Na Changed

[sicbeing]

NA CHANGED

 

[DQuaN]

I think. At least she had the honesty to tell you. Which is more than I can say about some people (Katy) BIAATCHH!!!!!!!. Excuse me, knee jerk reaction.

Can't really tell you what to do. Sure it'll hurt like hell, but you gotta follow your heart. Do you want to forgive her? Can you? Would you be happier seeing other people or would you like to make it work?

Long distance relationships are always hard.

Do what you think is best.

Good luck 👍

 

[Pupik]

First up, being drunk doesn't excuse anything. Getting drunk is a personal choice, but the minute it involves other people, the onus is on you to act responsibly.

In the future, stick to your convictions; don't cheat. However, one-night stands and empty relationships without emotional attachments don't count as cheating.

Lastly, find a new line of girlfirends, stop test driving at the same dealership. If one can get away with treating you crappy, then the other one can step right in and do the same without much justification.

 

[MagpieRacer]

i agree with Dquan, you gotta follow your heart, do you love her enough to give her a second chance? can you trust her not too do it again?

 

[sicbeing]

NA

 

[Joey D]

First up, being drunk doesn't excuse anything.

Damn it!

But anyways I wouldn't worry to much about it, you are young. Wait a few months and you'll have another girl. Pupik makes a good point, scout around there are a ton of nice girls out there waiting to be found. You have plenty of time.

Although I'm one to talk, I've dated the same girl for....uhhh damn I really should know this but it's close to 3 years or 4 maybe. Errr I don't know all I know is our "anniversery" or whatever she calls it is June 8th. She's a great girl and I plan on getting engaged to her very soon, I just have to go pick out the damn ring.

 

[Touring Mars]

Anyway, what do you guys think i should do?

It's difficult when you're living far apart, but although it's not nice to hear, you're probably better off without her...

Relationships are not only about trusting each other, they are also about trusting yourself... if she can't trust her love for you enough to be faithful to you, then you should move on and leave her to work it out... cheating is symptomatic of an inherit dissatisfaction with your own relationship, even if that dissatisfaction is merely the fact that you are apart... many a good realtionship has ended because you simply cannot spend time together... but the worst thing you can do is to compensate by seeing other people.

If I were in your shoes, I'd move on...

edit: by breaking up, you have carte blanche to move on and start a new relationship with a solid foundation... ex-relationships that fester on are only a hinderance (god, do I sound cynical or what?)

 

[DemonSeed]

she is really sorry and feels bad for doing that. she wouldnt tell you if it was other way. you mean a lot to her then.

being drunk is an excuse. when you drink you dont plan to shag a random stranger, puke on your mommas carpet and sleep on the street. but it sometimes happens. and afterwards you feel like a proper idiot and you are sorry. until next time you get drunk

as they said, follow your heart. but from experience i can tell you, you will have a long hard road to go if you decide to stay with her. give it a try if you feel she's worth it.

 

[VIPFREAK]

I think. At least she had the honesty to tell you. Which is more than I can say about some people (Katy) BIAATCHH!!!!!!!. Excuse me, knee jerk reaction.

I'm sorry dood... umm... I mean mate, that was just too damn hilarious! Can you call me and say that?

I think. At least she had the honesty to tell you. Which is more than I can say about some people (Katy) BIAATCHH!!!!!!!. Excuse me, knee jerk reaction.

Can't really tell you what to do. Sure it'll hurt like hell, but you gotta follow your heart. Do you want to forgive her? Can you? Would you be happier seeing other people or would you like to make it work?

Long distance relationships are always hard.

Do what you think is best.

Good luck 👍

I'd definitely agree. This might sound stupid but listen to the Baz Lurman - Sunscreen song, I really think the advice in it is valid.

Good luck to you.

 

[sicbeing]

NA

 

[DemonSeed]

good man. best of luck to you both.

 

[DQuaN]

Good luck 👍

 

[sicbeing]

NA

 

[full_wick]

Good job sic. There are no hard and fast rules for relationships and, hundreds of years of romantic fiction not withstanding, NOBODY knows what they are talking about because we are all just making it up as we go along. If there's anything that even aproaches a hard and fast rule, though, it is this: talk it out. And that's what you've decided to do. If you can work through this it might even end up being something very good in the long run, that is to say, you both know that even if you screw up very badly (and if the relationship lasts long enough, you both will at some point) you can be honest with the other person and say, "I screwed up, I'm sorry," and work through it.

 

[sicbeing]

NA

 

[smellysocks12]

Once a cheater, always a cheater.




Being drunk definitely isn't an excuse, I've been there before and I was aware of everything I did... except for the one time I blacked out, but I couldn't have done anything that was worth remembering while blacked out anyway.

I doubt it will work out again in the future, you might forgive her, but not forget, so every time you get angry you will yell something like "You cheated on me"... which isn't a great thing in a relationship. If you think giving it another try is worth it, go ahead, but if it happens again you better smack that hoe to say it in 50 cent language.

 

[xcsti]

Good job sic. There are no hard and fast rules for relationships and, hundreds of years of romantic fiction not withstanding, NOBODY knows what they are talking about because we are all just making it up as we go along. If there's anything that even aproaches a hard and fast rule, though, it is this: talk it out. And that's what you've decided to do. If you can work through this it might even end up being something very good in the long run, that is to say, you both know that even if you screw up very badly (and if the relationship lasts long enough, you both will at some point) you can be honest with the other person and say, "I screwed up, I'm sorry," and work through it.

^^^real good advice full wick^^^

Hope it all works out for you sic.

 

[Touring Mars]

i called her back on my lunch break, we plan on getting back together, im going to her house this weekend to talk to her about it. we already did a lot of talking already.

i agree that when u ARENT drunk and u cheat it can most possibly mean they dislike their relationship, but i can tell from my heart and hers that she still wants to be with me and no one else. I told her i want 100% honesty and not to dick me around and i asked her if she wants anyone else, if she ever wanted to date anyone else, if shes ever been remotly attracted to anyone else. She said no. She doesnt know why she did it and really really regrets it. I cant imagine being with anyone else either, we are so good for each other. She told me and confessed bc she loved me so much and she cant hide things from me, not once during our whole relationship has she ever lied to me about anything.

Im still pissed that she did, but im going to get over it, and ill see where i go from there. I told her that if she ever felt the need to do it again or if she likes someone else, to just dump me, i told her to grow some balls and just do it if she ever wanted to and not keep me on an unhappy string.

Good luck, it really sounds like you're approaching the whole situation in a very sensible way... 👍 You've made your position clear, and that's the very best thing you can do... I hope it works out for you both...