Dave A]

Yeah, but I still get it. I got it last weekend hen I took her away, we've been together for over a year now. I got when I bumped into Emily and old friend of mine who I used to have feelings for. I don't agree ith the accuracy of that article.

 

[TheCracker]

... Sure some people may have the "treat women like sweets in a candy shop" approach but imagine it being the other way roun,...

You mean you treat sweets in a candy shop like you treat women?

- you wine them & dine them?

- have you ever had a menage et trois with a sherbet dib dab and an opel fruit?

 

[Diego440]

You mean you treat sweets in a candy shop like you treat women?

- you wine them & dine them?

- have you ever had a menage et trois with a sherbet dib dab and an opel fruit?

I will never have clean thoughts whenever I see a woman with a lollipop

 

[Omnis]

...Dilly Bars.