The General Relationship Thread

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From my perspective, you have two options:

1. Man up and get over it. It was a kiss.
2. If it's something you really can't get over, end the relationship. If it's something you're going to hold over her head throughout a relationship, it's not only better for your happiness to move on, but for hers as well. You told her you'd get over it, after all.

In no way am I condoning her actions, but reasonably, this is the fork in the road you're presented with.
 
Well, that's a whole different situation! I see your dilemma, but from personal experience, it's better to break up and be a bummed out for a while then spend time with a person such as the one you just described. I don't know her, but it sounds as though she can only frustrate you in the future, not make you happy.
 
Sounds like the problems young people go through. I'm young but I don't put myself through young people drama. (I don't chase women all the time):p

Seriously, just forget about it. Think of all of the people she may have kissed and how you didn't care when you met her. Break up if you think it's not going to work.
 
BubbleBelly542
Well funny that you bring up the cheating thing. This is what I'm unhappy about. She cheated on me, only a kiss so nothing major I suppose, but I told her I would get over it. But I haven't. And before when it has come up all she did was get mad that I hadn't let it go when I said I would. So that's mainly what I'm unhappy about. So I really can't tell her without breaking up with her.
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Though not to down pour on you. In my first relationship, I have been cheated on and I told her" I am always here for you but it already happened and right now I can't do anything about it." Yes, it haunts me even though we broken up ( because it felt that I wasn't going anywhere in my life not because of the cheating situation). My other relationship was that I was apparently too busy for her or I played with her feelings even if I still think about her till this day. /rantnogrammacaresweregiveninthispostbutIwilleditsoon
 
Update: I've finally been able to have a full conversation with her on Instagram (see my post a few posts above). Talked about school an homework and the huge state standardized test tomorrow. She seems really nice. I hope everything works out. :O (Meaning I finally get the guts to talk to her in real life)
 
BubbleBelly542
Well funny that you bring up the cheating thing. This is what I'm unhappy about. She cheated on me, only a kiss so nothing major I suppose, but I told her I would get over it. But I haven't. And before when it has come up all she did was get mad that I hadn't let it go when I said I would. So that's mainly what I'm unhappy about. So I really can't tell her without breaking up with her.
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You obviously can't forget about it. Which means there will forever (likely it won't last that long) be this problem in your relationship. It's probably best to end it because you feel you can't talk about it. What kind of relationship will it be if you can't communicate?
 
Need to clean myself up for a few things I have going down in San Francisco in the next few days. Starting with a haircut and some general maintenance. I have to pick up my medicine so that I can break out of the omega introverted shell that I end up in in public and with groups of people. I'm going to a small get together with a friend of mine so, that means I'm going to be drunk at the end of the day. I'm gonna try and get some things going on in the general area, connections ect at the end of the trip which will oh so happen.
 
Right guys. Need some advice.

The girl I was going out with over the Winter I still really really like, we talk quite often and I am officially completely friendzoned. If I can't go out with her I want to carry on being a friend, I don't want to block her out of my life.

This was going relatively well, I was coping. Until last week when she got a new boyfriend, he seems nice however has really chavy friends (which kinda pisses me off cause its what she said she really dislikes). We were chatting today and she was like "OMG can't wait until the summer, I get to spend most days with him in his town" his town is about 45mins away and she is 16 (I'm 18) so its not like she is moving away. However I'm kinda pissed because we were planning to spend some time together as friends (lots of cycling) however now she has completely blanked/forgotten any of that with this new guy.

When I met her I smoked, she hated it and did anything to stop me. I did stop. This guy smokes and she is like "He is refusing to stop but I'm just gonna put small hints and try and help him". I'm like WTF, with me you were like "If you don't stop you can get lost".

Grrrrrrrrr, needed that rant. She likes this guy so much, however I'm not so sure how much he actually likes her.

Any advice to just get over her a bit and just allow us to be friends happily, This stress plus exams isn't doing my metal health much good??
 
lbsf1
Any advice to just get over her a bit and just allow us to be friends happily, This stress plus exams isn't doing my metal health much good??
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Well, she's 16 and you're 18. Honestly, here in the states it's a big difference from 16 because usually when you hit 18 you go on to college and start to do things more independently. I wouldn't cut her off so soon though. Just stick around her and speak when she speaks. Give her little attention. Put into consideration that she's younger than you and is probably confused on what she wants to do. (And **** chavs)
 
lbsf1
Any advice to just get over her a bit and just allow us to be friends happily, This stress plus exams isn't doing my metal health much good??

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:lol: sorry, as a metalhead I'm obliged to do this :cheers:

On topic: Take it easy. She's 16. In my case I realized how gigantic maturity/me(n)tality gap there is between me at 16, 18, and now almost 22. As phil says, she's probably confused and not sure how to make do in relationships quite yet.
 
Madertus
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:lol: sorry, as a metalhead I'm obliged to do this :cheers:

On topic: Take it easy. She's 16. In my case I realized how gigantic maturity/me(n)tality gap there is between me at 16, 18, and now almost 22. As phil says, she's probably confused and not sure how to make do in relationships quite yet.
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Thanks for your advice both of you. I have done a bit of thinking and decided to take a break from communications with her for a bit. She knew that I still liked her so I told her honestly what I was going to do. I think if I don't speak to her for a fortnight or so then I may be able to "get over" her a little bit better and be able to be just friends without getting annoyed/upset whenever she mentions her new boyfriend.

She is really mature for a 16 year old however as you said, there are still a few differences in viewpoints simply because of age (Me going to pubs/clubs and she can't for example)
 
My girlfriend and I have been going out for almost a year, met her at a recreation center. Got lucky since she likes video games (slowly getting her into racing games). Can't wait for my schools prom. This is her last year at high school, going to be weird not seeing her as much as I do now.
 
Deleted my Ex off Facebook = best feeling in the world.

Now, I've been single for so long I'm starting to freak out. I know lots of girls but non of them stick to me and I don't really stick to them. Advice?
 
Hello guys! :)

It's been a while since I last posted here... And it's been a month since I erased my former sweetheart from my life...

Everything's slowly taking it's course... Job is fine, I'm starting to get in shape (I'm running on the treadmill 4 times a week, looking forward to return to the gym by June 1st), I'm earning a little bit more money, now I have a little more free time... and I'm felling, very , very good... very relaxed, very calm... :)

And... do you remember that other girl? The girl I asked out twice but rejected me the same 2 times back in december?... Well, we are finally going out :) I invited her to eat to a restaurant near the office, and she accepted :)

So, let's see what happens today! :D









And, on an interesting note... Yesterday we had an earthquake over here around 12pm ... Guess who send me a message to see if I was ok? I didn't answered right away of course... I answered her until 10pm...
 
RJS
Red-heads, dude..
That's my ultimate crush, and I only know 3 of them.. Coincidence or not, all of them are really cute :p

Also, good luck with that :)
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Thanks, I'm hoping is works out.

She was the one who actually first approached me and asked me out, still kind of shocked about that.
 
I need some advice. I sit beside a rather shy girl in English class. I've noticed her staring at me a few times and I usually see her playing with her hair and fidgeting. I try my best to work up my confidence to give her some kind of indication that I have a thing for her, but I'm shy too. However, I have been getting there a lot faster than I thought I would. I can't tell if she has a crush on me or likes me, but I'm hoping someone here can help me with that?

Thanks. :)
 
Johnny1996
I'm worried about saying the wrong thing or something stupid, but that would be a start after all.
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Usually when guys talk to girls they over think. Just let **** roll off the tongue. Another thing is that people tend to treat people that they like differently. Treat her as if she's every other person you talk to even though you still may like her. Works for me sometimes, but I'm not you.
 
phillkillv2
Usually when guys talk to girls they over think. Just let **** roll off the tongue. Another thing is that people tend to treat people that they like differently. Treat her as if she's every other person you talk to even though you still may like her. Works for me sometimes, but I'm not you.
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I'm not even sure where to begin. All I know about her is her name, she's a St. Louis Blues fan, and two of her friends. I'm a Penguins fan but can't hate anyone for not being a fan of my team because its just wrong. I partially know the one friend.
 
Good luck @Adamgp !!! :)👍

Johnny1996
I need some advice. I sit beside a rather shy girl in English class. I've noticed her staring at me a few times and I usually see her playing with her hair and fidgeting. I try my best to work up my confidence to give her some kind of indication that I have a thing for her, but I'm shy too. However, I have been getting there a lot faster than I thought I would. I can't tell if she has a crush on me or likes me, but I'm hoping someone here can help me with that?

Thanks. :)
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Shy girl & shy boy, terrible combination :lol: Just be yourself, have little bit of confidence and start to talk often with her. See how she reacts (corporal language). That can give you a lot of information...

And... speaking of corporal language...

Yes, I went to eat with my new crush... God. I wasn't nervous or anything... but... she is quite intimidating to me. I guess it's because she is the tallest girl I've ever met. I hardly talk face to face with someone of my height. Then add the fact that I like her and that she is very pretty... and well... you know what I mean: I couldn't find a great topic for a great chat. And I'm afraid she didn't feel comfortable with that, too...

But, it wasn't awful, I think it went ok :) All I need, is a little bit of time... 👍
 
Johnny1996
She seems to be shy around me and just me. I'm kinda the same way too.
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Go talk to her even if it's just alittle, to get things started...

And try to keep it simple so you don't say anything stupid (I always say something stupid :O)
 
Even keeping it as simple as I can I'd likely say something stupid. I think I'm really overthinking this.
 
Johnny1996
Even keeping it as simple as I can I'd likely say something stupid. I think I'm really overthinking this.
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Well first off, tell her that the Blues and everything else in St. Louis sucks. (trust me, it does.)

Dude, I know it seems easy for me to say 'forget about it' but I know you won't. Just ask if she's from St. Louis ect. ect. Ask her about.... what it's like (it's **** to me) Conversations usually turn into sub conversations about random stuff that you like and hate and so on. And you're both shy which is perfect, you'll both be equally as awkward on a date. You'll both be thinking about that stupid thing you said. And don't worry about saying "the wrong thing" because there is nothing wrong that you could say unless you say 'that shirt looks like garbage on you' or something like that.
 

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