The General Relationship Thread

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I've never been in a relationship. I'm not a bad looking guy at all, I just lack initiative. Plus, I generally keep to myself. I've talked to girls and asked some of them out but have never been on an actual date. Part of the problem might be my selectiveness when it comes to women... I watched too much Seinfeld as a kid and may have adopted Jerry's attitude toward them.

Would I like a girlfriend? Yes, but getting one has never been a real priority for me. The one thing that bothers me is looking back at my life in high school and thinking I missed out on something... one day, I suppose.
 
Okay so it's been a long time since I posted here and a lot has changed in that time frame.

For those who don't remember, I had a crush on a girl. That was last year in middle school. After I asked her to the semi formal dance and she declined I just sort of have up. To be honest, it was a horrible idea compared to what's happening now.

Now freshman year of high school, there's this girl who I've known for awhile but I never thought of as a girl that I could get in a relationship with because she had a boyfriend. But over the summer they broke up (which is surprising because they've been together since elementary school). So now I've started to see her in a different light. And I personally think she's perfect. Looks great, really smart, talented, extremely nice, etc. I doubt I'll ever meet anyone similar to her again.

She's in a bunch of the same classes as me including accelerated math (higher than honors level), French, geometry, history, and a few studies. I've been talking to her every day during and in between classes. Her smile is always the high point of my day lately.

But a lot of other guys also like her. It's actually pretty hilarious how obvious they are. Then again, I'm probably one of them.

A while ago, I asked her if she wanted to go see Interstellar with me but she declined because she was busy with after school stuff and other things.

Since then, I've still been taking to her everyday and can definitely say with 100% confidence that she enjoys my company. Today (or should I say yesterday considering the time), we had a study together. As we waked there I asked if she wanted to do homework together. She said sure. After half the period we got all our stuff done. We talked about stuff such as life and things. Probably one of the best studies I've ever had. Her smile and laugh could make anyone's heart melt.

I'm not sure if she knows whether or not she knows that I like her. There's a lot of guys who always talk to her so I'm probably just another one of them to her.

Sadly for me, I'm most likely moving away next year (family reasons). I've already told her a while ago, around the time I first heard the news. I've been wondering if I should continue going for her or just let give up. I know long distance is a bad idea, but it's not bad to try at least right? I know this'll probably be a mistake but it'll be a mistake worth having.
 
@ProjectWHaT did they seperate for good, or one bad fight and just a time out?

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So in the beginning of this school year I met a guy and a girl. The guy turned out to be an a-hole so I'm not hanging out with him.

The girl is the Italian-Quebec chick I talked about in this thread. When I made a joke about her father being loud, being a Napoletano, she told me her parents used to get into fights, divorce, etc. *enter awkward seal meme here*

Now, over the past couple of months, we got to know each other a bit more and we would hang out every once in a while.

I'd walk her to the bus or any other destination. Sometimes drive her.

However one thing is really pissing me off: she goes out of her way to avoid me.

I mean WTF?!

Here you are being all nice, arranging meetings and get-togethers, and suddenly you start darting across hallways??

I saw her two times during exams. She was in the front rows both times so she couldn't really avoid me. The first time I gave her a high five and wished her luck.

The second time I ignored her, or pretended like I didn't see her. Why? Because when we were waiting to enter, I saw her walk towards me. I looked in her general direction but didn't make eye contact. She pulles her hoody even further up and shimmies through the crowd.

Are you kidding me?! The hell kind of behavior is this?!

Don't get me wrong, I'm just a friend, I have NO interest in her whatsoever. It's just the behavior that pisses me off.

If you don't want to be a friend, say I don't want to. I'm a straightforward kinda guy. If you cross a line, I'll cuss you out, bid you farewell and be on my way.

I just don't understand. PLUS she already has a boyfriend. So what the hell is the point in all that?
 
What did she say when you told her about the move ? @ProjectWHaT

@Team THRT Drift don't bother thinking about what made her avoid you. Just ignore her more. Let's see how she likes that. A person like that shouldn't be a friend if that's the attitude.
 
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@GTboyz that ship has sailed mate. She's long gone out of my way to success I have a class with her next semester. I'll see if I can replace it. Stupid ass class anyway. Computer Fundamentals.... are you kidding me?!

First sentence of the first page:

"How to login."

Oh hell naw!! I hate these 'advisers'; they have a quota they need to reach for each class.

I have a small niche of friends mainly Colombian. Pretty chill and reliable guys. 'La Familia' :lol:

All the 'Italians' give me nasty looks for hanging out with Colombians and other races... 🤬 you, you bigot!

:lol: they think they're Italian. Parents from Reggio di Calabria, and they can't speak a word of Italian. Call themselves Italian.... if you're from Reggio di Calabria, you're either Greek, or Albanian. Period. You're not Italian.... damn terrone.

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Latvija27
I liked her more than all the other girls who have ever been in My life I think it has something to do with the eyes. "The eyes are the window to the soul" She has very nice blue eyes I can just look into It's like a connection you can't understand it logically. It's not a thing or matter of the brain and I don't blend the head and the heart. I was truly attracted to her it is very rarely that I ever get this attracted to a girl she wasn't a supermodel or the most beautiful I know she was beautiful to because of how attractive she is to Me. The attraction is like something you feel in the inside of you and it's not like a choice it's something you have or don't have. The day after the last time I saw her felt like a funereal. It doesn't matter where she is I unconditionally love her and forgive her !
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I like the way she smiles and grins at me. She never says much and never argues with me.
 
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@ProjectWHaT did they seperate for good, or one bad fight and just a time out?
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I'm pretty sure they did. They haven't been talking to each other. Also I asked her about it a while ago and she said he sort of just said I'm not interested anymore or something similar to that. I think she still likes him a bit.

GTboyz
What did she say when you told her about the move ? @ProjectWHaT
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I told her before I started to have feelings for her. She said something like aw that sucks, we're going to miss you. She's really nice and sympathetic to everyone.
 
ProjectWHaT
Okay so it's been a long time since I posted here and a lot has changed in that time frame.

For those who don't remember, I had a crush on a girl. That was last year in middle school. After I asked her to the semi formal dance and she declined I just sort of have up. To be honest, it was a horrible idea compared to what's happening now.

Now freshman year of high school, there's this girl who I've known for awhile but I never thought of as a girl that I could get in a relationship with because she had a boyfriend. But over the summer they broke up (which is surprising because they've been together since elementary school). So now I've started to see her in a different light. And I personally think she's perfect. Looks great, really smart, talented, extremely nice, etc. I doubt I'll ever meet anyone similar to her again.

She's in a bunch of the same classes as me including accelerated math (higher than honors level), French, geometry, history, and a few studies. I've been talking to her every day during and in between classes. Her smile is always the high point of my day lately.

But a lot of other guys also like her. It's actually pretty hilarious how obvious they are. Then again, I'm probably one of them.

A while ago, I asked her if she wanted to go see Interstellar with me but she declined because she was busy with after school stuff and other things.

Since then, I've still been taking to her everyday and can definitely say with 100% confidence that she enjoys my company. Today (or should I say yesterday considering the time), we had a study together. As we waked there I asked if she wanted to do homework together. She said sure. After half the period we got all our stuff done. We talked about stuff such as life and things. Probably one of the best studies I've ever had. Her smile and laugh could make anyone's heart melt.

I'm not sure if she knows whether or not she knows that I like her. There's a lot of guys who always talk to her so I'm probably just another one of them to her.

Sadly for me, I'm most likely moving away next year (family reasons). I've already told her a while ago, around the time I first heard the news. I've been wondering if I should continue going for her or just let give up. I know long distance is a bad idea, but it's not bad to try at least right? I know this'll probably be a mistake but it'll be a mistake worth having.
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Women dig humour, it's true for all women. They love men that can make them laugh because who doesn't enjoy laughing? Many, many times I've used humour to ask women out through a joke and it's been very successful. In fact, boldness and humour are the two best weapons in my arsenal and both are perfectly natural for me. Here's an example of something that worked for me it works because it's funny and because it's sort of a reverse psyschology thing for a brief minute.

You: You know, I once considered dating you, but I've changed my mind because my family are strict Catholics and I understand you are a Mormon (make sure you pick a religion that you know she is not!). It just won't work.

Her: But I'm not a Mormon.

You: Whew, well that settles that. What are you doing this Friday?

The trick is if you do it with a smile and a laugh, it doesn't matter what she says, there is no defeat. If she laughs and she will, you win. If she says yes, you really win. If she says no, she'll say you're a funny guy and you still win. It also opens the door to you making more jokes about asking her out. You can do this over and over and as long as it's funny and you laugh about it and don't make it all creepy, she'll love the attention, and love that you want her and love that you make her laugh. You may never get to date her, but she'll know without a doubt that you're interested, you'll have left nothing on the table, and you just might make a really great and true friend as a result.

If she wants to go out with you, she'll say yes. If she doesn't she'll laugh and be non-commital or tell you you're funny and there's no harm done, no one gets hurt, no hard feelings, no awkward moments. You can go home and cry into your pillow if you want but if you can't make asking her out a joyous, fun, interesting, memorable experience, why would she want to date you to begin with?

I doubt I'll ever meet anyone similar to her again.
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Trust me you will. She will always be a great highschool memory I'm sure, but later on in life you will meet women just as beautiful, just as cute and adorable, but with a depth and complexity to their personality that will make your head spin. Trust me.
 
Well, an update. I'm not sure if I posted it here or not, but back in the middle of June I was facing a dilemna; try and get somewhere with my friends sister, who'd just come out of a relationship and who I'd invited to my Leaving Cert Prom, or go after this girl 2 years younger than me that I'd just gotten talking to.

Anyway, I went for the latter option and very much fell head over heels with this girl. I'll probably get called naive etc for this, seeing as I'm 18 and she's 16, but I genuinely fell in love with her. I've had crushes before, but this was different; the attraction was there on a physical level (she was 10/10, drop dead gorgeous), but also on a personal level. I'm a fairly introverted guy, but I really felt at ease with her, and she said she felt the same with me, like we got each other kinda. She also said she'd loved other guys when she was with them, but what she felt for me was proper love. Anyway, fast or ward to October, after about 3 months of going out with each other, an we broke up. Badly. I admitted to getting bladdered at my prom and snogging some randomer, and then she hit me with confirmation that at her friends 17th she sucked off two guys. Rant ensued. War was nearly declared.

Anyway, two and bit months later and I thought I'd got over her, when I wake up to a text from herself saying "Sorry for everything, I still love you." Of course, being the emotional retard I am, that's put me back in inner turmoil; I want to move on from this girl, I want nothing to do with her ever again, but at the same time I miss her like god knows what.

Anybody on here able to help a brother in distress? :P
 
^ You know her best, so do you think that the story about her sucking two guys off is actually true? Or just some sort of retaliation, an attempt to hurt you since she was hurt herself? Would be a big factor for me.
 
Luminis
^ You know her best, so do you think that the story about her sucking two guys off is actually true? Or just some sort of retaliation, an attempt to hurt you since she was hurt herself? Would be a big factor for me.
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To be brutally honest, I had my suspicions before she told me so yeah I'm fairly sure it happened. :nervous:
 
Thimble
To be brutally honest, I had my suspicions before she told me so yeah I'm fairly sure it happened. :nervous:
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Sounds a bit skanky for a girl that age... Either way, in that case, I'd drop her. Chances are, you'd end up in a very similar situation again. Had my fair share of experiences with unfaithful exes... Still have trust issues because of that.
 


I had to go back a read about a 16 y/o girl sucking two dudes off....

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But really:

 
Luminis
Sounds a bit skanky for a girl that age... Either way, in that case, I'd drop her. Chances are, you'd end up in a very similar situation again. Had my fair share of experiences with unfaithful exes... Still have trust issues because of that.
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Yeah, that was my gut feeling, leopards don't change their spots and whatnot. Idk though, she was something special, I didn't want to throw her away but meh, if it has to be done it has to be done.
 
Thimble
Yeah, that was my gut feeling, leopards don't change their spots and whatnot. Idk though, she was something special, I didn't want to throw her away but meh, if it has to be done it has to be done.
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Hate to sound like a dick but you're 18 and she's only 16. You're both still children.
 
Luminis
^ You know her best, so do you think that the story about her sucking two guys off is actually true? Or just some sort of retaliation, an attempt to hurt you since she was hurt herself? Would be a big factor for me.
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Haven actually witnessed a girl I love more than life itself give oral sex to another man was probably one of the hardest things to watch in my life. I wouldn't wish that on anyone...
 
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Can we just move on?

I think I kinda broke a girl friend's heart when I told her I loved her like a sister... it was one of those "no no, you speak first moments" too.

Oops.
 

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